Do u easily fit into the gay community?.....

  • TannerMasseur

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    May 19, 2014 6:25 AM GMT
    Or do u fill ostracized & can't relate to ur own kind?.....
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    May 19, 2014 6:29 AM GMT
    Uhhhhhhhhhhhhhm

    I can't spell fun with community as well as I can with fun?

    Yes? Yes. Trees!

    Wait I mean yes... No... Maybe?

    I'll fit in everywhere b.c I'm a good actor. I hate acting.
  • TheMadKash

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    May 19, 2014 6:30 AM GMT
    There is no real "Gay community"..The gay community is a collection of magazines, special interest organizations, awards ceremonies, talking on heads on the news and parades which no longer have meaning. Most gay men and women do not identify with that. With that said...I have never felt as if i fit into any box..or group... yet am more comfortable with gay men then straight people but i watch my back with both.
  • Eli_jah

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    May 19, 2014 6:32 AM GMT
    I fit in when I want to and I lurk in the shadows when I want to. Doesn't matter because we all get our gay asses down to the Pride Parade come June.
  • AMoonHawk

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    May 19, 2014 7:03 AM GMT
    I don't feel I fit in anywhere .... gay straight or otherwise ... I am in a class of my own ... the triangular peg in a round hole.
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    May 19, 2014 7:17 AM GMT
    nope
  • buddycat

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    May 19, 2014 8:01 AM GMT
    Always easy for me in the past but do not know now been away from it for a while. But I imagine it would be easy again if I chose to go out, probably would relate easy.
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    May 19, 2014 9:16 AM GMT
    I'm too nice to fit into the gay community.
  • Karl

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    May 19, 2014 9:18 AM GMT
    gay community = human community.
    if you don't fit in it, maybe God or Satan is waiting for you.
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    May 19, 2014 10:25 AM GMT
    I've never tried to be honest.
    Sometimes I wonder what it would be like to visit one of those bar or spa places, but they seem too extreme for me even their tame nights sound a bit too much.
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    May 19, 2014 10:42 AM GMT
    I prefer to mingle in society rather than segregate myself.

    However, I tend to fit in wherever I'm comfortable, regardless of the crowd.
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    May 19, 2014 11:26 AM GMT
    TannerMasseur saidOr do u fill ostracized & can't relate to ur own kind?.....


    Our own kind?
  • roadbikeRob

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    May 19, 2014 12:02 PM GMT
    silver_bullet said
    TheMadKash saidThere is no real "Gay community"..The gay community is a collection of magazines, special interest organizations, awards ceremonies, talking on heads on the news and parades which no longer have meaning. Most gay men and women do not identify with that. With that said...I have never felt as if i fit into any box..or group... yet am more comfortable with gay men then straight people but i watch my back with both.


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    May 19, 2014 12:08 PM GMT
    Gay society encompasses so many sub-sections. In some of them I do, like the speedo wearing gym bunnies and white guys that can dance. In others I do not, like in the antiquing Sunday brunchers or the drag groupies.

    So to answer the OP's question, yes I fit into the gay community.
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    May 19, 2014 12:10 PM GMT
    lol ney
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    May 19, 2014 12:13 PM GMT
    TheMadKash saidThere is no real "Gay community"..The gay community is a collection of magazines, special interest organizations, awards ceremonies, talking on heads on the news and parades which no longer have meaning. Most gay men and women do not identify with that. With that said...I have never felt as if i fit into any box..or group... yet am more comfortable with gay men then straight people but i watch my back with both.



    com·mu·ni·ty
    noun
    noun: community; plural noun: communities

    1. a group of people living in the same place or having a particular characteristic in common.

    2. a feeling of fellowship with others, as a result of sharing common attitudes, interests, and goals.

    Even though you wish to deny it, by your own definition there is a gay community. And one major common interest that all gay people would have is equality. That is unless you don't want equality.. eh?
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    May 19, 2014 12:45 PM GMT
    dudewithabeard said
    TheMadKash saidThere is no real "Gay community"..The gay community is a collection of magazines, special interest organizations, awards ceremonies, talking on heads on the news and parades which no longer have meaning. Most gay men and women do not identify with that. With that said...I have never felt as if i fit into any box..or group... yet am more comfortable with gay men then straight people but i watch my back with both.

    com·mu·ni·ty
    noun
    noun: community; plural noun: communities

    1. a group of people living in the same place or having a particular characteristic in common.

    2. a feeling of fellowship with others, as a result of sharing common attitudes, interests, and goals.

    Even though you wish to deny it, by your own definition there is a gay community. And one major common interest that all gay people would have is equality. That is unless you don't want equality.. eh?

    Yes, and that fellowship is one of the great things I've discovered about being an out gay man. I missed that sense of brotherhood when I retired from the Army (where we also called it "camaraderie"), but quickly found it again among fellow gays.

    Not just the ease of socially mixing and making friends with common interests & viewpoints, but also a great support structure I've needed at times, once again not unlike what I had in the Army. Now that's a community I can see and touch, and rely upon at difficult moments.

    Yet just as some never experience camaraderie with their fellow soldiers, apparently some gays never experience fellowship with other gays, as I'm reading from a few here. I know everyone's different, but I couldn't live that way myself, isolated and apart.

    After a youth when I was at times stubbornly a loner, I finally accepted that I'm a social creature after all. And fellow gays are part of my world, with whom I relate and blend far better than I ever did with straights. Although ironically, the ease of my gay social relationships gives me a confidence in my straight relationships, too, that I never had before I came out. A double win for me. icon_biggrin.gif
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    May 19, 2014 1:19 PM GMT
    silver_bullet said
    dudewithabeard said
    TheMadKash saidThere is no real "Gay community"..The gay community is a collection of magazines, special interest organizations, awards ceremonies, talking on heads on the news and parades which no longer have meaning. Most gay men and women do not identify with that. With that said...I have never felt as if i fit into any box..or group... yet am more comfortable with gay men then straight people but i watch my back with both.



    com·mu·ni·ty
    noun
    noun: community; plural noun: communities

    1. a group of people living in the same place or having a particular characteristic in common.

    2. a feeling of fellowship with others, as a result of sharing common attitudes, interests, and goals.

    Even though you wish to deny it, by your own definition there is a gay community. And one major common interest that all gay people would have is equality. That is unless you don't want equality.. eh?


    You got the bolding ass backwards, this is where the emphasis is:

    "2. a feeling of fellowship with others, as a result of sharing common attitudes, interests, and goals."

    Tell me all about this "fellowship" we are suppose to be feeling in the gay "community".


    Maybe that says more about you than the gay community. Do you not care about the equality and treatment of your fellow gays and lesbians. Do you not get pissed off when someone is beaten and tortured because of them being gay. Do you not feel pride and joy when your fellow gays and lesbians are finally winning the right to marry all across the planet or are winning acceptance by way of becoming elected officials. And these are just a few examples of many.

    If these actions do invoke feelings in you then that definitely says more about you and your cynicism.

    But then again, I have heard that you are a troll. Troll's usually don't give honest answers to begin with, so this may fall upon deaf ears.
  • TheMadKash

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    May 19, 2014 2:31 PM GMT
    dudewithabeard said
    silver_bullet said
    dudewithabeard said
    TheMadKash saidThere is no real "Gay community"..The gay community is a collection of magazines, special interest organizations, awards ceremonies, talking on heads on the news and parades which no longer have meaning. Most gay men and women do not identify with that. With that said...I have never felt as if i fit into any box..or group... yet am more comfortable with gay men then straight people but i watch my back with both.



    com·mu·ni·ty
    noun
    noun: community; plural noun: communities

    1. a group of people living in the same place or having a particular characteristic in common.

    2. a feeling of fellowship with others, as a result of sharing common attitudes, interests, and goals.

    Even though you wish to deny it, by your own definition there is a gay community. And one major common interest that all gay people would have is equality. That is unless you don't want equality.. eh?


    You got the bolding ass backwards, this is where the emphasis is:

    "2. a feeling of fellowship with others, as a result of sharing common attitudes, interests, and goals."

    Tell me all about this "fellowship" we are suppose to be feeling in the gay "community".


    Maybe that says more about you than the gay community. Do you not care about the equality and treatment of your fellow gays and lesbians. Do you not get pissed off when someone is beaten and tortured because of them being gay. Do you not feel pride and joy when your fellow gays and lesbians can finally winning the right to marry all across the planet or are winning acceptance by way of becoming elected officials.

    If these are invoked in you by these actions, that definitely says more about you and your cynicism.

    But then again, I have heard that you are a troll. Troll's usually don't give honest answers to begin with, so this may fall upon deaf ears.
    I gotta first stand behind silver bullet. I think his retort was honest and far from trollish. He had a point. Lets look at the definition you posted of community. . . there should be emphasis placed on the root word commune which posits a common habitat. Now we can stretch that to mean something less litteral but in general communities happen on a smaller local scale. Because i am gay doesnt mean im in line with a singular agenda. . . because i am formed by a whole host of other traits . . everyone wants equality . . . women. . . black. . . immigrants. . . the disabled. . . my mom is for gay marraige yet one would not peg her in a gay community hole. i do not care about getting married and i am only quasi politcal and dont believe its my calling to be. so you cant easily lump me in a gay community box. just cuz you are queer doesnt mean you get an all access pass. wanting equality and not wanting to see people hurt is being a good human.
  • HottJoe

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    May 19, 2014 2:34 PM GMT
    RJ is a community, but ironically the most popular posters here claim there is no community... icon_rolleyes.gif

    A true anti-community lone wolf-type wouldn't bother to post on this site. They'd write some crazy blog then go blow something up.
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    May 19, 2014 2:46 PM GMT
    TheMadKash said
    dudewithabeard said
    silver_bullet said
    dudewithabeard said
    TheMadKash saidThere is no real "Gay community"..The gay community is a collection of magazines, special interest organizations, awards ceremonies, talking on heads on the news and parades which no longer have meaning. Most gay men and women do not identify with that. With that said...I have never felt as if i fit into any box..or group... yet am more comfortable with gay men then straight people but i watch my back with both.



    com·mu·ni·ty
    noun
    noun: community; plural noun: communities

    1. a group of people living in the same place or having a particular characteristic in common.

    2. a feeling of fellowship with others, as a result of sharing common attitudes, interests, and goals.

    Even though you wish to deny it, by your own definition there is a gay community. And one major common interest that all gay people would have is equality. That is unless you don't want equality.. eh?


    You got the bolding ass backwards, this is where the emphasis is:

    "2. a feeling of fellowship with others, as a result of sharing common attitudes, interests, and goals."

    Tell me all about this "fellowship" we are suppose to be feeling in the gay "community".


    Maybe that says more about you than the gay community. Do you not care about the equality and treatment of your fellow gays and lesbians. Do you not get pissed off when someone is beaten and tortured because of them being gay. Do you not feel pride and joy when your fellow gays and lesbians can finally winning the right to marry all across the planet or are winning acceptance by way of becoming elected officials.

    If these are invoked in you by these actions, that definitely says more about you and your cynicism.

    But then again, I have heard that you are a troll. Troll's usually don't give honest answers to begin with, so this may fall upon deaf ears.
    I gotta first stand behind silver bullet. I think his retort was honest and far from trollish. He had a point. Lets look at the definition you posted of community. . . there should be emphasis placed on the root word commune which posits a common habitat. Now we can stretch that to mean something less litteral but in general communities happen on a smaller local scale. Because i am gay doesnt mean im in line with a singular agenda. . . because i am formed by a whole host of other traits . . everyone wants equality . . . women. . . black. . . immigrants. . . the disabled. . . my mom is for gay marraige yet one would not peg her in a gay community hole. i do not care about getting married and i am only quasi politcal and dont believe its my calling to be. so you cant easily lump me in a gay community box. just cuz you are queer doesnt mean you get an all access pass. wanting equality and not wanting to see people hurt is being a good human.


    The key is to put yourself in that position. It could be you being beaten up, or you (if you cared) winning the fundamental right to marry... and to be part of a community doesn't mean you have to physically surround yourself by other gays. and just because you mother or other straights have the same feelings, they are not in the same position as you. For us this is personal.

    I find that most people with your feelings won't allow themselves to accept the fact that they have personal struggles, fights, wins, accomplishments in common with others gays and lesbians just because you are gay or lesbian.

    And if you don't feel like you have anything personally in common with other gays and lesbians that are specific to gays and lesbians, then, in my opinion, it sucks for you. But to each his own. Again the key is to allow yourself to be part of the community as a whole. And there are such things as global community, so your feeling that it needs to be something more tight knit isn't always completely accurate.
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    May 19, 2014 2:47 PM GMT
    People have a choice to associate themselves with others that have those like interests or common goals. When they chose to do this, they form a community with commonality.

    There IS a gay community, whether you fit in or chose to fit in is entirely up to you. How significant your participation is, is also entirely up to you. Those of you that argue that it's not there have chosen not to join because you see no value or return for your involvement. Entirely of your own choosing.

    You don't have to be gay to belong to the community of supporters, advocates or activists, you don't have to be gay to belong to the community of activities, groups or others associations primarily organized by gays, but as a gay man, you have the option of joining those communities.

    When I first came out I felt like a misfit toy on the shelf between the favorite and the forgotten. I've since found my place in the community and it's not one of major significance. Sometimes I feel more a part than others but either way, I think I am a part of a larger contingency of like minded men with common interest, goals and attitudes.
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    May 19, 2014 2:53 PM GMT
    Yes
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    May 19, 2014 4:44 PM GMT
    HottJoe saidRJ is a community, but ironically the most popular posters here claim there is no community... icon_rolleyes.gif

    A true anti-community lone wolf-type wouldn't bother to post on this site. They'd write some crazy blog then go blow something up.



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    May 19, 2014 4:46 PM GMT
    Don't "fit" anywhere. Never have, never will.