Youngun saidI'm in my early 20s and these are a lot of the issues I face dating other guys my age.
-a lot of guys are still coming out or DL
-guys are still trying to figure themselves out and what they want
-they're busy with school & working at the same time
-a lot of guys just want to fuck
- Not many guys are still "coming out" or DL in their 30s?
- Do guys ever figure out exactly what they want?
- Guys aren't busy in their 30s with their careers, home improvement projects or other engagements?
- Not many men in their 30s just want to fuck?
Perfectly legitimate issues to be going through, but they don't sound age specific to me. Maybe I'm wrong.
However, I'm inclined to agree that there is a lot of maturing that goes on throughout your 20s; eventually, you phase out of the "young, wild and free" mentality and you're forced to get your shit together (or find a sugar daddy).
Sounds like you're right in some ways but it also sounds like there are other challenges that present themselves in dating into your 30s. I'm 26 and this seems like the prime time to snatch somebody up - post slutty-college years when you're starting to mellow out and figure out what comes next in life.
I'm about to turn 32 and I have way more sex than I did when I was in my 20s. And I find a lot of guys my age that just want to fuck. Guys are guys; they always wanna fuck. I still encounter guys in their mid and late 30s who are still coming to terms with their sexuality. (Can you say, "bottom shame?") As we live longer and our economy plummets, one age group drops to the next bracket. 30 is the new 20 and, with enough botox, 50 is the new 30. Guys still don't know what they want; they're not financially independent; they went back to school, or worse, just stayed in school because they couldn't find a job; they have insurmountable mountains of debt; and they still think Prada loafers are a better investment than a lump-sum payment on the principle. Even for those on the grind, they're climbing the corporate ladder or just breaking in with a creative field or start-up, all the while cultivating professional and post-collegiate friendships. Many young gay professionals aren't thinking about some arm candy. And who has their own place in a major city nowadays? Hell, I fuck with abandon while my shared-wall roommate is on the phone with abuela. #NoShame #HiAbuela. I date guys in their 40s who are still figuring their lives out. (BTW, when you think it's figured out; there's a curveball. And when it actually is figured out, you're dying.) Though there are milestones that come with age and experience, it's not like they are set in stone.
Ultimately, you're searching for someone you're compatible with. What that means in your 20s, 30s, 40s, 50s, 60s, etc changes as you develop. How you find that person changes. What you're attracted to changes. Dating isn't done in a lab with controls. Things might be better as you get older because other factors change your dating pool and overall environment. There's a spontaneity and recklessness in your youth that gets tempered as you age. 30s can be a time of confidence and decisiveness that makes you more discerning about who you date. This could be good, or it could be bad if you're not willing to take chances. Is dating better in your 30s, I don't know. It's definitely different. Is the sex better? DEFINITELY! #DirtyThirties