Venturing into the Gay World (Non Sexual)

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    May 31, 2014 3:43 PM GMT
    We have had threads about how, where, when and why you knew you was gay but...

    How, where, when, was your first venture into the the gay world if you want to call it that ? in a non sexual way.

    How did you get to know where to go ?

    Did you go on your own ?

    Would you if you where on the older side of thing not be afraid that people will take advantage of you or mess you about maybe due to nievity and or lack of knowledge, basically would you trust people.

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    May 31, 2014 3:46 PM GMT
    I went to a gay bar in Ponce called Wejele. I didn't like it lol The music was terrible. At college, I met a bunch of LGBT people that I could relate to. They even had gay soccer and escrima clubs.
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    May 31, 2014 3:53 PM GMT

    I answered an ad in the newspaper - room available in a shared house, gay men. I met the homeowner and we made friends. He was amused at how new I was, and offered to take me to a club one night.

    So we did, going to a club about a week later. We roamed about the place which was jammed with over 300 men. After an hour or so we left for a walk on the beach nearby then home to my new room (by myself, lol!).

    He asked if I had a good time and I was ecstatic. I told him,
    "There were SIX GAY GUYS IN THERE!!!!" I was so excited, and then he said,
    "Doug, they were ALL gay men...." icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif

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    May 31, 2014 3:55 PM GMT
    My first gay exposure was with an older classmate in my college class. I wasn't attracted to him and I just considered him a friend.

    He invited me to get away to a resort in Palm Springs. It turned out to be a gay resort! I was so naive that I didn't think much of it. We just hung out and one thing led to another, and he started touching me. I wasn't attracted to him but was just curious, so I let him and I started touching him too.

    In the end, we didn't go any further because I got uncomfortable and stopped him. A few weeks later, I broke up friendship with him because I didn't want to be gay and he sort of exposed me to this new world I didn't want to get into.
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    May 31, 2014 4:02 PM GMT
    My only thing to date was being involved with a befriender from a not so local lgbt charity to whom i no longer have contact so..... not much going for me then is there.
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    May 31, 2014 4:11 PM GMT
    There are clubs and a village in Manchester for me to go to and maybe Liverpool but they are to far to travel to regularly, plus the club scene isnt for me (i aint being ungreatful for what there is)

    I would prefer just a bar as such to go to but in another sense i couldnt do it in my town even though thats the only place i can travel and there is nothing here for me.
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    May 31, 2014 4:13 PM GMT
    Dennis89 saidThere are clubs and a village in Manchester for me to go to and maybe Liverpool but they are to far to travel to regularly, plus the club scene isnt for me (i aint being ungreatful for what there is)

    I would prefer just a bar as such to go to but in another sense i couldnt do it in my town even though thats the only place i can travel and there is nothing here for me.


    I'm not into the club scene either. All that smoking, noise and sweat in those clubs. Ick
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    May 31, 2014 4:18 PM GMT
    I have no problem with bars. I just think they're boring lol And clubs are weird. I much prefer a beach party or something.
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    May 31, 2014 4:29 PM GMT
    Basically i am at a point where i have no clue where to turn.
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    May 31, 2014 4:35 PM GMT
    I went to Gay Days at Disney World and it was sooooo amazing! Everyone was so friendly, I met tons of different gay people across the U.S., and I even was interviewed and put in a the gay Orlando Magazine!
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    Jun 01, 2014 9:39 AM GMT
    meninlove said
    I answered an ad in the newspaper - room available in a shared house, gay men. I met the homeowner and we made friends. He was amused at how new I was, and offered to take me to a club one night.

    So we did, going to a club about a week later. We roamed about the place which was jammed with over 300 men. After an hour or so we left for a walk on the beach nearby then home to my new room (by myself, lol!).

    He asked if I had a good time and I was ecstatic. I told him,
    "There were SIX GAY GUYS IN THERE!!!!" I was so excited, and then he said,
    "Doug, they were ALL gay men...." icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif


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    Jun 01, 2014 3:11 PM GMT
    Uncle Victor used to take me down to his dimly lounge when grandma's purple and green pills had set in for the night. He always used the words 'this is not sexual'. I'm so glad I trusted him. Does that count? Pretty sure that was gay. I'll have to go visit him in prison and ask him or his wife, Charlie. I'm sure if i had been older he would have had a harder time tying me into the harness, although I can't be sure as my boss at work has a similar one and he seems to have an easy enuff time getting me into it after I eat the 'special mu shu duck' take-out he likes to order for me and everyo....just me. I bet if i was more full of 'neivity' and 'trusty people' i could qualify for a sex-worker-save-a ho-program. Wait, Neivity is that stuff the eastern euporpean refugees leave inside my rectum after they steal my television on those hot september balmy nights, right?
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    Jun 01, 2014 3:49 PM GMT
    C_Dezi saidUncle Victor used to take me down to his dimly lounge when grandma's purple and green pills had set in...
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    Well, Dennis (and all you young'ns, which means anyone under 60), try to imagine growing up in a time and environment where you didn't know other "gay people" even existed! When I was growing up no one in my world ever talked about such things and it was certainly not mentioned on TV, or at least not directly. I began to put 2 and 2 together reading an article in a magazine when I was 16 years old. I knew I was attracted to other boys, I just didn't know there were millions of other guys and men like myself.

    I was introduced to the first openly gay man I ever met through a truly hot rugby player (you would have *loved* him, Dennis!) who lived in my dorm, first year of college. I was rather shocked to discover this guy even knew someone who was gay. This gay guy, Jeff, was 30 (which to me at the time seemed 'old' LOL), but he was really sweet, highly intelligent and funny as hell. We became friends and he sort of took me under his wing and explained a lot of things I had no idea about. I was too young (19) to get into bars but I got to meet many of his friends. At this time (1967), though, homosexuality was still considered a mental disorder and most of the gay guys nearer my age were not very 'out' except to one another. But Jeff schooled me on the history of gay people and gay culture and helped me find my way amidst the chaos. It still took many more years for me to come to terms with my own feelings, though, and fully accept myself as gay.
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    Jun 01, 2014 3:53 PM GMT
    C_Dezi saidUncle Victor used to take me down to his dimly lounge when grandma's purple and green pills had set in for the night. He always used the words 'this is not sexual'. I'm so glad I trusted him. Does that count? Pretty sure that was gay. I'll have to go visit him in prison and ask him or his wife, Charlie. I'm sure if i had been older he would have had a harder time tying me into the harness, although I can't be sure as my boss at work has a similar one and he seems to have an easy enuff time getting me into it after I eat the 'special mu shu duck' take-out he likes to order for me and everyo....just me. I bet if i was more full of 'neivity' and 'trusty people' i could qualify for a sex-worker-save-a ho-program. Wait, Neivity is that stuff the eastern euporpean refugees leave inside my rectum after they steal my television on those hot september balmy nights, right?


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    Jun 01, 2014 3:54 PM GMT
    Dennis89 saidThere are clubs and a village in Manchester for me to go to and maybe Liverpool but they are to far to travel to regularly, plus the club scene isnt for me (i aint being ungreatful for what there is)

    I would prefer just a bar as such to go to but in another sense i couldnt do it in my town even though thats the only place i can travel and there is nothing here for me.


    You need to get down to Canal Street like in Queer as Folk icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jun 01, 2014 4:48 PM GMT
    C_Dezi saidUncle Victor used to take me down to his dimly lounge when grandma's purple and green pills had set in for the night. He always used the words 'this is not sexual'. I'm so glad I trusted him. Does that count? Pretty sure that was gay. I'll have to go visit him in prison and ask him or his wife, Charlie. I'm sure if i had been older he would have had a harder time tying me into the harness, although I can't be sure as my boss at work has a similar one and he seems to have an easy enuff time getting me into it after I eat the 'special mu shu duck' take-out he likes to order for me and everyo....just me. I bet if i was more full of 'neivity' and 'trusty people' i could qualify for a sex-worker-save-a ho-program. Wait, Neivity is that stuff the eastern euporpean refugees leave inside my rectum after they steal my television on those hot september balmy nights, right?


    There was a poaster here, still posts every so often, super funny, very smart, a little over the top sometimes for my tastes but I do recognize and acknowledge how talented the guy is with his thinking. Anyway, you need to contact him if you see him here because you too are a match made in, well, wherever those things are made.

    Seriously, your thought patterns seem strikingly similar to his by this one post that I just read. There could be a great friendship there. Anyway, his name is or was Guerilla sodomite, something like that, but I think also under various forms of that. My memory of his material is that it is very much your humor. So just thought I'd throw that out there in case you were not aware of the guy. If anything good comes of it I fully expect a 10% matchmaking fee. But I will not be held responsible for any resultant damage which might occur.
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    Jun 01, 2014 7:50 PM GMT
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    Dennis89 saidThere are clubs and a village in Manchester for me to go to and maybe Liverpool but they are to far to travel to regularly, plus the club scene isnt for me (i aint being ungreatful for what there is)

    I would prefer just a bar as such to go to but in another sense i couldnt do it in my town even though thats the only place i can travel and there is nothing here for me.


    You need to get down to Canal Street like in Queer as Folk icon_biggrin.gif
    LOL i actually want to go but money is a issue and also the fact i cant really go on my own
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    Jun 01, 2014 10:59 PM GMT
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    C_Dezi saidUncle Victor used to take me down to his dimly lounge when grandma's purple and green pills had set in for the night. He always used the words 'this is not sexual'. I'm so glad I trusted him. Does that count? Pretty sure that was gay. I'll have to go visit him in prison and ask him or his wife, Charlie. I'm sure if i had been older he would have had a harder time tying me into the harness, although I can't be sure as my boss at work has a similar one and he seems to have an easy enuff time getting me into it after I eat the 'special mu shu duck' take-out he likes to order for me and everyo....just me. I bet if i was more full of 'neivity' and 'trusty people' i could qualify for a sex-worker-save-a ho-program. Wait, Neivity is that stuff the eastern euporpean refugees leave inside my rectum after they steal my television on those hot september balmy nights, right?


    There was a poaster here, still posts every so often, super funny, very smart, a little over the top sometimes for my tastes but I do recognize and acknowledge how talented the guy is with his thinking. Anyway, you need to contact him if you see him here because you too are a match made in, well, wherever those things are made.

    Seriously, your thought patterns seem strikingly similar to his by this one post that I just read. There could be a great friendship there. Anyway, his name is or was Guerilla sodomite, something like that, but I think also under various forms of that. My memory of his material is that it is very much your humor. So just thought I'd throw that out there in case you were not aware of the guy. If anything good comes of it I fully expect a 10% matchmaking fee. But I will not be held responsible for any resultant damage which might occur.


    Thanks for posting that. Due to jealousy issues and a keen desire not to share the crabs we are so carefully cultivating together in our nether regions, my pimp will be raping me every evening for the next fort-night now. And not the GOOD kind of rape. In general i usually get PAID for these premeditated interactions, but assuming the low standards i must have to follow up on the advice of a random stranger online, i'm sure the fact that two semi-intelligent beings can even exist in this deranged homosexual world will be enuff glue for us to have a lifetime of happiness together. chained to the rape-chair in my owners basement.
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    Jun 01, 2014 11:20 PM GMT
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    Thanks for posting that. Due to jealousy issues and a keen desire not to share the crabs we are so carefully cultivating together in our nether regions, my pimp will be raping me every evening for the next fort-night now. And not the GOOD kind of rape. In general i usually get PAID for these premeditated interactions, but assuming the low standards i must have to follow up on the advice of a random stranger online, i'm sure the fact that two semi-intelligent beings can even exist in this deranged homosexual world will be enuff glue for us to have a lifetime of happiness together. chained to the rape-chair in my owners basement.


    um, uh, yeah, well, like I said, you two are gonna get along just fine. You're welcome.
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    Jun 01, 2014 11:24 PM GMT
    Can you buy a rape chair in IKEA or Pottery Barn?
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    Jun 01, 2014 11:28 PM GMT
    Might need to move to the city Dennis.. Lots of guys do, many meet a spouse then move back to the burbs
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    Jun 02, 2014 12:14 AM GMT
    Ohno saidCan you buy a rape chair in IKEA or Pottery Barn?

    Depends on your decor. Pottery Barn is more rustic, sorta garden patio, although the wrought iron can add a certain butch flavor. The bamboo stuff is a bit rickety, in my opinion. IKEA is more contempo, but then it's all KD (knock down), and if you don't assemble it correctly you could hurt yourselves.

    Personally, since we favor Colonial, we prefer Ethan Allen. A bit pricey on some models, but you get what you pay for. And Revolutionary War role play can be very interesting, if you've never tried it.
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    Jun 02, 2014 12:25 AM GMT
    There isn't a whole lot to do where I'm at, but I did find a group that meets once a month at a different restaurant for Happy Hour and even though I don't drink, I went anyway. It was a bit awkward at first, as I didn't know rather or not I was comfortable doing this, so when I got to the restaurant, I just ordered something and sat at the other side of the bar for a few minutes, before I ventured over to meet the group. It was mostly older men, but since I've joined, a lot more younger guys have started coming and the guy that started the group gives me credit for that.
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    Jun 02, 2014 1:02 AM GMT
    My very first foray into the Gay World was actually a Safer Sex Workshop. I thought at the time (1988, yes I'm old) that if I'm going to do this imma gona do it right. The workshop happened at the Glbt center, after a few weeks I started to volunteer there and another few months later I started playing in the gay volleyball club in town. Everywhere I went I met great people and made many longtime friends there.
    Bf#1+2 I met volunteering
    3 dancing in a club
    4 swimming at a local pool
    5 frolicking naked in the Mediterranean.


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    Jun 02, 2014 5:43 AM GMT
    Mine occurred at Walt Disney World in Orlando when I was in the college program. I wasn't alone. When I came out, I made lots of friends and they took me to clubs and bars all over central Florida. It was a blast!