Dating a guy... I realized I'm not gay.

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    Jun 01, 2014 6:16 AM GMT
    So I've been dating this guy for a little over a month and I realized that I'm not gay. The problem is I do really love him, but as a best friend or a brother, and am terrified to tell him because I don't want to hurt him. I feel like the biggest piece of crap. I don't feel it's fair to him or myself keep faking it and pretending when I know the relationship will never be what he wants it to be. He deserves so much more than that. Has this ever happened to anyone?? And does anyone have advise?
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    Jun 01, 2014 6:58 AM GMT
    Awkward, nope, but, sorry for you? Just tell him - it'll be ok.
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    Jun 01, 2014 7:04 AM GMT
    What do you think about when you wank ?

    If it's only about girl, then you are not gay.
    If it's at least partially about men, then you are at least bisexual, and your problem is not (I'm not gay', it's just that you are not sexually attracted to that particular guy.

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    Jun 01, 2014 7:12 AM GMT
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    Jun 01, 2014 7:19 AM GMT
    brother sex is hot! just saying!
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    Jun 01, 2014 7:59 AM GMT
    Are you sure it isn't that you're just not attracted to him (as opposed to not being gay)?
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    Jun 01, 2014 10:06 AM GMT
    Best advice I could give is to tell him! You're absolutely right; he doesn't deserve this. Be honest with him.

    Don't feel too guilty. You gave it a shot, you've discovered that it isn't for you. What else is there to do?
  • Buddha

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    Jun 01, 2014 6:11 PM GMT
    Hm... what do people's answers remind me of...

    Oh yeah

    "Are you sure you just haven't met the right girl yet?"
  • PR_GMR

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    Jun 01, 2014 6:19 PM GMT
    Ok.. You're not gay.. so.. how did you end up dating him in the first place? How did you meet him? Do you find men sexually attractive? I feel we're missing lots of info here.
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    Jun 01, 2014 6:36 PM GMT
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    Jun 01, 2014 9:21 PM GMT
    Lol maybe you're not sexually into Him. That's harsh and way too decided to say, because of 1 date, I'm not a homo. You should notice your **feelings of erection next time if you see a hot guy. Friendzone the other guy. icon_redface.gificon_redface.gif
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    Jun 02, 2014 9:59 AM GMT
    Buddha saidHm... what do people's answers remind me of...

    Oh yeah

    "Are you sure you just haven't met the right girl yet?"


    No, that's a ridiculous comparison.
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    Jun 02, 2014 12:37 PM GMT
    PR_GMR saidOk.. You're not gay.. so.. how did you end up dating him in the first place? How did you meet him? Do you find men sexually attractive? I feel we're missing lots of info here.

    Agree. Though nothing wrong if the OP isn't gay, or maybe bi. But my first reaction is similar to others here: maybe the OP just isn't into this particular guy.

    It does happen, and it's a myth (mostly a straight slander) that all gay guys lust for each other. There are lots of guys who don't interest me sexually, there's only a small minority of guys that I'd want to date, but that doesn't "ungay" me. Straight guys don't get the hots for every woman, either.

    But as you say, incomplete info here.
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    Jun 02, 2014 12:42 PM GMT
    You've been dating for a month. You're not married. He'll get over it.
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    Jun 02, 2014 2:17 PM GMT
    your profile says your 21.
    Now better than later is a good time to figure who you are. your sexuality is more than gay, straight or bi. Its a combination of things that is unique with your name on it.

    Concentrate also what you appreciated out of your current relationship more than what you disliked.
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    Jun 03, 2014 5:57 PM GMT
    Sorry guys, but I think your talking to the wind - first post - no profile - no pic, and posed in the writing style of the classic troll.
  • mybud

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    Jun 06, 2014 4:18 AM GMT
    Don't be trollin if you ain't good at it ...
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    Jun 06, 2014 5:41 AM GMT
    A good man is hard to find.
    Just keep some snatch on the side.
    In fact, if you're really good you could have a whole family thing going on and he'll never know.