What is the worst thing you've endured in a relationship that your relationship survived?

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    Jun 01, 2014 7:06 PM GMT
    Drugs? Cheating? Murder? (JK) What made you want to keep fighting? Just wanna hear some survivor stories.
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    Jun 01, 2014 7:23 PM GMT
    The drugs? Not a big deal. I did pot, and occasionally got a little too drunk...no room to judge for his harder drugs and heavier drinking.

    The cheating? Never has been an issue.

    Murder? I coulda handled that easier, as long as it wasn't someone I know or me.

    But, when we met and he said he was "trying to lose weight" and I believed him, it lasted 3.5 more years before finally deciding that he was just a fat liar who was never going to lose weight. Instead, we split up when he reached 265.
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    Jun 04, 2014 11:32 AM GMT
    The lack of response to this post may provide some insight as to why we are all sad single bastards eating takeaway meals for one directly out I the packaging icon_sad.gif
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    Jun 04, 2014 2:36 PM GMT
    ok, for those singe men
    about last year i discovered my husband cheating. Discussed it with him. He still continued to do it. It was a bad time in my life.

    we went to some couples sessions at the local LGBT Center here which seemed to work.
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    Jun 04, 2014 2:55 PM GMT
    Dishes….fuck I hate doing dishes! But alas, I have survived and he does the dishes icon_smile.gif
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    Jun 04, 2014 4:24 PM GMT
    Ohno saidThe lack of response to this post may provide some insight as to why we are all sad single bastards eating takeaway meals for one directly out I the packaging icon_sad.gif


    Yeah, this is a bad sign... icon_sad.gif
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    Jun 04, 2014 8:53 PM GMT
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    Ohno saidThe lack of response to this post may provide some insight as to why we are all sad single bastards eating takeaway meals for one directly out I the packaging icon_sad.gif


    Yeah, this is a bad sign... icon_sad.gif


    A couple of things:

    If the relationship survived and is doing well, airing the relationship's difficulties simply brings back old things that were dealt with and done with.

    Airing such things on a site devolving into a troll-site only gives further ammunition to said trolls to further their agendas, which is harm to others.

    cheers!

    warmly,

    -Doug
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    Jun 04, 2014 9:57 PM GMT
    I have zero tolerance for drama, mind games, childish behavior, and those with an alter ego, most specially from guys I've dated or being in a relationship with that are around my age. For starters I don't do drugs or have ever suffered from any kind of addiction. I've always being monogamous oriented in every relationship I had, and so far every lover I had have honored that. This morning my co-workers panic from seeing a roach, I grabbed a toilet paper, picked up the roach, and let it loose outside in the parking lot! I have never used or being part of a violent act. You harvest what you sow!
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    Jun 04, 2014 10:31 PM GMT
    I have little to contribute to this thread topic as posed. I've never been through cheating and all that drama, no "worst thing" my relationship survived. They survived without worst things, mostly ended on a lot of little things. Guess I've just been lucky.

    Survived serious illness, yes, but that's part of the deal when you enter a relationship, not something you "survive" in the sense I think meant here but tacitly accept when you partner with a guy. To walk away during illness is betrayal & cowardice. "In sickness and in health" applies as much to gays as it does to straights.

    And the one time I was the victim of domestic violence I walked, there was no "enduring" it, not for one minute. Being a victim doesn't suit me, and if a guy physically threatens me, attacks me, and leaves marks on me, there is no issue of enduring. I have zero tolerance when it comes to violence in a relationship, he's no longer the man I want to be with, non-negotiable.
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    Jun 05, 2014 5:38 PM GMT
    meninlove said
    TravisTi said
    Ohno saidThe lack of response to this post may provide some insight as to why we are all sad single bastards eating takeaway meals for one directly out I the packaging icon_sad.gif


    Yeah, this is a bad sign... icon_sad.gif


    A couple of things:

    If the relationship survived and is doing well, airing the relationship's difficulties simply brings back old things that were dealt with and done with.

    Airing such things on a site devolving into a troll-site only gives further ammunition to said trolls to further their agendas, which is harm to others.

    cheers!

    warmly,

    -Doug


    I have to say, I disagree. And if people want to PM me their stories, I will more than likely hear them that way. Sometimes being a survivor and sharing your story gives people the encouragement to keep going. Someone also posted that they don't tolerate drama/game/ect. Well, so much for being human because as humanity, we are full of drama and games, or else we would all be one shade of gray blobs. There has to be a line somewhere. It is neither black nor white and your gonna have to tolerate some gray or be happy single.