TexDef07 saidIn theory the answer should be yes. Clearly he had good qualities that attracted you to begin with. If you were in love, you made a connection that went much deeper than attraction.
But if he dumped you the good qualities mean nothing and the deep connection was deeply betrayed.
For the exes who dumped me the most I've been able to manage is a minimal bland phrase or two if we happened to run into each other. Those I dumped did the same.
Interesting take on it. For me would matter the reason for the breakup.
My 2-year college guy simply found a guy more sexually compatible (I'm totally not into anal sex) and left me for that. I've no problems with an open relationship to satisfy sexual issues, but I'm a huge fan of loyalty and I don't take easily to that being broken.
When it didn't work with the other guy who he left me for, he did approach me again but I was still hurting so I was like get the fuck away from me. In retrospect, I realize he hadn't done anything against me specifically; rather, he was just trying to satisfy his sexual needs. So today I think probably I could be his friend. All his good qualities would remain intact and I remember very much why I liked him so much.
But I've had other betrayals, not in partnerships, my other two guys were great, but in close friendships that I would never allow near me again having nothing to do with how I thought of them at the time of our relationship but having to do with the realization that they were never who I thought they were and that shit happens to people all the time.
Because once someone betrays me, their action changes the past: they become someone who would always have betrayed me so had I known that then I never would have befriended them. I've only experienced actual betrayal of friendship a few times relative to the wonderful friends who have remained, some for all my years alive, but they scarred me deeply. When I think that I ever enjoyed those people, I get disgusted with myself and I vomit.
Often traps appear to have good qualities.