Couples Counseling

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    Jan 05, 2009 6:31 PM GMT
    Hey have you ever seen a psychotherapist?
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    Jan 05, 2009 7:13 PM GMT
    Yes.
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    Jan 05, 2009 10:35 PM GMT
    A "shrink" yes, as an individual but never as a couple.....
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    Jan 05, 2009 10:55 PM GMT
    Couples counselor, yes. My EAP was able to get me a gay-sensitive one.
  • GQjock

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    Jan 05, 2009 11:32 PM GMT
    Absolutment
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    Jan 05, 2009 11:32 PM GMT
    Everyone, single or coupled, can benefit from a "check up from the neck up"...
  • UFJocknerd

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    Jan 06, 2009 12:18 AM GMT
    Did it, now do it. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 06, 2009 12:20 AM GMT
    My ex and I went several times to a therapist. The best part was that he generally took my side. icon_biggrin.gif My ex can be pretty stubborn and hard-headed (but he's a good guy).

    Couples counseling sure beats making passive-aggressive comments about each other around friends and family. There's nothing I hate worse than being around unhappy couples - straight or gay.
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    Jan 06, 2009 1:19 AM GMT
    Done the trifecta (individual, couple, and group) and now I practice as one. I'd offer that couple and group therapy offer a level of intimacy and growth that isn't as available for individual work.
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    Jan 06, 2009 1:31 AM GMT
    I was in group counseling for a while. Finally decided I wasn't getting anything out of it. Started falling asleep when the same people would bring up the same stuff every week.

    I think I'm better off just living life and not feeling that I need to worry about what may or may not be wrong, right, or whatever.
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    Jan 06, 2009 3:33 AM GMT
    Personal counselling was very good. Helped me to get some perspective that I was lacking. It improved my self-esteem.

    Couples counselling allows you to at least get someone to hear your two sides and when they question your views, it's coming from someone you have no relationship baggage with. So you're more likely to think they aren't playing some game or fighting back. Plus if you are off the rails, getting told you are by a third party can help get you back to reality. Also, if there's something you'd like to say to your partner but think they will react badly, the counsellor can be a calming presense - refereeing the interaction so that it gets talked through without blowing-up.



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    Jan 06, 2009 3:10 PM GMT
    Yes, and it was worth every cent. Gets you talking, gets you to see emotions you haven't seen, and gets you to empathize, which is critical.
  • Timbales

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    Jan 06, 2009 3:18 PM GMT
    I did personal counseling, and my partner came to a few sessions. I got a point in the counseling where I couldn't go any further unless I took a specific action I was unwilling to do.