Condom Broke while topping during one night stand....am I at risk?

  • broncos622

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    May 17, 2014 2:10 PM GMT
    I had a one night stand last night, I topped another guy, wearing a condom. He said he was negative but midway through I stopped and went to the bathroom where I noticed the condom had broke. I immediately rinsed off my junk, peed came back, told him it broke to which he told me again he was negative and then finished me with a blow job and I left. I'm worried that for 10-20 minutes while we were having sex, the condom was broken and I'm worried that he may be positive and doesn't know it, and that I could've contracted HIV/herpes while I was inside of him.

    If he was positive, what are the chances I could've contracted HIV/herpes from him? Should I go and get PEP done or are the chances so small (ie less than 1% if he IS positive) that I should be fine? I'm extremely cautious with anything STD related and want to make sure I'm not at risk, and if I am, that I'm doing whatever I can to minimize it.
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    May 17, 2014 2:15 PM GMT

    It's possible you could contract herpes if he has herpes.

    HIV? I think unlikely in this instance, but you must get tested, and ask your Doctor those questions.
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    May 17, 2014 2:27 PM GMT
    Some things to consider:

    1. The risk wasn't zero even if the condom had not failed.
    2. The risk is greater knowing that the condom did fail.
    3. How much greater depends on a variety of factors that are hard to determine.
    4. Getting tested for HIV at this point is not going to change the risk of exposure. Only post-exposure prophylaxis has the possibility of doing anything to reduce your risk.
    5. You could see someone about getting PEP immediately, and then decide whether or not you want to actually take it.
    6. You should get tested for other STDs as well, just to be sure you did not contract chlamydia, gonorrhea, or syphilis. Other diseases such as HPV and HSV are not really treatable after exposure, but if you are really concerned about these, then you should talk to a doctor about PEP with an antiviral like Zovirax. But you'd better not wait.
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    May 17, 2014 3:15 PM GMT
    meninlove said
    It's possible you could contract herpes if he has herpes.

    HIV? I think unlikely in this instance, but you must get tested, and ask your Doctor those questions.

    Agreed. Being the top presents the lesser HIV risk in anal. Not zero, but certainly low.

    For the OP: Be tested at around 3 months, and again at 6. The most common blood and saliva (mouth swab) tests will not show the HIV blood antigens until about then, even if you have contracted the virus. If you test negative at 3 months you can be about 95% certain, but a few individuals don't develop the antigens as quickly. By 6 months you should be OK.

    Be tested at 6-month intervals thereafter, as should all sexually active gay men. As well as for other STDs, with blood work and physical examination. Even when practicing safe sex. My husband & I do, and we're monogamous. And we each sit in the room with our husband present when the doctor reads our latest blood results. Total trust is demonstrated by total transparency.

    And remember, a guy can show you his negative HIV results taken THIS MORNING, and all it is telling you is his HIV status from about 3 months ago. It DOESN'T tell you if he became infected 2 months ago, and is infectious today.

    The tests can't pick HIV up that quickly. There's always roughly a 3-month black-out window, or longer, before HIV is detected. Meanwhile a guy can have undetected HIV, and can infect others. Always keep that in mind. So that safe sex means assuming EVERY guy is HIV+, and acting accordingly, regardless of what he tells you.

    Oh, and regarding our latest RJ debate: "undectable" viral loads. First, you're once again relying upon his truthfulness. Is he REALLY undetectable? You got his doctor right there? And you do realize that undetectable is NOT noninfectious, right? Just low infectious.

    Second, he may not honestly know. Not what his viral load is THIS MINUTE, when he's about to fuck you. Nobody knows. He had a low viral count WHEN? Last month? Viral loads vary. You wanna play that form of Russian roulette, fine. But not for me.