Thinking about suicide?

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    May 27, 2014 8:03 PM GMT
    Please don't do it. It gets better.

    There are lots of guys here who have thought about killing themselves, and you know what? It got better.
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    May 27, 2014 8:08 PM GMT
    Unfortunately many people don't understand that when a person gets to the point where they're considering taking their own life, they've lost the sense of understanding why or how it could get better.

    A state of despair and depression that leaves a person almost out of control of saving themselves. Very, very sad. I've lost some friends to suicide and it's so hard to understand for those of us that aren't in that dark place.

    With any luck at all, those that read this will understand, sense, hear, that there are those that do care and that tomorrow can bring hope.
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    May 27, 2014 8:13 PM GMT
    eb925guy saidWith any luck at all, those that read this will understand, sense, hear, that there are those that do care and that tomorrow can bring hope.

    That's my hope. But of course we also need to reach out individually when someone lets us know they are suicidal. We can't depend upon them seeing this thread.
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    May 27, 2014 8:22 PM GMT
    ^^^^

    Absolutely! A voice of care and support could be the light in that dark place that they desperately need.
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    May 27, 2014 9:04 PM GMT
    Dont like saying it but i had suicidal thoughts, i ended up in the back of an er unit as first priority il call it which is when they put me ahead of everyone else in the emergercency room, i took vikes along with drinkig just so i can do it without feeling then i just huffed anf huffed a whole can od computer duster trying to poison myself... Ive tries it cuz my parents reaction of them finding out i was into dudes was totaly not cool and living with that reaction for almost a whole month it just built up and tried ending it. Anyways i layed uncontious on the floor after trying to kill myself that day as my grandma and sisters say. I was also with a super high breathing rate which the doctors tried controlling with some bubble thing, then started injecting me with poison reversing meds, ripping my expensive cloths to get by body exposed.... Like 12 nurses around me rushing doing whatever they had to do to me -.- ummm! Defently not worth it!! Expecialy after hearing that grandma tried giving cpr while you were unconcious lol... Anyways as dead serious i was about killing myself that day, today i look back and relized how dumb it was to try, i know one thing forsure is if i did suceed that day, my parents would have defently killed them selves cuz im there "life" as they always call me.
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    May 27, 2014 9:12 PM GMT
    shortbutsweet saidPlease don't do it. It gets better.

    There are lots of guys here who have thought about killing themselves, and you know what? It got better.


    I'd like to see that rephrased. It doesn't get better, but we do along with our ability to handle it when we persevere. It too will pass.
    Life isn't a destination, it's a path.

    So, yeah, hang in there folks, I've thought about it often when I was younger, but I was just too stubborn to admit anything could defeat me.

    And I was right. icon_smile.gif
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    May 27, 2014 9:14 PM GMT
    eb925guy saidUnfortunately many people don't understand that when a person gets to the point where they're considering taking their own life, they've lost the sense of understanding why or how it could get better.

    A state of despair and depression that leaves a person almost out of control of saving themselves. Very, very sad. I've lost some friends to suicide and it's so hard to understand for those of us that aren't in that dark place.

    With any luck at all, those that read this will understand, sense, hear, that there are those that do care and that tomorrow can bring hope.


    They have tunnel vision and can't see beyond their pain.
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    May 27, 2014 9:22 PM GMT
    NERPalicious saidDont like saying it but i had suicidal thoughts, i ended up in the back of an er unit as first priority il call it which is when they put me ahead of everyone else in the emergercency room, i took vikes along with drinkig just so i can do it without feeling then i just huffed anf huffed a whole can od computer duster trying to poison myself... Ive tries it cuz my parents reaction of them finding out i was into dudes was totaly not cool and living with that reaction for almost a whole month it just built up and tried ending it. Anyways i layed uncontious on the floor after trying to kill myself that day as my grandma and sisters say. I was also with a super high breathing rate which the doctors tried controlling with some bubble thing, then started injecting me with poison reversing meds, ripping my expensive cloths to get by body exposed.... Like 12 nurses around me rushing doing whatever they had to do to me -.- ummm! Defently not worth it!! Expecialy after hearing that grandma tried giving cpr while you were unconcious lol... Anyways as dead serious i was about killing myself that day, today i look back and relized how dumb it was to try, i know one thing forsure is if i did suceed that day, my parents would have defently killed them selves cuz im there "life" as they always call me.


    I'm glad you're still here.

    Life is so precious and definitely worth living.

    It always gets better.

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    May 27, 2014 9:54 PM GMT
    shortbutsweet saidThinking about suicide?

    Please don't do it.
    Yes, please do it.

    "Thinking" about suicide can be emotionally beneficial, as it causes you to reflect on the things that matter most in life.

    Following through with it isn't such a great idea, though. If you succeed, you'll destroy any chance of finding out if things would've gotten better. If you don't succeed, you'll be labeled as mentally unstable, thus limiting career opportunities in certain fields.

    And if your death isn't instant, you'll likely regret the decision during your final seconds or minutes.
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    May 28, 2014 3:23 AM GMT
    Paulflexes' advice to think about it without doing it reminds me of this poem by Dorothy Parker. Her humor is very dark, but it may comfort some of you:

    Resumé
    Razors pain you;
    Rivers are damp;
    Acids stain you;
    And drugs cause cramp.
    Guns aren’t lawful;
    Nooses give;
    Gas smells awful;
    You might as well live.
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    May 28, 2014 3:25 AM GMT
    The problem with many people is that they exist.
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    May 28, 2014 3:36 AM GMT
    shortbutsweet saidIt got better.
    That's pretty presumptuous.
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    May 28, 2014 3:23 PM GMT
    Im there right now.
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    May 28, 2014 3:59 PM GMT
    Rowing_Ant saidIm there right now.

    Oh no….as hard as it is to reach out, now is the time. Reaching out for help allows for someone to give you a very different perspective to your struggles.
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    May 28, 2014 4:35 PM GMT
    Rowing_Ant saidIm there right now.

    I see you have a lot of buddies here. Do you want to talk about it?
  • being_human

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    May 28, 2014 5:55 PM GMT
    for what its worth, I think im too chicken to kill myself. so Im on the safe side... ?...
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    May 28, 2014 7:01 PM GMT
    shortbutsweet saidPlease don't do it. It gets better.

    There are lots of guys here who have thought about killing themselves, and you know what? It got better.
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    I have thought about it when I was younger, but could never actually do it. You think things are bad, but the aftermath for your family & friends can last a lifetime or scar pretty badly
  • metta

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    May 28, 2014 7:15 PM GMT
    Please call the Trevor Lifeline
    866-488-7386


    - it's free and available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

    http://www.thetrevorproject.org/pages/get-help-now
  • BloodFlame

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    May 28, 2014 7:21 PM GMT
    I think it varies from person to person. I mean, I have thought about and even tried to kill myself before in the past. I remember I was a sophomore in high school and just going through a depressive period. I remember coming home one day after school and trying to create a noose for myself in either the bathroom or bedroom (I can't remember sadly). But after I was done, I just couldn't go through with it so I didn't proceed with it.

    They say that it leaves an aftermath to your family when you commit suicide but my family isn't big. All it consists of is my dad and brother and sometimes, I do doubt that they would care if I disappeared. And I don't have any close friends so in reality, I really don't think I'd be hurting anyone if I died.

    OF course, I try to look on the bright side of things these days. Thinking that in time, situations will change and be better but you have to stick around in order to see it. That's how I see it. I admit, I do have my suicidal days but whenever that happens, I just kick on my ipod, lie down and just think about the future of what could be. Usually works every time.

    Some people who ridicule those who contemplated suicide, just don't know what exactly the person is feeling so it's easy for them to make fun of them.

    But I do support your message, it's a good one.


    Nerpalicious said Dont like saying it but i had suicidal thoughts, i ended up in the back of an er unit as first priority il call it which is when they put me ahead of everyone else in the emergercency room, i took vikes along with drinkig just so i can do it without feeling then i just huffed anf huffed a whole can od computer duster trying to poison myself... Ive tries it cuz my parents reaction of them finding out i was into dudes was totaly not cool and living with that reaction for almost a whole month it just built up and tried ending it. Anyways i layed uncontious on the floor after trying to kill myself that day as my grandma and sisters say. I was also with a super high breathing rate which the doctors tried controlling with some bubble thing, then started injecting me with poison reversing meds, ripping my expensive cloths to get by body exposed.... Like 12 nurses around me rushing doing whatever they had to do to me -.- ummm! Defently not worth it!! Expecialy after hearing that grandma tried giving cpr while you were unconcious lol... Anyways as dead serious i was about killing myself that day, today i look back and relized how dumb it was to try, i know one thing forsure is if i did suceed that day, my parents would have defently killed them selves cuz im there "life" as they always call me.


    I'm very glad you didn't die that day. I hope that life has gotten a little better for you since then.
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    May 28, 2014 9:15 PM GMT
    JetSkiFootballer said
    They have tunnel vision and can't see beyond their pain.


    I have had suicidal thoughts myself, and it's very easy to think about it when you are in a situation you don't want to be in. Forced to work long hours with people you don't like in a job that you feel is beneath your skillset, all to pay for rent and food in a place with people you also don't like.

    knowing that there is little you can do about your current situation is always a part of it. the better thing to do for people who you know are feeling bad about where they are, is to help them get out.

    *this doesn't apply to all cases, but it does apply to some*

    kevex saidThe problem with many people is that they exist.


    Indeed. It's not like any of us asked to be here, but... it is the case.
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    May 28, 2014 10:50 PM GMT
    Nirvana_Fan1991 saidI think it varies from person to person. I mean, I have thought about and even tried to kill myself before in the past. I remember I was a sophomore in high school and just going through a depressive period. I remember coming home one day after school and trying to create a noose for myself in either the bathroom or bedroom (I can't remember sadly). But after I was done, I just couldn't go through with it so I didn't proceed with it.

    They say that it leaves an aftermath to your family when you commit suicide but my family isn't big. All it consists of is my dad and brother and sometimes, I do doubt that they would care if I disappeared. And I don't have any close friends so in reality, I really don't think I'd be hurting anyone if I died.

    OF course, I try to look on the bright side of things these days. Thinking that in time, situations will change and be better but you have to stick around in order to see it. That's how I see it. I admit, I do have my suicidal days but whenever that happens, I just kick on my ipod, lie down and just think about the future of what could be. Usually works every time.

    Some people who ridicule those who contemplated suicide, just don't know what exactly the person is feeling so it's easy for them to make fun of them.

    But I do support your message, it's a good one.

    I'm sure there are people who will miss you when you're gone, even if you don't know it. Have you ever seen "It's a Wonderful Life?"

    It certainly can leave a mark on your family and friends. While that thought alone is enough to keep some people from going through with it, others contemplate suicide just to spite the people closest to them. A better way to spite them is to become very, very successful.

    I'm glad you have found a "mantra" that helps you when you're feeling down. That can be very useful, even though it may seem dumb at first. Just pick a word or phrase to repeat to yourself during those times. Often, it's enough to stop the cycle of negative thoughts.

    I have to say I have nothing but contempt for anyone who ridicules those who are deeply depressed.
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    May 29, 2014 3:01 AM GMT

    Bro... Listen,

    I'm not telling you how, but go find some Psylocibin Mushrooms.

    Go to your bedroom or somewhere comfortable, and eat them.

    If you take this advice. I wish you the best of luck.


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    May 29, 2014 3:12 AM GMT
    I had suicidal thoughts this past school year. Violent ones. I kept all of them inside and never let anyone know until I blew up on Facebook and actually tried to call for help. I nearly crashed my car on the highway that night but the RA (who is now my good friend) reached and tried to talk to me. It helped.

    Grades were dropping, friends were dropping. It felt like the entire Universe was imploding.

    But I realized that nothing controls me. My situation doesn't control me. I control me. I'm the only one who can enact a change in my life and no one else can take that power away from me.

    So for anyone out there reading this... you don't have to let your thoughts steer you in the wrong direction or let your situation control you physically and emotionally... you can change things... you just have to take a step forward and think what you life would be like if you were in control.
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    May 29, 2014 3:35 AM GMT
    I feel bad for others to, but we all all feed into a society that ignores the problems of people by focusing on and supporting others' desires for trivial ways of living, and meaningless prioritization.

    As much as it saddens me to see people commit suicide, I personally don't think anyone is in the position to tell someone not to kill them selves, that's not your place. The best thing you can do is offer assistance and make an effort, the rest is up to the person contemplating death.

    If you want to really help others who are suicidal, simply be a better person to everyone you encounter in your every day life, instead of pretending to fully give a shit only when the problem is right in your face where someone is telling you they want to die. The the problem is best treated through constant awareness and prevention for everyone, including people who aren't asking for help.
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    May 29, 2014 4:01 AM GMT
    hurleyjock saidI had suicidal thoughts this past school year. Violent ones. I kept all of them inside and never let anyone know until I blew up on Facebook and actually tried to call for help. I nearly crashed my car on the highway that night but the RA (who is now my good friend) reached and tried to talk to me. It helped.

    Grades were dropping, friends were dropping. It felt like the entire Universe was imploding.

    But I realized that nothing controls me. My situation doesn't control me. I control me. I'm the only one who can enact a change in my life and no one else can take that power away from me.

    So for anyone out there reading this... you don't have to let your thoughts steer you in the wrong direction or let your situation control you physically and emotionally... you can change things... you just have to take a step forward and think what you life would be like if you were in control.

    Great first post. I'm glad you found a way to make it better.

    TO22 saidI feel bad for others to, but we all all feed into a society that ignores the problems of people by focusing on and supporting others' desires for trivial ways of living, and meaningless prioritization.

    As much as it saddens me to see people commit suicide, I personally don't think anyone is in the position to tell someone not to kill them selves, that's not your place. The best thing you can do is offer assistance and make an effort, the rest is up to the person contemplating death.

    If you want to really help others who are suicidal, simply be a better person to everyone you encounter in your every day life, instead of pretending to fully give a shit only when the problem is right in your face where someone is telling you they want to die. The the problem is best treated through constant awareness and prevention for everyone, including people who aren't asking for help.

    I don't think anyone who offered support in this thread is pretending to care, but your point is well taken. Always giving people the respect they deserve is more effective than crisis management. This thread, though, was a response to several people saying they were considering taking their own lives. It didn't just come out of the blue.

    Some people who are suffering make it very hard -- if not impossible -- for anyone to help them. Even when they do ask for help, they antagonize those who offer it. But that's a whole other problem.