Giving head

  • niceboy87

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    Jan 04, 2009 1:24 AM GMT
    So...if you're the guy giving head, is that role considered passive? Consider to a more feminine role? Kind of under the same category as being the bottom?

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    Jan 04, 2009 1:31 AM GMT
    There was absolutely NOTHING passive about the guy who I got a great BJ from last night ... he knew what he wanted, went for it, and, quite frankly, let me know he was not about to accept any resistance from me. My job was to lay back, take it, and enjoy myself.
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    Jan 04, 2009 1:35 AM GMT
    COJock1974 saidThere was absolutely NOTHING passive about the guy who I got a great BJ from last night ... he knew what he wanted, went for it, and, quite frankly, let me know he was not about to accept any resistance from me. My job was to lay back, take it, and enjoy myself.


    Thank god for guys like that.

    I really don't enjoy doing it.
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    Jan 04, 2009 2:33 AM GMT
    I love giving blowjobs. A guy's dick in my mouth feels wonderful, and I take great pride in my technique. I'm privately disappointed if a guy doesn't tell me I've just given him the best BJ in his whole life. And to brag, it's usually the case that he does.

    In fact, quite a few different guys have all said exactly the same thing, that I find telling: that I get a "cat that ate the canary" silly grin on my face after I've brought them to a shattering orgasm. It pleases me to please other men, that I have that skill & ability.

    One of my favorite things is to keep sucking after a guy comes, without stop. If a guy suddenly becomes overly sensitive, as some do, I'll naturally stop, but will try to resume as soon as he can tolerate it.

    But for those other guys, I keep right on going without pause, feeling them go soft in my mouth first, then growing hard again, and finally having a second orgasm that totally freaks them out. It's fucking fabulous!

    But none of them would ever call my passive or feminine. On the contrary, I have to constantly back off, because the most common criticism I get is that I'm too forceful, too pushy, too willful. The Army didn't repeatedly promote me all the way from Buck Private to Colonel because I'm a passive, effeminate little pansy.

    And even BJs prove I'm not passive, because I know what I want, and I insist that I get it. Unless a guy were to strongly protest, when you get into bed with me you get a BJ, whether you were wanting one or not.
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    Jan 04, 2009 6:41 AM GMT
    I'm in absolute Heaven with a guy who has been around - and knows how to do a combination of jack/suck - and then the *squeeze technique* when I get close. Some of the best guys around are the *past 40* guys - they've totally mastered this. Amazing!
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    Jan 04, 2009 7:36 AM GMT
    The more experienced/35+ years old guys give way better head. As a matter of fact I paid really close attention one guy's technique so I can give head like a pro and I'm only 20. Now I fucking love sucking dick. Tastes so goddamn good. I wish swallowing wasn't unsafe cause cumming in the mouth is the best part. It's like reward for the "job".
  • GQjock

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    Jan 04, 2009 11:34 AM GMT
    Forget the labels would ya ... and just SUCK icon_biggrin.gif

    Do what feels good for you and never mind who says what about it
    and if you think about it
    If your the one sucking dick and the "passive" role is the one with less movement supposedly then who pray tell is actually passive? icon_wink.gif
  • zakariahzol

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    Jan 04, 2009 1:47 PM GMT
    I dont give a darn, bottom or top. I love sucking dick and receiving it. Some guys have this things that your are a bottom if you are giving head. I play along as long as I got what I want. However , I like to suck a strong and hard dick only. It really frustrating to do all the hard work and the meat remain soft .
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    Jan 04, 2009 2:45 PM GMT
    zakariahzol saidHowever, I like to suck a strong and hard dick only. It really frustrating to do all the hard work and the meat remain soft.

    Very true! It surprised me when I first came out that so many guys couldn't get really hard. And it wasn't my fault, they'd admit it was the hardest they ever got, and I'd really feel bad for them. Most were in their 30s & 40s, which I didn't consider very old, being in my 40s myself and not having that problem.

    But I agree with you, sucking a softee isn't as much fun, and stroking a dick that stays limp a great disappointment. Thank gawd more guys are taking Viagra & Cialis these days, which is a blessing for both parties. Are those drugs available in Malaysia and affordable?
  • zakariahzol

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    Jan 04, 2009 3:29 PM GMT
    Red Vespa,

    Over here, there are all kinda of aprodisiac from local tradisional medicine, (plant, fishes, snake blood , root, ginseng, ...you name it) and also those western stuff like Viagra. You can also buy fake Viagra on some back alley (but becareful , some fake stuff can kill you). I personally never heard of Ciallis.

    I dont use any of them now, though I have try some in the past. I find out the best way to have a healthy sex life is to keep my blood pressure low, live a healthy lifestyle and not stress to much.
  • qalbi30

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    Jan 04, 2009 3:37 PM GMT
    There is nothing passive about giving head,when you really send your guy right into bliss and his whole body is waiting for what you will do with your tongue next you know who is in charge !

    I used to go for somebody more mature when I was young,now have found the joys of giving pleasure to lovers half my age,especially when their range of experience has been of the "wham,bam,thank you m'man" type.

    Good sex is a wonderful thing and needs thought,but not introspection .

    The more you think about what will pleasure your partner, the response that you will get when you "light his fire" will make it memorable for you.

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    Jan 04, 2009 5:45 PM GMT
    zakariahzol saidRed Vespa,

    Over here, there are all kinda of aprodisiac from local tradisional medicine, (plant, fishes, snake blood , root, ginseng, ...you name it) and also those western stuff like Viagra. You can also buy fake Viagra on some back alley (but becareful , some fake stuff can kill you). I personally never heard of Ciallis.

    I dont use any of them now, though I have try some in the past. I find out the best way to have a healthy sex life is to keep my blood pressure low, live a healthy lifestyle and not stress to much.

    Cialis is longer-acting than Viagra, for up to 36 hours. You don't stay hard that whole time, but you're more able to get erections when otherwise aroused during that time span. It's big advantage is that a man doesn't have to estimate when he's likely to have sex so he can take a pill, and then wait 15 or more minutes for the results.
    http://www.cialis.com/index.jsp

    I agree, it's better to treat the causes of ED than the symptoms alone.
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    Jan 04, 2009 5:53 PM GMT
    qalbi30 saidThere is nothing passive about giving head,when you really send your guy right into bliss and his whole body is waiting for what you will do with your tongue next you know who is in charge !

    I used to go for somebody more mature when I was young,now have found the joys of giving pleasure to lovers half my age,especially when their range of experience has been of the "wham,bam,thank you m'man" type...


    I mostly stick to my own age, but will still find guys who've never had a decent blowjob. I agree, there's nothing better than being the first one to show a guy what a real BJ is all about. And then providing him earnest vocal feedback as he practices those newly-learned skills on your own dick.
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  • Timbales

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    Jan 04, 2009 11:41 PM GMT
    I think coaching person would be better. icon_wink.gif
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    Jan 05, 2009 12:11 AM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor saidThat said,,, if you are on all 4's on the bed and blowing me while wearing a leash and I am calling you BOY while skull fucking you,,, well then,,, that's a HORSE of a different color Dorothy!icon_eek.gif

    *coughs*
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    Jan 05, 2009 12:30 AM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor said
    That said,,, if you are on all 4's on the bed and blowing me while wearing a leash and I am calling you BOY while skull fucking you,,, well then,,, that's a HORSE of a different color Dorothy!.


    would there be someone on the other end as well? icon_twisted.gif
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    Jan 05, 2009 1:40 AM GMT
    sorry, got a slight gag reflex here icon_sad.gif
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    Jan 05, 2009 2:21 AM GMT
    Gaymedes saidsorry, got a slight gag reflex here icon_sad.gif

    I don't icon_biggrin.gif TDNG can I be the leashed one too... I promise I'll play my role good and proper!
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    Jan 05, 2009 3:17 AM GMT
    Be sure to get video guys. lol.
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    Jan 05, 2009 6:08 AM GMT
    GwgTrunks saidBe sure to get video guys. lol.
    definitely want a "how to" video...I need the teaching aid!
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    Jan 05, 2009 5:22 PM GMT
    [quote][cite]niceboy87 said[/cite]So...if you're the guy giving head, is that role considered passive? Consider to a more feminine role? Kind of under the same category as being the bottom?

    i like tomeet you like bottom and have good sex safe
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    Jan 05, 2009 5:26 PM GMT
    Gaymedes saidsorry, got a slight gag reflex here icon_sad.gif

    I did with the bigger ones at first, too, and also if a guy really unloads a lot in my mouth. But practice makes perfect... icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 05, 2009 5:59 PM GMT
    not passive. just the same as eating a girls cunt. it's all good.
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    Jan 05, 2009 6:20 PM GMT
    rileydude88 saidnot passive. just the same as eating a girls cunt. it's all good.

    What's the emoticon for "throwing up"?
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    Jan 05, 2009 6:48 PM GMT
    Consider this...is a hetero man who "eats out" his female counterpart being submissive/passive? I think not. Just because I get down on my knees and slurp all over your tool does not mean I'm your bitch...




    ...ok, well maybe for the night. icon_twisted.gif