Why having gay friends is never a good idea

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    Jun 04, 2014 7:52 AM GMT
    So, I have a good friend (we'll say guy A) that lives quite a distance, but we chat a bit online and meet up for days out. He's made another friend that comes along on these days out now, and it's a little...awkward?

    The other guy is nice, but I get the impression he doesn't like me being there. They're always talking about things they do together, and laughing and joking.

    Is there some subconscious thing going on here where the newbie thinks I'm a threat and about to steal Guy A, who I've actually known for longer?

    Anyone been in this situation before?
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    Jun 04, 2014 11:15 AM GMT
    Personally, I find it easier to be friends with straight guys. They're much easier to be "intimate" with (non-sexually), and it prevents the very situation you're describing here.

    The guy who "doesn't like you being there" is more than likely your own internalized jealousy making you feel that way about him, because you have feelings for guy A. In other words, the only "subconscious thing" is your own.

    And yes, I've been in your situation when I used to hang in the gay areas more often.
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    Jun 04, 2014 11:26 AM GMT
    LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL

    The op is an over-weight girl!!!!!

    I get it!!!!!
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    Jun 04, 2014 11:28 AM GMT
    Cash saidLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL

    The op is an over-weight girl!!!!!

    I get it!!!!!
    Dude, it's not nice to insult over-weight girls like that. icon_razz.gif
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    Jun 04, 2014 11:28 AM GMT
    This is like When Harry Met Sally except even more illogical and without fake orgasms
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    Jun 04, 2014 12:13 PM GMT
    Is this just limited to gay friends? This has never happened with str8 friends?
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    Jun 04, 2014 12:22 PM GMT
    All of my friends are straight lol I really can't find any LGBT person I can relate to besides the fact that they're LGBT.
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    Jun 04, 2014 12:30 PM GMT
    kevex saidAll of my friends are straight lol I really can't find any LGBT person I can relate to besides the fact that they're LGBT.


    All of your friends are imaginary butter boy.
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    Jun 04, 2014 12:31 PM GMT
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    kevex saidAll of my friends are straight lol I really can't find any LGBT person I can relate to besides the fact that they're LGBT.


    All of your friends are imaginary butter boy.


    Pffft look who's talking. You mean like your friend Claystation? icon_wink.gif
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    Jun 04, 2014 12:34 PM GMT
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    Jms31 saidSo, I have a good friend (we'll say guy A) that lives quite a distance, but we chat a bit online and meet up for days out. He's made another friend that comes along on these days out now, and it's a little...awkward?

    The other guy is nice, but I get the impression he doesn't like me being there. They're always talking about things they do together, and laughing and joking.

    Is there some subconscious thing going on here where the newbie thinks I'm a threat and about to steal Guy A, who I've actually known for longer?

    Anyone been in this situation before?


    Three's a crowd.

    The jealous bitch doesn't want you around, and your friend is too stupid to see it or is getting an ego trip out of it.


    silver bullet.

    HAWT "dude"

    fat_people.jpg

    "he's" a REAL JOCK Ya know...
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    Jun 04, 2014 12:36 PM GMT
    kevex said
    Cash said
    kevex saidAll of my friends are straight lol I really can't find any LGBT person I can relate to besides the fact that they're LGBT.


    All of your friends are imaginary butter boy.


    Pffft look who's talking. You mean like your friend Claystation? icon_wink.gif


    STILL was moar interesting than anything "you" will get...

    I though you were too bored to be here???
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    Jun 04, 2014 12:38 PM GMT
    kevex said
    Cash said
    kevex saidAll of my friends are straight lol I really can't find any LGBT person I can relate to besides the fact that they're LGBT.


    All of your friends are imaginary butter boy.


    Pffft look who's talking. You mean like your friend Claystation? icon_wink.gif


    And you weren't even here when He was...so what's it to you???

    HMMMMM???
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    Jun 04, 2014 12:44 PM GMT
    This doesn't happen with straight friends, no. I just felt a bit excluded the other day. I think anyone would actually.

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    Jun 04, 2014 12:46 PM GMT
    Jms31 saidThis doesn't happen with straight friends, no. I just felt a bit excluded the other day. I think anyone would actually.



    lol And the guy above you is proof that having gay friends is a bad idea. icon_lol.gif
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    Jun 04, 2014 1:07 PM GMT
    Jms31 saidThis doesn't happen with straight friends, no. I just felt a bit excluded the other day. I think anyone would actually.



    Does the (we'll say guy B) interloper live closer to Guy A? Their hanging out IRL does put you at a bit of a disadvantage. Perhaps Guy B thinks you nice as well but also gets the impression you don't like him being there?

    Do you have many gay friends, OP? What are your intentions re: Guy A...possibly more than just friends? To say it is never a good idea to have gay friends...well, the str8s are awfully good at putting us down...why you helping?
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    Jun 04, 2014 1:12 PM GMT
    silver_bullet said
    Cash said


    "he's" a REAL JOCK Ya know...


    Hey chicken legs, you really have been triggered haven't you? icon_biggrin.gif

    Your queeny muscle mary "bod" screams fake, brittle, diseased and drugged.



    Yeah I get that a lot.

    I guess I will just have to find a way to live with this mess...
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    Jun 04, 2014 1:13 PM GMT
    kevex said
    Jms31 saidThis doesn't happen with straight friends, no. I just felt a bit excluded the other day. I think anyone would actually.



    lol And the guy above you is proof that having gay friends is a bad idea. icon_lol.gif


    Who's the last friend "you" had???

    Ever...
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    Jun 04, 2014 1:14 PM GMT
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    kevex said
    Jms31 saidThis doesn't happen with straight friends, no. I just felt a bit excluded the other day. I think anyone would actually.



    lol And the guy above you is proof that having gay friends is a bad idea. icon_lol.gif


    Who's the last friend "you" had???

    Ever...


    A bunch. Unlike yours that are either online or imaginary. icon_lol.gif
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    Jun 04, 2014 1:16 PM GMT
    kevex said
    Cash said
    kevex said
    Jms31 saidThis doesn't happen with straight friends, no. I just felt a bit excluded the other day. I think anyone would actually.



    lol And the guy above you is proof that having gay friends is a bad idea. icon_lol.gif


    Who's the last friend "you" had???

    Ever...


    A bunch. Unlike yours that are either online or imaginary. icon_lol.gif


    Yeah.

    you REALLY got My M.O.

    If this is SOOOOOO boring - why are you here???
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    Jun 04, 2014 1:22 PM GMT
    Cash said
    kevex saidAll of my friends are straight lol I really can't find any LGBT person I can relate to besides the fact that they're LGBT.


    All of your friends are imaginary butter boy.


    icon_lol.gif
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    Jun 04, 2014 1:28 PM GMT
    Cash said
    kevex said
    Cash said
    kevex said
    Jms31 saidThis doesn't happen with straight friends, no. I just felt a bit excluded the other day. I think anyone would actually.



    lol And the guy above you is proof that having gay friends is a bad idea. icon_lol.gif


    Who's the last friend "you" had???

    Ever...


    A bunch. Unlike yours that are either online or imaginary. icon_lol.gif


    Yeah.

    you REALLY got My M.O.

    If this is SOOOOOO boring - why are you here???


    You keep making of fool of yourself and I find that entertaining. icon_wink.gif
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    Jun 04, 2014 1:29 PM GMT
    Jms31 said
    Anyone been in this situation before?

    I've been on 3-way dates before, I never found them awkward. In fact, I'd find myself talking with my BF's gay friend more than my BF, if only for the novelty of a new person with new conversation possibilities. I never felt threatened, nor I hope did either of them. I guess it depends on the personal dynamics and agendas, but no, I've not had bad experiences in that regard.

    Now that I'm back with a partner of course it's different, in the sense that neither of us is available nor looking, so we're immune from the jealousy thing with a 3rd guy along. We do it just because they're friends and we like their company, and they happen to be single. Or in a few cases their gay partner was out of town, so they were temporary bachelors, we didn't wanna see them home alone.

    We've had dinner with paulflexes a few times, for instance, nice company, and once with one of his own friends along. We've gone out with Sharkspeare a number of times for dinner, concert, shopping, drinks. And just last night we had dinner with a local single gay friend, a regular drinking and dining buddy of ours. So no, we don't have trouble with a 3rd guy along, we often initiate it, the more the merrier, livens up the conversation when it's guys we like.
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    Jun 04, 2014 2:04 PM GMT
    My partner's hag girls all hate me.
    They seem to consider themselves the guardian of my husband's best interests. He does well for himself; thank you
    or
    They feel inclined to find things for me to do while i'm on a ladder painting
    or
    their child gets scratched while tugging at our house cat's nose hairs.


    We went to a concert with a mutual gay male friend.
    I was with my husband. The friend's hand kept going over my crotch
    and
    embarrassing the guy fell over in his chair
    and
    got into an argument with the usher
    and
    insisted he had fun.


    Had a straight friend over to help work in the car
    we completed the task
    he had a beer
    was gracious affirming to my husband
    and
    he left.
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    Jun 04, 2014 5:03 PM GMT
    silver_bullet said
    Cash said
    Yeah I get that a lot.

    I guess I will just have to find a way to live with this mess...


    Well at least your out of kilter body compliments your personality.


    Yet I can SHOW Mine...

    Maybe not perfect ... But pretty damned Good!!!
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    Jun 04, 2014 7:56 PM GMT
    bon_pan saidIs this just limited to gay friends? This has never happened with str8 friends?


    I once visited two good friends who moved to the west coast. One of these friends was letting a high school friend crash there while he looked for work as an actor. I have never in my life been the object of so much unwarranted hostility as I was during that visit. Everyone pointed this out as well. These were all to my knowledge straight guys, although the high school friend, despite "having a girlfriend" made many homoerotic advances on our mutual friends.