Rejecting Comments

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    May 15, 2014 11:48 PM GMT
    Simple question, Why would guys decline nice, complimentary comments on their photos - even when there are some already on their pics icon_question.gif

    It almost makes ya not want to do any more.

    Rant = over ha! icon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gif
  • roadbikeRob

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    May 16, 2014 12:34 AM GMT
    Because some guys are cold hearted, self centered pricks who think that their blood is too rich for the rest of us.
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    May 16, 2014 12:54 AM GMT
    For the same reasons they don't appreciate a compliment you send them via email. I guess there's some phobia that you're hitting on them or something. I enjoy complimenting guys for a multitude of things and it's interesting how many just don't even appreciate it.
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    May 16, 2014 12:56 AM GMT
    NewZealandGuy saidSimple question, Why would guys decline nice, complimentary comments on their photos - even when there are some already on their pics icon_question.gif

    It almost makes ya not want to do any more.

    Rant = over ha! icon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gif


    I have that happen maybe 5% of the time. Usually it's because of one the following.
    1) They consider me too old. ("Ew, grandpa thinks I'm hot!")
    2) They consider me not hot enough. ("How dare you think I'm hot, you troll?")
    3) They're new and haven't figured out the way to accept comments yet.
    4) They get so many emails that sometimes they just delete them wholesale.
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    May 16, 2014 1:04 AM GMT
    As someone who has rejected comments could it be that the comments were positive but maybe slightly sexual? I've rejected comments that although I appreciated them were slightly rude-ish so that may be what it is.
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    May 16, 2014 1:13 AM GMT
    Getting a compliment from you is a compliment in itself...Those guys are probably too full of it.

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    May 16, 2014 1:22 AM GMT
    I have gotten a few compliments.

    NEVER rejected any of them.

    Including the ones that weren't all that complimentary...

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    May 16, 2014 1:24 AM GMT
    Sharkspeare said
    NewZealandGuy saidSimple question, Why would guys decline nice, complimentary comments on their photos - even when there are some already on their pics icon_question.gif

    It almost makes ya not want to do any more.

    Rant = over ha! icon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gif


    I have that happen maybe 5% of the time. Usually it's because of one the following.
    1) They consider me too old. ("Ew, grandpa thinks I'm hot!")
    2) They consider me not hot enough. ("How dare you think I'm hot, you troll?")
    3) They're new and haven't figured out the way to accept comments yet.
    4) They get so many emails that sometimes they just delete them wholesale.


    I've had this happen a few times with comments I've left. I'm guessing one and two.
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    May 16, 2014 2:04 AM GMT
    silver_bullet saidHumans value comps from those they perceive as higher status individuals:

    Which would be more appealing, a compliment about your bod from this guy?

    Or from this guy?




    Any compliment is appealing in my books - regardless wh0 it is from. icon_biggrin.gif
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    May 16, 2014 2:07 AM GMT
    I don't reject any comments, as I appreciate that someone would take time to leave me a compliment. Besides, if someone thinks I look good, I will approve it, no need in not letting the public see.
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    May 16, 2014 2:14 AM GMT
    Cash saidI have gotten a few compliments.

    NEVER rejected any of them.

    Including the ones that weren't all that complimentary...

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    haha - yep, exactly my point. Nice one. icon_wink.gificon_wink.gificon_wink.gif
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    May 16, 2014 2:56 AM GMT
    Sharkspeare said
    NewZealandGuy saidSimple question, Why would guys decline nice, complimentary comments on their photos - even when there are some already on their pics icon_question.gif

    It almost makes ya not want to do any more.

    Rant = over ha! icon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gif


    I have that happen maybe 5% of the time. Usually it's because of one the following.
    1) They consider me too old. ("Ew, grandpa thinks I'm hot!")
    2) They consider me not hot enough. ("How dare you think I'm hot, you troll?")
    3) They're new and haven't figured out the way to accept comments yet.
    4) They get so many emails that sometimes they just delete them wholesale.


    Speaking of... you need to re-comment on a picture that I had to replace (needed to flip it so that you could read the shirt). It's the only time you have ever commented on a pic of mine. I was truly flattered. So hop to it.
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    May 16, 2014 3:03 AM GMT
    I have only ever rejected one and it was a weird back-handed compliment that made me go "huh?" ... the fact that it was from probably the oldest guy on RJ was never even a factor.
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    May 16, 2014 3:09 AM GMT
    On the one hand, no one is obligated to accept comments from everyone.

    On the other hand, if it was a nice comment, then it's clear the guy is a douchebag and only accepts comments from guys he finds he attractive.
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    May 16, 2014 4:23 AM GMT
    silver_bullet said
    NewZealandGuy said
    silver_bullet saidHumans value comps from those they perceive as higher status individuals:

    Which would be more appealing, a compliment about your bod from this guy?

    Or from this guy?




    Any compliment is appealing in my books - regardless wh0 it is from. icon_biggrin.gif


    As in equally appealing?

    I don't think I believe you. icon_biggrin.gif


    Of course not,, you put Ben Cohen as one of the choices..not only is he smoking hot, he is one of the most pro-gay straight guys ever. that invalidates the argument. icon_wink.gif
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    May 16, 2014 4:34 AM GMT
    IF its a nice genuine comment, what good reason does anyone have to reject? I bet you its those same type of guys complaining about how little people notice them.

    I haven't left any comments yet but since I don't meet up to most guys standards on physicality( YETicon_exclaim.gif ) I can expect some rejection. I'm no stranger to giving a compliment to someone and receiving a flat out "ew" but it loses its sting after a while, online and in real life.

    Why someone wouldn't want a compliment from you is beyond me icon_wink.gif

  • AMoonHawk

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    May 16, 2014 4:41 AM GMT
    Because they don't realize they are James Spader icon_biggrin.gif

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    May 16, 2014 5:39 AM GMT
    (Actually, I always thought that James Spader was secretly mocking me.)

    OP: Who knows? Who cares? Maybe they got some kind of creepy vibe. Kids under 25 don't want anybody older than them even looking at their profile, much less getting linked to it.

    Personally, the few I've gotten, I've even approved the creepy ones. wtf.
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    May 16, 2014 7:08 AM GMT
    silver_bullet saidHumans value comps from those they perceive as higher status individuals:

    Which would be more appealing, a compliment about your bod from this guy?

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    Or from this guy?

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    I wouldn't accept a compliment from the guy in the first pic because his time should be spent following other pursuits. I might accept his complement after he finishes writing books 6 and 7 of Game of Thrones, dammit!
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    May 16, 2014 11:36 AM GMT
    NewZealandGuy saidSimple question, Why would guys decline nice, complimentary comments on their photos - even when there are some already on their pics icon_question.gif

    It almost makes ya not want to do any more.

    Rant = over ha! icon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gif
    OHHHH!!! i love this rant haha its the same as like my thread i made when you make a comment and they accept and there aint even a oh thanks dude or anything, i always reply a thanks and there have only been a few i have rejected as they where in a foreign language i couldnt translate lol but any comment i accept as most of them are fun and or complimentary and even if they seem a odd comment i still get what is meant.
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    May 16, 2014 11:38 AM GMT
    Sharkspeare said
    NewZealandGuy saidSimple question, Why would guys decline nice, complimentary comments on their photos - even when there are some already on their pics icon_question.gif

    It almost makes ya not want to do any more.

    Rant = over ha! icon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gif


    I have that happen maybe 5% of the time. Usually it's because of one the following.
    1) They consider me too old. ("Ew, grandpa thinks I'm hot!")
    - Answer, Why should that matter!
    2) They consider me not hot enough. ("How dare you think I'm hot, you troll?") - Answer, Why should that matter!
    3) They're new and haven't figured out the way to accept comments yet. - Answer, Understandable!
    4) They get so many emails that sometimes they just delete them wholesale.
    - Answer, How ignorant!
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    May 16, 2014 4:50 PM GMT
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    But seriously, yes... thus far I think I've accepted all photo comments that have come my way. And I always thank the commenter. But I've left comments for others that were either not accepted, or accepted but unacknowledged. Hey, that's showbiz...
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    Jul 07, 2014 5:30 AM GMT
    They're not worth the praise and compliments they've been given.
    So take them back and give it to those who do appreciate it.
  • Webster666

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    Jul 07, 2014 7:00 AM GMT
    When somebody sends a compliment on one of my photos, I try to always at least say, "Thank you."

    It's my belief that, any time I send a message to someone, they are under no obligation, what so ever, to respond.

    The messages I get, some times I respond, some times not, depending on what the message is.

    A few times, I have received messages that I expect the sender thought was a compliment, but I didn't see it that way.

    As far as, "refusing" messages, I didn't know we could do so...
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    Jul 07, 2014 5:29 PM GMT
    interestingly enough, when RJ did a little bit of redesigning of the website, the comments section(s) removed the date/time stamp of when it was accepted.