Time management, and a balanced lifestyle, can be a major juggling act in American Society, particularly if you have a time-wasting commute thrown in there as well.
One has to decide what's important to them in the big picture and set that as a priority and set the rest aside.
I know folks who make 95K working from home, and others who sit in traffic every day for a lousy 30K.
It's all about creating a plan for success / happiness and executing that plan.
While I can easily make 100K plus it would involve no home life, no exercise, an unhealthful lifestyle and dealing with "corporate ethics." I choose to walk away from that and lead a life with less money, but, more personal freedom and higher ethics.
It's all a matter of personal choice.
Study up on time management skills (I used to teach the class), and I think you'll find yourself happier if you hone those skills. In addition, let the shit go that doesn't matter. I.e., don't sweat the small shit. Exercise, and get to bed on time.
Remember that life is not all about work. Life is not all about play. It's about a balance that we try to achieve for each of our own personal preferences.
I had a great uncle who literally lived in a shack, but, did what he wanted with whom he wanted, when he wanted, and he lived to be 104. I had another friend who retired from TWA Airlines at 42, a boatload of money, a beautiful home, but died at 59 from COPD (breathing problems from smoking). At 48, I don't make as much money as I could, but, my cholesterol is 140, my BP is great, and I'm in the top 2% nationally in terms of fitness. I do worry, however, about retirement, and finding a balance can be difficult.
Americans are over-worked, materialistic, and shallow in many ways. It's hard not to get caught up in all that. Your balance is wherever it is. As we grow older, our brain more completely develops (it gets hard-wired around 30), and our judgment process becomes much keener. We realize that we are mortal creatures, and our values change to some degree. Often, we end up changing directions from a younger time when we lacked sound judgment or the willingness to be judgmental which is critical to our maturation process.
With proper discipline, time management, and patience, we often can have most of what we want. We all know someone who has everything they touch turn to gold, and is in great shape all the time, and so on.
Most of the game is mental, and being able to make sound judgments by looking at the big picture.
I have a friend who is a multi-millionaire (actually several who are). When he approaches an idea, failure is not a consideration. He just does it. Just this past year he took a startup up (medicareprosaver.com) from 0 to 17 million in just four months.
Many gays have a self-centered, I,I,I,me,me,me attitude that clouds their judgment and actions. Most would do well to set that aside for a more positive, pay-it-forward, karma.