Hopefully gays a will educate themselves as they are the worst when it comes to HIV and discrimination. Just the mere fact that this website and others like it ask for your status is despicable. Not to mention it's federally protected private health information.

  • Frostbitblue

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    May 30, 2014 5:52 PM GMT
    http://www.queerty.com/study-undetectable-guys-do-not-transmit-hiv-to-negative-sex-partners-20140305
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    May 30, 2014 7:23 PM GMT
    You have a point (although not about the "federally protected" info.) It may not be relevant, and it doesn't provide important information, but you can leave the answer blank as you and many others have. HIV status would matter to a lot of guys seeking potential sex partners (whether or not it should matter) but one could always inquire if "meetings" were heading in the direction of sex. Maybe it saves one from asking embarrassing questions.
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    May 30, 2014 7:26 PM GMT
    This has been discussed here before, with varying opinions expressed.

    Not that discussing it here would have the faintest influence on what the site owner does.
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    May 30, 2014 7:46 PM GMT
    My hiv positive friends like full disclosure from the start when it comes to even the possibility of dating.
  • coolarmydude

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    Apr 23, 2016 1:39 AM GMT
    Indicating your HIV status is voluntary on this website.
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    Apr 24, 2016 1:25 AM GMT
    Not sure what OP is trying to say here.
  • mybud

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    Apr 24, 2016 1:31 AM GMT
    xrichx saidNot sure what OP is trying to say here.
    He's stating that your HIV status is protected since it's related to U.S. medical record privacy laws.OP, I don't think you're required to state your status on rj, it's voluntary.
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    Apr 24, 2016 1:32 AM GMT
    Can you shorten the topic title? It seems too long and cumbersome for some members to want to check out. Good topic.

  • May 06, 2016 1:42 AM GMT
    OP, I agree with you in theory, especially the part about the GLBTQIAXYZ population needing to take some personal responsibility when it comes to having sex, and choosing their potential sex partners more carefully. In practice, however:

    a.) Until straight dating sites stop asking for STI information, your point is basically moot, and

    b.) Taking personal responsibility for one's actions is, sadly enough, not a popular concept these days - especially among Millennials and Baby Boomers, who spread the most STIs simply because of their age bracket (young stupid kids and grandma/grandpa wanting to "spice things up" before they get much older) and gigantic population size. Just because I take caution before having sex with a new guy doesn't mean that I'm expecting everyone else to do the same in some effort to give myself undeserved moral superiority points like a common Republican or Bible-thumper.
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    May 06, 2016 1:08 PM GMT
    coolarmydude saidIndicating your HIV status is voluntary on this website.

    Correct, and so therefore not, I believe, a violation of any State or Federal laws. That govern the unauthorized actions of various public agencies & activities, not those of individuals regarding their own health information.

    As for myself on RJ, I selected the blank option for my HIV status field. Not that I'm concealing that info here, but as a statement opposing that profile question even existing.

    Is there also a field for your STD status? A field for other major communicable diseases? How about cancer or heart disease? Are you an amputee? For dating purposes, maybe we should cut right to the chase: are you terminally ill?

    No, we don't have those, only for HIV status. That maybe the originators of this site thought was an enlightened attitude. Today perhaps less so.

    If a guy wants to disclose that health information about himself he can do it textually in the general information fields. But giving only HIV status its own field does rather make it the Mark of Cain. I'd like to see it removed.
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    May 06, 2016 1:16 PM GMT
    YoungCollegeTry saidOP, I agree with you in theory, especially the part about the GLBTQIAXYZ population needing to take some personal responsibility when it comes to having sex, and choosing their potential sex partners more carefully. In practice, however:

    a.) Until straight dating sites stop asking for STI information, your point is basically moot, and

    b.) Taking personal responsibility for one's actions is, sadly enough, not a popular concept these days - especially among Millennials and Baby Boomers, who spread the most STIs simply because of their age bracket (young stupid kids and grandma/grandpa wanting to "spice things up" before they get much older) and gigantic population size. Just because I take caution before having sex with a new guy doesn't mean that I'm expecting everyone else to do the same in some effort to give myself undeserved moral superiority points like a common Republican or Bible-thumper.

    Guys lie to your face about being HIV poz. You think they won't also click "Negative" on a gay web site? And when you see Negative in a Profile, do you therefore think it's OK to have unprotected sex with them?

    So what real functional and protective purpose does an HIV profile question provide? Other than an opportunity to declare SOMETHING. That a guy could just as well declare in his profile comments.

    It's a purposeless, useless profile field I find more insulting than helpful.
  • nice_chap

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    May 06, 2016 7:57 PM GMT
    From the article:

    The jury is still out on whether or not studies like this will affect HIV stigma, but one thing is certain: our friends with HIV who are on successful treatment are definitely doing their part to stay healthy — and protect the rest of us, too.

    Way to go, poz dudes.


    If you are open about your sex life and are using sites like this and various dating apps to find partners, then surely declaring your positive status on a public profile is a way of protecting potential partners that might want to hook up with you. I think your sexual partners have a right to know about your status, and what you're doing to keep your sexual activities safe.