It's hard to accept a blanket statement stating that most people are into this
knowing that the reality is quite different. There are guys out there of all different shapes and sizes that are interested in a variety of different kinds of guys, varying in all different types of shapes and sizes (you would be surprised). Unless you're chasing after Zac Efron, don't be so discouraged and narrow-minded.
Finding someone to 'settle down with' isn't the type of thing you find the instant you're ready for it. It's the type of thing that will find you when the timing is appropriate. You will go on many dead-end dates before finding one that leads into a future... and even then it's anyone's guess as to how far that future will travel. Sure, you find couples that are with their high school sweet-hearts or their first date off of eharmony.com but that sort of thing is rare. Most of us have to kiss our frogs before we find our sweet prince.
It's the sort of thing that just happens on its own and usually it happens when you're not really looking or expecting it.
It could be that you're trying too hard. It could also be that you're not trying hard enough.
Sometimes it is just a matter of being at the right place at the right time. Going to the right party or social gathering, working on the right night, going to gym at the right hour, walking through the park at the right minute, etc. As far fetched as all of these scenarios sound, I could name at least one person that has met their SO through all of them.
Again, it's tough. Sometimes you just need to marry the night, take a shot of whiskey and drink to that