Question for pet owners

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    May 15, 2014 8:01 PM GMT
    In the British media there was a survey done and apparently 10 percent of pet owners would choose their pet over their boyfriend or girlfriend if they had to choose one or the other. An example in the press was if your partner was allergic to pets and said it's me or the dog/cat.

    Who would you choose?

    1 in 10 Brits chose/would choose their pets.
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    May 16, 2014 2:57 PM GMT
    my dog is my baby girl
  • Destinharbor

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    May 16, 2014 3:01 PM GMT
    If he didn't like dogs, he'd never make it in the door. If he was allergic, he'd have to get desensitizing medical help. I realize this isn't what you're asking, but the truth is I could never not have a dog. My partner wasn't a dog guy when we met but once he discovered what dogs are about, he became a lover...
  • MikeW

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    May 16, 2014 3:07 PM GMT
    Some people have pets the way the have house plants, that is, with little attachment. I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with such a person! icon_eek.gif A loved pet IS a relationship and how that relationship is going suggests a lot about what a relationship with that guy would be like.
  • Import

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    May 16, 2014 4:08 PM GMT
    I feel like if u make that committment to take on a pet....u take that shit full on and u don't just dispose of your pet at the request of a bf.

    Also I think it would be extremely dickish to make me pick between a pet or him? Gladly choose the pet in that case cuz i'd realize whatta fucking dick he is.

    When I first moved to san diego I remember I was kinda dating/seeing this guy who was in the navy and had just been discharged and he had 2 dogs. 2 very high maintenance dogs and when I first went over his place it was ALL ABOUT his dogs. Walking them, feeding them, playing with them, sitting with them, etc. His dogs seemed kinda needy and douchey at first....
    Anyway, I got to help him walk his dogs and really enjoyed his pets after that. and i realized how cute it was that be fully cared for these little creatures and it made me think how cute he was.. He had them very well-trained and seemed to provide a good home for them. I judged him on how well his pets were treated. Too bad he moved back to Virginia icon_cry.gif

  • tj85016

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    May 16, 2014 4:12 PM GMT
    Bye potential boyfriend
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    May 16, 2014 4:18 PM GMT
    Isnt the pet apart of your family they are to take on just as you with he ???!!!
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    May 16, 2014 5:22 PM GMT
    I choose my 4 legged mate over any boyfriend or girlfriend , i wouldn't even have to think twice before making the decision ...
  • Karl

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    May 16, 2014 5:32 PM GMT
    if he is literally allergic to pets, I'll choose him, I have no choice.

    if he just doesn't like me having a pet then ...

    bye bye bye boyfriend
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    May 17, 2014 10:27 AM GMT
    I'll keep my pets thank you. They wouldn't give me that ultimatum...icon_wink.gif
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    May 17, 2014 5:58 PM GMT
    Unlikely I would ever have to choose because while I might become friends with someone with dog issues, I would never have become so intimate with someone who has dog issues that any choice would be a question. I'm naturally inclined to distance myself from those. There's no conscious decision making. It is innate.

    My partners were animal lovers. That's an essential quality they require for me to get that close to them. I do allow people who have dog issues to become friends, maybe even good friends, but of the three closest friends I had who screwed me the worst in life, all three feared big dogs. That after years of my hybrid wolf being so very nice to them, but he was way less discriminating than me.

    If it's just allergies, medicine can take care of most of that with pills, or nasal sprays or shots and I would fully expect someone who loves me to endure that treatment so that I wouldn't lose my pet. If it was a life or death issue, then of course the human relationship prevails and I would just live with that guilt.

    I do react to cat allergens even though I've taken shots for it. I would not attempt partnering with a guy who loves his cats. He wouldn't have to choose either. This is why it's so important within the first few dates to find out if the guy has pets or if he's married.
  • AMoonHawk

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    May 17, 2014 6:19 PM GMT
    Obviously, we are assuming here that you just met your bf, otherwise you would never have had a dog/cat knowing he had allergies. If he refuses to go get an allergy shot, then I think he made his choice for you.
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    May 17, 2014 6:21 PM GMT
    My BF can give me the D. My dogs can't. icon_wink.gif