Sexual harassment at work

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    Jun 02, 2014 7:03 PM GMT
    Hey guys! How would you handle a sexual harassment situation? And what if it's more that just one person? Any advice?
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    Jun 02, 2014 7:11 PM GMT
    It depends on the situation, and the sector and country you work in. In my country and industry it is illegal and I can legally make a protected disclosure.

    Can you give us a little more detail?
  • Import

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    Jun 02, 2014 7:39 PM GMT
    tell them u have hep c?
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    Jun 02, 2014 7:49 PM GMT
    Depends - are they Hot???
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    Jun 02, 2014 8:16 PM GMT
    Well... They chicks but it makes me uncomfortable to work with them, but I need to work and keep a steady head. I'm not one to get mad, they are nice people but I'm not interested, besides, I'm gay haha!
  • MikeW

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    Jun 02, 2014 8:22 PM GMT
    Your OP and reply are so brief it is difficult to know whether you're just kidding around or wanting legal or social advice. If legal, consult the laws in South Africa. If social, are you out to these women? In what way are they 'harassing' you? Have you made it clear to them (as you have to us) you're not interested?
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    Jun 02, 2014 8:34 PM GMT
    Everyone knows I'm gay, they know I'm not inerested. Its actually nothing serious, I think their just playing, but I will pissed off if it gets too far.
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    Jun 02, 2014 8:42 PM GMT
    Nip it in the bud now.
    Regardless of the situation, if a female is given an inch then it will take a mile.
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    Jun 02, 2014 8:57 PM GMT
    FireLion saidNip it in the bud now.
    Regardless of the situation, if a female is given an inch then it will take a mile.


    How often has this REALLY been a problem for you???
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    Jun 02, 2014 9:01 PM GMT
    As I said, it's no big deal.
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    Jun 02, 2014 9:01 PM GMT
    eakchan saidEveryone knows I'm gay, they know I'm not inerested. Its actually nothing serious, I think their just playing, but I will pissed off if it gets too far.


    Not sure what You are trying to do here ---

    BUT, if You are being objectified and Your Humanity is being denigrated -- then take an Ax and a flame thrower and take NO prisoners.

    I am actually being SERIOUS here.

    NO ONE has the right to subjugate You to the point You question Your OWN Power as a Human Being.
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    Jun 02, 2014 9:01 PM GMT
    Cash said



    How often has this REALLY been a problem for you???


    FireLionNip it in the bud now.
    Regardless of the situation, if a female is given an inch then it will take a mile.


    ^^
  • Svnw688

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    Jun 02, 2014 9:15 PM GMT
    The following is NOT legal advice, does not establish an attorney-client relationship, and is for informational purposes only:

    I'm an employment discrimination and wrongful termination attorney in Manhattan. It seems you're in South Africa, which is an entirely different set of rules, obviously.

    Having said that, it seems that the girls are likely interested in you and flirting with you. Some days you probably play into it or brush it off, whereas other days it irks you. I would advise you not make ripples now. Realize that these laws are to protect against ACTUAL discrimination, they're not a civility code to make every annoyance go away. For example, if you came to my door with those facts, I would not take on your case because I would think it meritless.

    This does not mean it will not escalate. In fact, and unfortunately, these matters tend to escalate. First jokes, then emails, then light touching, then etc. As such, if it really bothers you then document everything in a journal at home. NOT AT WORK. Write down the date, person and occurrence. It'll become your Bible later if necessary. If it does escalate to touching, report it to a supervisor. If the supervisor does not cure the matter, seek counsel from a South African attorney.

    Best regards,
    JDJ
  • Webster666

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    Jun 02, 2014 11:14 PM GMT
    eakchan saidWell... They chicks but it makes me uncomfortable to work with them, but I need to work and keep a steady head. I'm not one to get mad, they are nice people but I'm not interested, besides, I'm gay haha!


    It's really disgusting that women think it's fine to sexually harass a man, but not vice versa.
    It's no good having to go to work every day, knowing that you'll have to face that crap.
    This can be difficult unless you work for a very liberal company that takes sexual harassment against a gay man as seriously as they do when it's a straight man harassing a straight woman.
    Is it possible to tell them that you're gay, without incurring much greater difficulties for yourself ?
    Are you working in a state where it's legal to fire someone for being gay ?

  • Webster666

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    Jun 02, 2014 11:15 PM GMT
    eakchan saidEveryone knows I'm gay, they know I'm not inerested. Its actually nothing serious, I think their just playing, but I will pissed off if it gets too far.


    My friend, it has already gone too far.
  • Timbales

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    Jun 02, 2014 11:18 PM GMT
    If you don't want to make a big deal of it, talk to the woman (or women) privately and say it makes you uncomfortable and you would like them to stop.
  • venue35

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    Jun 03, 2014 12:21 AM GMT
    I love the movie Disclosure..Demi is such a cunt!!
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    Jun 03, 2014 12:50 AM GMT
    Cash said
    eakchan saidEveryone knows I'm gay, they know I'm not inerested. Its actually nothing serious, I think their just playing, but I will pissed off if it gets too far.


    Not sure what You are trying to do here ---

    BUT, if You are being objectified and Your Humanity is being denigrated -- then take an Ax and a flame thrower and take NO prisoners.

    I am actually being SERIOUS here.

    NO ONE has the right to subjugate You to the point You question Your OWN Power as a Human Being.

    Well he lives in the rape capital of the world, where there are almost no prosecutions - so they don't consider any sex crime very seriously, let alone harassment. However, they do prosecute homicides (at least if they can capture them on video)so axing and flame throwing may not be a good solution, unless he could get them to a remote area first.

    Seriously, since here won't be any outside help, the way to eliminate it is to deflect it - humor, bantering, joining in verbally (complaining about your herpes and syphilis) until they tire of it. Or if he can't stand it, get another job.
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    Jun 03, 2014 12:52 AM GMT
    Webster666 said
    eakchan saidWell... They chicks but it makes me uncomfortable to work with them, but I need to work and keep a steady head. I'm not one to get mad, they are nice people but I'm not interested, besides, I'm gay haha!


    Are you working in a state where it's legal to fire someone for being gay ?

    Webster, he is in South Africa.
  • Apparition

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    Jun 03, 2014 3:23 AM GMT
    the appropriate response would be to date them, make them pay for it all, and take as much as you can get and give them nothing.
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    Jun 04, 2014 9:23 PM GMT
    Well, thank you guys for your feedback. Some of u helped me and some of u jst joked around. It looks like the harassment has stopped.