I NEED IDEAS!

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    Sep 26, 2007 4:32 AM GMT
    Can you possibly ask a guy you suspect to be gay if he is gay, without outing yourself?
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    Sep 26, 2007 4:41 AM GMT
    Start a discussion about Sen. Craig and was he wrongfully arrested cuz he didnt do anything and how he may actually help gays by getting a court decision about that kind of entrapment. Maybe their responses will lead of other talk.
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    Sep 26, 2007 5:08 PM GMT
    For this type of thing...which i believe is very common....the best thing i know to tell you is BE THEIR FRIEND....FRIEND, FRIEND.....forget the whole gay thing budd.

    Remember, if you can't be friends with these guys...what does it matter if they are gay???
    Gay is step 2.....being able to get along and get to know these guys is step 1.

    Once you guys are friends you will naturally open up to each other with time and when you do open up the doors you are letting him know just another aspect of you... but by then he'll know the real you wich is much more than just a gay dude. If he is gay...he'll appreciate you because you are already a friend to him and you just happen to be gay....so nice bond right off the bat.
    If he's not gay then hopefully he's man enough to realize and accept the existing friendship...because finding out your buddy is gay is no reason to break a bond that exist between friends.

    Hope that helps my man...!
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    Sep 26, 2007 5:15 PM GMT
    How do you find a partner without Outing yourself?

    How do you bring it up in conversation without outing myself?

    I doubt that you can unless you are willing to cruise the internet, some dark park, or an airport toilet somewhere for quick anonomous sex hookups.

    I really don't know of a "a conservative black college" in Orlando; but I am willing to bet there is a gay communitty center somewhere near you where you can meet people who share your sexuality.

    As for the Macho BS, most of the really Macho guys I have known have made great bottoms.
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    Sep 26, 2007 6:25 PM GMT
    Good advice, ApexBroker. I agree completely, other than switching to a less conservative college, that is.
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    Sep 27, 2007 3:33 AM GMT
    You ROCK ABROKER- i AM SO USING YOUR ADVICE!
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    Sep 28, 2007 8:50 PM GMT
    Listen to me. I've dealt with stuff like this all my life. I knew I was gay at age 5 and since then have known what its like to have to put up a facade due to my surroundings.

    Do you know what I told myself though? There was no way in hell that I was going to live that life in college.

    When I moved from home and got my apartment I started livng my life. Of course there is the same issue of meeting people for even though I am open about myself, I don't feel comfortable approaching random guys. But now simply due to the fact that I am open I am able to attent the Gay straight alliances and tell people about guys that I'm dating. Basically I am able to be me.

    what I mean is if you have to switch schools do so or come out and the people who shun away from you are fake ass people who you don't need in your life. Not to sound judgmental or anything, but it was careless of you to even put yourself in a position that oppresses you so.

    Go out, spread your wings and fly man. You'll feel so much better.

    The be someone's friend and hope thing will do nothing but break your heart. Trust me I know, from doing the same thing the first 2 loves of my life were straight.