meninlove said...Our experiences with Bis have been interesting, in that those we've met base initial love more on the person than the gender. A gal we know fell hard for a lesbian friend. The lesbian friend broke it off after five years and our Bi gal was devastated. It appears the lesbian gal couldn't deal with feelings of jealously when our Bi gal interacted with straight guys - kept worrying something would happen. It couldn't, we think, as monogamous love is, well, monogamous love, which is what our Bi gal was all about.
Hang in! It'll happen! We'll be real happy for you whatever side of the gender fence your heart lands on.
Doug and Bill of meninlove
You neatly summarize my own concerns about getting involved with bi guys, which deals with stability over the long run. I confess to the belief that a bi might have more temptation to leave me, in effect twice the chance because his interests include women. I can't compete with a woman as a rival, and perhaps that lesbian feared she couldn't compete with a man.
But you also make a very valid point that needs to be considered, that monogamy is monogamy. And given the dismal track record of many gay men in this regard, maybe it's the BI
partner who's taking a risk with a gay guy. LOL!
Thanks to online discussions here & elsewhere, I begin to have a more sympathetic view of the prejudice that bi's face. And I hope it's a 2-way exchange, that if bi men appreciate the gay concern, they'll pledge the monogamy that you rightly say is the real issue here. Now if we can just get gays to be more monogamous...