Porn question

  • MarkW1

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    Jun 04, 2014 5:23 PM GMT
    Something has been bothering me for a long time and in the process has got me feeling confused for a long time. But does anyone here not watch porn?

    I find myself looking at shirtless or partially naked celebrity/model (only wearing speedos or boxers as the least amount of clothing) pictures or videos. Not really into watching sexual acts. Nor seeing a guy fully nude (except from the back, I love looking at a sweet round ass icon_razz.gif )

    Anyone else feel like this?

    If it helps for those unaware that I'm a virgin and don't think penises are all the prettiest things to look at (not saying they won't be fun to use, just aesthetically they don't look amazing)
  • creature

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    Jun 04, 2014 5:47 PM GMT
    I'm definitely not in the same boat, but if I were you I wouldn't let this bother or confuse me. Not everyone feels the same way about watching porn or frontal nudity. It's cool. No need to conform.
  • Destinharbor

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    Jun 04, 2014 5:50 PM GMT
    I don't watch it anymore but I think that is simply because I get enough good sex with my partner. But to your other question, the interest in it, the concept is you put yourself into the scene and fantasize you are one of the guys doing whatever it is they are doing. There are a lot of genres so find one that does it for you. Just looking at a guys dick on screen isn't the idea. Imagine the feel of the act portrayed. Some guys who are totally happy with their partner sexually still watch and get off to it because there is some sex act that their partner isn't into that they are, or sometimes, as in our case, they're into something that they don't actually want to do with their partner but the thought of it still turns them on.
  • MikeW

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    Jun 04, 2014 6:18 PM GMT
    Everyone is different about what they find attractive and don't, what they like to watch and don't, etc. Don't worry about it. Don't be surprised if your feelings about things changes through time, either. We're complicated organisms and although we all have many things in common, we're each unique.
  • MarkW1

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    Jun 04, 2014 6:49 PM GMT
    Is it normal to not like certain acts unless you try them first? My friend a while back did say it's perfectly reasonable to not find the cock aesthetically appealing if a virgin. There's also the whole stigma with society where it's normally taboo to see a man fully naked.

    I dunno, just feel alone with my feelings. It's hard to find a good source online. I normally get turned on my worship videos, especially in the torso to stomach area.
  • Bunjamon

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    Jun 04, 2014 6:54 PM GMT
    Everyone is different, and it's whatever floats your boat. Don't sweat it.
  • Import

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    Jun 04, 2014 7:01 PM GMT
    bring on the full-frontal money shots.....
    I wanna see cum flyin, asses pounded, and dicks a swingin.
  • ThatSwimmerGu...

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    Jun 04, 2014 7:02 PM GMT
    I occasionally watch porn. Not as much as I used to. Maybe once a month.
  • MarkW1

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    Jun 04, 2014 7:04 PM GMT
    Being a top is defo appealing. I've had a few thoughts about it in the past, esp to Chris Pine icon_redface.gif

    I get everyone's different, but still I feel a lot of us share the same interests and stuff.
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    Jun 04, 2014 7:28 PM GMT
    Deja vu.

    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/3715822/
  • MarkW1

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    Jun 04, 2014 7:37 PM GMT
    icon_eek.gif shit completely forgot about that thread. That was a long time ago, it's just been difficult to understand how I feel with soo little information on the internet as well as not knowing if others had this experience too. It's hard shit.
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    Jun 04, 2014 7:55 PM GMT
    In terms of what I like visually I am completely with you, but the first time a guy puts your knob in his mouth all that kind of goes out the window given how nice it feels icon_smile.gif
  • MarkW1

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    Jun 04, 2014 8:27 PM GMT
    Yeah that's pretty much how I'm hoping I feel in the future.
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    Jun 05, 2014 4:02 AM GMT
    Everyone is different. You don't have to like what others like. You're you.

    I used to get so hooked on porn that I watched nearly everyday until I realized my body is dependent on it. Now I hardly watch it. RJ is more fun than porn. icon_wink.gif
  • MarkW1

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    Jun 05, 2014 8:11 AM GMT
    Message partially copied from what I sent someone through a PM

    I learned last night not all women (and from what I read quite a lot) don't find it aesthetically pleasing. It's more what they do for them.

    I'm thinking because I've done soo little for a very long time that I've forgotten how some parts of a guy feel. I used to go crazy at the mere sight of a gorgeous guy who happened to have an unbuttoned shirt or nothing on at all, when touching them in my younger days it felt amazing. That could be why I don't know enough about myself ATM.

    The reason I haven't tried anything sexual by now is simply because I'm scared....the typical virgin mindset I guess.

    I think the whole penis worries I keep having was to do with seeing the contrasting view on like every gay site. It got me thinking hang on why are they all soo keen to see the penises of these celebrities? I'd much rather see their bodies. But one thing i think from what a few have said regarding my preference for a good ass has me thinking i could be a top. Would this be accurate.
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    Jun 05, 2014 3:22 PM GMT
    Ohno saidIn terms of what I like visually I am completely with you, but the first time a guy puts your knob in his mouth all that kind of goes out the window given how nice it feels icon_smile.gif

    OMG, is THAT a true statement!

    And to also address some of the OPs posts: my own feelings about porn and male nudity have changed since I came out, and continue to change today.

    Because I lived in denial for so long, and had a long Army career, where I was regularly in contact with other naked guys (barracks, locker rooms, nude swimming) I trained myself not to look at men "down there", even to cringe at the sight. Tough balancing act, because hidden deep inside me I sure still wanted to look!

    Perhaps as a defense mechanism against getting myself in trouble and losing my career (and possibly my freedom along with a few teeth) I eventually convinced myself that men weren't attractive naked, even telling myself dicks were ugly. In those days I played all kinds of mind games on myself to rationalize & suppress my true desires, and protect myself from their dangerous consequences within the US military, to include believing I was straight.

    When I did finally come out after Army retirement I had a field day, like the dam had burst. Bought lots of gay porn mags & videos, went to bathhouses, couldn't get enough views of dick, hard & soft, nor enough action. And I was nuts about nuts, too, still love a good pair.

    To the frequent question of which view of a man you like best, I would always vote dick & balls. The last few years, though, I've come to increasingly appreciate a fine ass. I guess we never stop evolving, our tastes revising. As long as it makes me smile and feel a reaction I really don't care if it's front or back.

    Regarding gay sex, at first I thought anal was kinda gross, and dirty. I told my first gay friends I could never do it, didn't even like to look at it. Oral was what I liked. A few years later, though, curiosity got to me (and maybe some growing lust) and I carefully arranged to be "deflowered". Being a bottom was great, but I also learned I liked being a top, too. Anal turned out to be good after all, and now I watch it in porn videos, too.

    But my favorite remains oral, which I love to give, and to watch on screen. And a generous facial is the perfect climax. I basically watch what I like to do myself in real life. As to the perennial issue of whether gay porn is good for relationships or not, naturally that varies with the men involved.

    My late partner saw any porn as competition with him. He got upset if I watched it, pics or vids, thought it meant I wasn't interested enough in him. Not actually the case at all, but that's what he believed, no changing his mind, so I avoided porn for the years we were together. A man in my bed is worth 2 on the screen.

    My current partner is fine with porn, and it doesn't concern me when he looks at it, either. I think it's a sign of continued male sexual health and well-being. I visit gay porn sites all the time.

    To me it's like when you see a TV commercial for a food place. They show you pictures of delicious meals, that you can't eat off the screen, hoping to get your mouth watering enough to come visit them in person.

    Likewise I'll see some luscious man meat on my computer screen, that also gets my mouth watering. But a 2-dimensional image can't satisfy my appetite. It merely reminds me that the real meat is a few steps away in the bedroom, already laid out.

    So for me porn is just the appetizer, to ready me for the main course. I wish my late partner could have understood that, porn being more his ally than his enemy. But this guy knows it, and so porn is OK in our household.
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    Jun 05, 2014 10:22 PM GMT
    MarkW1 saidicon_eek.gif shit completely forgot about that thread. That was a long time ago, it's just been difficult to understand how I feel with soo little information on the internet as well as not knowing if others had this experience too. It's hard shit.


    Come on! icon_lol.gif How about those of us who grew up with no internet and got our information from the kids at school or in the neighborhood?

    I think there's too much info on the net and it's confusing the hell out of a lot of young people. If you're gay you're supposed to love this. If you're straight you're supposed to love that.

    When you were a kid you may have loved Lucky Charms but as an adult you might hate it. You're obsessing over this a lot. You may change, you may stay the same. Go with your heart.
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    Jun 05, 2014 10:45 PM GMT
    I remember when I first started to jerk myself of with pictures of men in their underwear..Then it progressed to watching porn shots (straight) of floppy disks...And then...The age of the internet!

    Now I look at porn if I have no one available to copulate with.
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    Jun 06, 2014 2:55 AM GMT
    I love porn icon_redface.gif
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    Jun 06, 2014 3:32 AM GMT
    kevex saidI love porn icon_redface.gif


    Time to detox. icon_lol.gificon_lol.gif
  • MarkW1

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    Jun 06, 2014 7:46 AM GMT
    Based on what a lot of you are saying it seems that these interests can change or gradually evolve. icon_smile.gif

    AlmondJoy said
    MarkW1 saidicon_eek.gif shit completely forgot about that thread. That was a long time ago, it's just been difficult to understand how I feel with soo little information on the internet as well as not knowing if others had this experience too. It's hard shit.


    Come on! icon_lol.gif How about those of us who grew up with no internet and got our information from the kids at school or in the neighborhood?

    I think there's too much info on the net and it's confusing the hell out of a lot of young people. If you're gay you're supposed to love this. If you're straight you're supposed to love that.

    When you were a kid you may have loved Lucky Charms but as an adult you might hate it. You're obsessing over this a lot. You may change, you may stay the same. Go with your heart.

    What I meant was trying to find the information I was looking for on the internet lol icon_razz.gif there's very little to find making it difficult for me to understand why I'm feeling this way. In the process making you feel alone and question yourself. The internet can be dangerous shit sometimes.
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    Jun 06, 2014 8:19 AM GMT
    It could be a few different things - as you've mentioned, it could be that you just don't have the experience to really appreciate hardcore porn or understand it exactly. It could also be that you just aren't that interested in having sex to that degree, nor do you find such things as stimulating.

    I've met a guy who is my age and he does not like engaging in anal or oral sex with men - but he's had plenty of "jerk off" sessions with other guys and identifies as gay. That's just his thing. Maybe you're just one of those posh; dainty gays icon_biggrin.gif.

    I suppose when I was a virgin who first started watching porn, I guess I do remember it being mostly just softcore stuff (albeit, I've ALWAYS found penises to be super exciting icon_biggrin.gif). It wasn't until I've not only made it passed the 'home base' and started experimenting with dudes until I really started getting into it... and since then, my sexual interests have erupted into a variety of different directions, some of which I've never in a million years would've ever imagined icon_lol.gif .

    So, give it time and do some exploring.
  • MikeW

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    Jun 06, 2014 11:31 AM GMT
    Rolfron said...since then, my sexual interests have erupted...

    Tell us more about these eruptions! icon_razz.gificon_twisted.gif

    I vividly recall the first time a slightly older boy suggested I suck his dick. Don't remember exactly how old I was but couldn't have been more than 8 or 9. I had been jerking off since age 6 and had jerked off with other guys, too. But I can see him standing there with his dick out, waving it at me sort of teasing me. The very thought of it repulsed me, like *gag*, and I was kind of embarrassed and pissed off. But, then later, the more I thought about it, and pictured him standing there holding his dick in his hands, the more I began to think, hmmm, that might not be so bad! In fact, it might be kind of interesting. As it turned out, he, being a bit of a jerk, never received my favors but other guys I offered the service to reaped the rewards. Some of those even returned the favor. icon_razz.gificon_twisted.gif
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    Jun 06, 2014 7:19 PM GMT
    MikeW said
    Rolfron said...since then, my sexual interests have erupted...

    Tell us more about these eruptions!


    icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif

    My cup's already full and it's bound to overflow!
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    Jun 06, 2014 7:37 PM GMT
    I haven't read everybody's responses from this thread (or March's, lol), but it could be just a third-party thing. Perhaps you can't psychologically transpose yourself into the role of either/any of the actors.

    It might be the ways the scenes are set up, how the actors appear relative to yourself, the background setting and music, or how they react to one another at different moments during the action, compared to how you think they should. It could be that a significant divergence from whatever turns you on could turn you off completely.

    Sometimes you might need to see more courting and romance and interplay and foreplay, and less of the wham-bam-thank-you-sir.

    Often, it's easier to take those 2-D images of the object(s) of your momentary affection and allow your OWN mind to run wild with it/them, rather than watch somebody else's interpretations of how the actors' interactions should play out.