HottJoe saidThe butch/fem-thing only comes up online. IRL a big hard cock is a big hard cock.
This is true.
Once you transcend the confines of the binary "top" and "bottom", you'll find a much more colorful sex life.
I used to be exclusively top and I used to think that that was the way it had to be because I'm more of a masculine guy. Turns out I wasn't 100% comfortable with myself; I was too self-conscious about the dominant/submissive dynamic between me and my sexual partner(s). Once I opened up more (quite literately
), it added a whole new element to my sex life, and it was very kinky.
Although I still prefer the top bunk (at least until I get to know someone well enough), some of the best, most memorable experiences I've had were when I was on the bottom. Fem/masc isn't really a big concern of mine (as a matter of fact, there's something quite kinky about a feminine tops and masculine bottoms).