Being intimate without sex

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    May 21, 2014 1:58 PM GMT
    Is there anyone else who loves to open about being a man and being close but not crossing the line into sex like anal or oral?
    Like a bond that's more based on body than insertions and explosions.
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    May 21, 2014 2:00 PM GMT
    That's the kind of bond I have with a few of my straight friends. We hug, talk openly about our feelings, and even say "I love you" to each other. And we agree that the world would be a better place if men could bond the way women do without the social stigma placed on it in certain circles.
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    May 21, 2014 2:04 PM GMT
    I have friends that I hug and occasionally share a bed with but I think it is a big mistake to treat this type of relationship as an alternative to a relationship of a sexual nature, especially if you are not openly gay.
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    May 21, 2014 2:12 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidThat's the kind of bond I have with a few of my straight friends. We hug, talk openly about our feelings, and even say "I love you" to each other. And we agree that the world would be a better place if men could bond the way women do without the social stigma placed on it in certain circles.


    Same here. I have this same type of relationship with several of my straight friends. It's pretty awesome.
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    May 21, 2014 3:38 PM GMT
    Would you feel comfortable being that intimate with a female? I just ask, because that must be how a straight guy feels about intimacy with gay men, in addition to the fact that it's taboo.

    I could be close to a girl, but it wouldn't be based on her body, in the way that you describe in your OP. Maybe some of these guys are bi???

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    May 21, 2014 4:11 PM GMT
    Is the op meaning some sort of non sexual relationship sort of similar to what a asexual person would have ?
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    May 21, 2014 4:14 PM GMT
    Same as Pauflexes , that how i am with my straight mates , and i totaly concur with his quote .
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    May 21, 2014 4:27 PM GMT
    I think a lot of people won't really understand the question, because you are asking about sexual relationships, not platonic ones. And, to be honest, those of us who value intimacy over ejaculation aren't that common.

    Don't get me wrong. I like sex. But it's the physical closeness with another man that really gets me going. Orgasm is just the . . . ahem . . . icing on the cake.

    So, yes, there are others like you. Just not very many.
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    May 21, 2014 4:30 PM GMT
    aka_bw saidIs there anyone else who loves to open about being a man and being close but not crossing the line into sex like anal or oral?
    Like a bond that's more based on body than insertions and explosions.


    Me, I prefer sexual intimacy over penetration, generally, though my BF is a horn dog.Luckily, he greatly appreciates intimacy too.
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    May 21, 2014 4:40 PM GMT
    shortbutsweet saidI think a lot of people won't really understand the question, because you are asking about sexual relationships, not platonic ones. And, to be honest, those of us who value intimacy over ejaculation aren't that common.

    Don't get me wrong. I like sex. But it's the physical closeness with another man that really gets me going. Orgasm is just the . . . ahem . . . icing on the cake.

    So, yes, there are others like you. Just not very many.

    Not that common? I beg to differ. Almost everyone posts that they value intimacy over penetration. I feel like a dirty whore for wanting both!!

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  • Pheo

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    May 22, 2014 1:21 AM GMT
    I'm usually more intimate than I am sexual. Call me old fashioned, but I like the sustenance of it. Sex is just a perk for me.icon_lol.gif
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    May 22, 2014 3:06 AM GMT
    HottJoe said
    shortbutsweet saidI think a lot of people won't really understand the question, because you are asking about sexual relationships, not platonic ones. And, to be honest, those of us who value intimacy over ejaculation aren't that common.

    Don't get me wrong. I like sex. But it's the physical closeness with another man that really gets me going. Orgasm is just the . . . ahem . . . icing on the cake.

    So, yes, there are others like you. Just not very many.

    Not that common? I beg to differ. Almost everyone posts that they value intimacy over penetration. I feel like a dirty whore for wanting both!!

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    Most people who read the forums would recognize your statement as false. Except perhaps the last part.
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    May 24, 2014 7:49 PM GMT
    shortbutsweet saidMost people who read the forums would recognize your statement as false. Except perhaps the last part.

    Then most people who read the forums are a tiny percent of the real people in the world.

    The desire for social connection, to know and be known, is primal and rooted earlier and deeper than the desire for sexual reproduction.

    People don't often commit suicide for lack of sex; the same cannot be said of loneliness and failing to meaningfully bond with someone else.

    HottJoe has it totally right, especially for knowing himself well enough to admit to wanting both...
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    May 24, 2014 7:57 PM GMT
    JimmyMTL said...
    People don't often commit suicide for lack of sex; ...
    No, but some kill others.

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    May 24, 2014 10:27 PM GMT
    Just enjoy the interaction whatever it may be. I was dating a guy I was not really attracted to but we made out without sex but went to first base of course with touching. He never would give me his number so lost touch.
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    May 25, 2014 1:23 AM GMT
    It annoys the hell out of me, being unable to cuddle a guy without him wanting to do something sexual or kiss. What's wrong with embracing and nuzzling for more than 15 minutes? .-. Only time I've had something satisfying was when I cuddled with a "straight" guy for 3 hours.