Do you feel like guys look right past you?

  • Nearon

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    May 25, 2014 9:59 AM GMT
    This whole Elliot Rodgers thing really hits close to home. Not that I would ever hurt anyone innocent, but I feel a deep sense of loneliness and isolation. First year of college was a disaster....i met no guys, straight roommate took me to my first gay club and nobody danced with me.
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    May 25, 2014 10:05 AM GMT
    Happens to everyone...

  • KittenpasteCo...

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    May 25, 2014 10:49 AM GMT
    It resonated with me as well. 27 years and still a virgin - never asked out by anyone. I've tried not focusing on it before... but it's hard to not notice something growing ever larger over time.
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    May 25, 2014 12:12 PM GMT
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  • HndsmKansan

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    May 25, 2014 12:22 PM GMT
    The first year of college can be challenging as you get oriented to what's up. Mine was filled with challenges, but had awesome years after. Be patient, be real and sincere and understand these things don't happen immediately. I don't think you have a problem in the looks department.
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    May 25, 2014 12:53 PM GMT
    When I was younger? No, never. I had the opposite. Heads turned. Only now that I'm older, heads turn away. Payback's a bitch.

    So I'm having one of these inserted on my forehead
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    May 25, 2014 12:56 PM GMT
    theantijock saidWhen I was younger? No, never. I had the opposite. Heads turned. Only now that I'm older, heads turn away. Payback's a bitch.

    So I'm having one of these inserted on my forehead
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    how young?
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    May 25, 2014 1:14 PM GMT
    JarIan saidhow young?


    Well, there's a switch for ya.

    I put out a thought to see if it would fly

    and the fly attracted shit.

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    May 25, 2014 1:16 PM GMT
    No I do ok generally IRL but it depends on your audience.

    Like on here I get hardly any attention because I don't look like everyone else and I'm cool with that.

    Elliot Rodgers probably had lots of girls check him out but he was too self obsessed to notice.
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    May 25, 2014 1:20 PM GMT
    theantijock said
    JarIan saidhow young?


    Well, there's a switch for ya.

    I put out a thought to see if it would fly

    and the fly attracted shit.

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    how do you feel?
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    May 25, 2014 1:24 PM GMT
    Don't the frat boys hitting your butt count?
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    May 25, 2014 1:35 PM GMT
    Errrr,go see a counselor,u need help.
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    May 25, 2014 1:45 PM GMT
    JarIan said .


    Look you little scumbag. I did not read whatever private message you sent, I just hit delete and it is gone. Guess I gotta put a block on you. Think I've only done that twice before. Looked right past yours like I look right past you. I avert my eyes to roadkill, dogshit and you. Now go be a piece of shit with someone else. I get that some people have trouble reading me so I wanna make sure this is clear enough. Fuck you. Fuck you. Fuck you. Got it? Good. buh bye. Ignore clicked.
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    May 25, 2014 1:48 PM GMT
    Here's a documentary about the topic but from a hetrosexual prospective. Very similar problems though.

    Shy Boys: IRL from Sara Gardephe on Vimeo.

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    May 25, 2014 1:51 PM GMT
    Did you know that you can ask guys to dance with you, ask if you can kiss them and so on? You don't have to wait for them to come to you.
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    May 25, 2014 2:07 PM GMT
    People are overlooked in all aspects of their life. Unless you're cream of the crop in whatever way be it intelligence, looks, privilege/class, etc then chances are you won't be noticed.

    People get overlooked for promotions at work, unless you're a straight A* student at school its highly likely your achievements at school will be ignored, if you have a minor disability then society tends to expect far less of you/writes you off.

    Recognition is for those at the top so your options are carry on complaining, become apathetic to a society that's done you no favours or 'strive' to become part of the elite. Personally speaking apathy wins icon_cool.gif
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    May 25, 2014 2:13 PM GMT
    everyone over looks me
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    May 25, 2014 2:18 PM GMT
    Dennis89 saideveryone over looks me

    Could have sworn you were "Man Of the Day," not to long ago?
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    May 25, 2014 2:31 PM GMT
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    Dennis89 saideveryone over looks me

    Could have sworn you were "Man Of the Day," not to long ago?
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    May 25, 2014 2:32 PM GMT
    theantijock said
    JarIan said .


    Look you little scumbag. I did not read whatever private message you sent, I just hit delete and it is gone. Guess I gotta put a block on you. Think I've only done that twice before. Looked right past yours like I look right past you. I avert my eyes to roadkill, dogshit and you. Now go be a piece of shit with someone else. I get that some people have trouble reading me so I wanna make sure this is clear enough. Fuck you. Fuck you. Fuck you. Got it? Good. buh bye. Ignore clicked.



    I'm sorry
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    May 25, 2014 2:36 PM GMT
    Dennis89 said
    dustin_K_tx said
    Dennis89 saideveryone over looks me

    Could have sworn you were "Man Of the Day," not to long ago?
    icon_lol.gif well there is that !! icon_wink.gif but in real life i meant icon_rolleyes.gif


    I as well, when I was young. Then I decided to do something about it. I started taking the lead, got shot down LOTS of times, but got good at meeting people.
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    May 25, 2014 2:52 PM GMT
    meninlove said
    Dennis89 said
    dustin_K_tx said
    Dennis89 saideveryone over looks me

    Could have sworn you were "Man Of the Day," not to long ago?
    icon_lol.gif well there is that !! icon_wink.gif but in real life i meant icon_rolleyes.gif


    I as well, when I was young. Then I decided to do something about it. I started taking the lead, got shot down LOTS of times, but got good at meeting people.
    The thing with me is i can chat with anyone at all about any subject but nothing goes any further at all, i seem to have built up deep inside me this go and get type notion, but...... i cant seem to do it for my other issues (i do have my logic to why i cant and when explained it does make sense thats why it is so hard to accomplish as its not one of the made up things by the mind), also im at that point in life that even though i crave friendships i just cba with people in another sense. Also when everything costs so much thats a set back, as when you are younger in college and or school your at that age where there are so many social means around you that you dont really need money but that is if you fit in with those people to create friendships.
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    May 25, 2014 2:59 PM GMT

    Dennis89 said, "The thing with me is i can chat with anyone at all about any subject but nothing goes any further at all."

    lol, I remember that so well. Sometimes it really got me down and I would wonder what the point of it all was.
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    May 25, 2014 3:03 PM GMT
    Same here...Not a lot, but it might be a matter on the guys not being into Black guys or whatever.
    At the end of the day "you can be the sweetest peach in the world and there is still going to be someone who hates peaches."
  • KaZT

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    May 25, 2014 4:15 PM GMT
    When I had red/pink/orange hairs everyone were looking at me;)

    Some people (sadly mostly girls) were saying that I have nice hairstyle icon_surprised.gif