Mild or wild???

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    May 31, 2014 5:04 PM GMT
    So, my last relationship ended a while back because I was always put off by my boyfriend need for kinky stuff.
    I don't judge nor did I find it disgusting. Actually, it would turned me on when I would see it in porn.
    But somehow me reenacting felt a bit much for me.
    Although, we connected on all EVERY OTHER LEVELS, it became a big deal & the cause of the breakup.
    He's been out and proud for most of his life whereas I had just recently came to terms with my sexuality.
    I was raised very conservative & with christian values, but I am not sure if that was the hold up.
    Does anyone has any tips to help me be more open minded about kinky sex for my next relationship or is it just that some people like me just rather have vanilla sex?
    Thanks guys.
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    May 31, 2014 5:48 PM GMT
    Some guys just want to cuddle, others want to be chained to a bed and everything in-between.
    I know a lot of guys refuse to believe sexual compatibility shouldn't matter, but I think you've learned it really does.
    You can compromise, and peoples taste can change, but it takes communication and honesty.
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    May 31, 2014 6:21 PM GMT
    dustin_K_tx saidSome guys just want to cuddle, others want to be chained to a bed and everything in-between.
    I know a lot of guys refuse to believe sexual compatibility shouldn't matter, but I think you've learned it really does.
    You can compromise, and peoples taste can change, but it takes communication and honesty.

    This.

    Balance is good. Be open-minded and willing to try new things, but don't let anyone convince you there's something wrong with you just because you don't like what they like.

    My very first boyfriend was dumped by his previous boyfriend over the same issue. They were very compatible in almost every way, but the other guy wanted something in bed that my ex wasn't into. The other guy told him, "If you loved me, you would do it." If you ever hear that phrase, run the other way.
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    May 31, 2014 7:26 PM GMT
    You like what you like in the sex department. If you are strictly vanilla, and "kinky" sex (by the way you should be explicit about what your BF liked to do that considered "kinky" - we readers have no idea) turns you off, then it's not for you. "Christian" values has nothing to do with it - you're already having gay sex, and for most of the christians preaching values, being gay is already outside.
    It's curious that something that turns you on in porn (whatever that is) turns you off IRL. Experiment some more? Or keep it as a fantasy. Like Dustin said, compromise is possible (It's up to you), but communication is essential with your partner - best done before you become a relationship.
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    May 31, 2014 7:53 PM GMT
    Vanilla is too wild for me.
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    May 31, 2014 8:15 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidVanilla is too wild for me.


    How about Strawberry?
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    May 31, 2014 8:25 PM GMT
    Cash said
    paulflexes saidVanilla is too wild for me.


    How about Strawberry?
    A man after my own heart (since strawberry is kinda shaped like one). icon_wink.gif
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    Jun 01, 2014 9:16 AM GMT
    I am a little bit kinky. My ex was a little too Vanilla for me in bed. However, I don't get too crazy, but I do have a pair of cuff and sex toys. icon_cool.gif