Never been in a relationship...

  • Xyzlactic69

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    May 20, 2014 10:52 PM GMT

    Been single this whole time. I've always wanted to have a boyfriend but then I realize why do I want one?

    I'm a bit confused. There are times I want to share a great experience with someone but then there are times I'm happy I'm alone and no one to bother me.

    I've had many guys ask me on dates or to be thier boyfriend but I just turn them down. I feel like I'm possibly missing out on a good time.
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    May 21, 2014 7:12 AM GMT
    Sounds like you want the comfort of a boyfriend but not the commitment of a relationship.

    And hey, that's okay. Relationships are a big decision to make. I'll say it myself, I'm not going to just pull myself off of the market and dedicate my will to just one guy without a good reason. Relationships aren't just something you do because you're bored and want someone to run-around with. You do them because you want companionship, you want to grow with someone and you can actually envision a future with a particular person long term.

    There's nothing wrong with dating around or a NSA/FWB situation. Just be up front and honest with people from the get-go and you'll avoid stepping on toes and breaking hearts.
  • Xyzlactic69

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    May 22, 2014 8:02 AM GMT
    Rolfron saidSounds like you want the comfort of a boyfriend but not the commitment of a relationship.

    And hey, that's okay. Relationships are a big decision to make. I'll say it myself, I'm not going to just pull myself off of the market and dedicate my will to just one guy without a good reason. Relationships aren't just something you do because you're bored and want someone to run-around with. You do them because you want companionship, you want to grow with someone and you can actually envision a future with a particular person long term.

    There's nothing wrong with dating around or a NSA/FWB situation. Just be up front and honest with people from the get-go and you'll avoid stepping on toes and breaking hearts.


    Well written buddy. Ya I guess I should just give it time. I'm in no hurry so I'm sure I'll find someone one day icon_smile.gif
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    May 22, 2014 8:38 AM GMT
    Xyzlactic69 saidWell written buddy. Ya I guess I should just give it time. I'm in no hurry so I'm sure I'll find someone one day icon_smile.gif


    Thanks!

    Live life and enjoy. The rest will come when it's ready.
  • BloodFlame

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    May 22, 2014 9:14 PM GMT
    Well if it makes you feel better, I've never been in a relationship either but Rolftron's advice definitely is good.

    I mean, like you, there are times where I'd like to be in a relationship with a guy to share experiences with but at the same time, I'm quite content being on my own. Confusing isn't it? But yeah, you really shouldn't rush it. You're still young and have plenty of time. But if do get curious, it doesn't hurt to casually date. To find what you'd like in a future relationship when you do decide to look for a mate. Good luck. icon_smile.gif
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    May 23, 2014 3:42 PM GMT
    Anyone who is single and doesn't admit to being occasionally miserable about it is pretty much lying. But that happens in relationships too.