Did you grow up without a father?

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    Jun 06, 2014 4:42 AM GMT
    Just wondering if there are any guys out there who grew up without a male figure in their life. If so, do you believe it impacted your sexuality?
  • Rene_Aensland

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    Jun 06, 2014 4:44 AM GMT
    Yup!
    I haven't had a father, my mom raised 4 men.
    Two older brothers and 1 younger.

    My older brothers were more of the father figure to me, they were very responsible while growing up; school, jobs, college and getting their own home.
    My whole family has also been very supportive of my sexuality, they've never had a problem with it and consider Anthony (my guy) a part of the family, my mom calls him "Mijo." (my son)
    <3

    My mother and my brothers have impacted my life more than a father has. =]
    I currently have 2 jobs, living on my own since 18 and getting an apartment or studio in a couple of months. =]
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    Jun 06, 2014 4:44 AM GMT
    I grew up with a father. It made me straight since I had a male figure in my life. But I rebelled and chose to be gay just to spite him.

    #sarcasm
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    Jun 06, 2014 4:46 AM GMT
    Yeah never met my father and my mom died when I was 9. Not sure it had any impact on my sexuality though. But I know it did had an impact in the way I want to become a father myself and be a good one at that.
  • MikeW

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    Jun 06, 2014 4:47 AM GMT
    Yes, I did.

    No, I don't.
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    Jun 06, 2014 3:04 PM GMT
    I did actually have my dad around. But, sadly he was drugged up on heroin. He would go on angry tirades, disappear for days, and we would get in physical fights as young as me being 11 or 12.

    I don't think it had anything to do with sexual orientation though. I had other dudes i could look up to at that time in my life as well.

    The only thing it did impact me on as Dave mentioned. Is how i want to be a good father when i eventually get kids icon_smile.gif
  • HottJoe

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    Jun 06, 2014 3:30 PM GMT
    Nope. I was fortunate to have a father and a mother. They've been married for 35 years and counting.

    I don't think that having a father figure has anything to do with innate sexuality. To say otherwise sounds like little more than rightwing propaganda.
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    Jun 06, 2014 10:14 PM GMT
    Yes, I grew up with a father, ,,,,, I also watched him be an extreme alchoholic ,,, from the time I was 7 yrs old till I was 16 I saw him drink a fifth in 2 days, ,,he also had a pint with him always..............so I turned my attention to a few older guys who took interest in me and thats why I'm gay now.
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    Jun 06, 2014 10:20 PM GMT
    No but wish I had
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    Jun 06, 2014 11:36 PM GMT
    My dad remarried before I was born. So I only got to see him once a week but there was no bonding between us at all. I do wish I had a present, loving father.

    I think the absence of a father figure impacted my sexuality. My sister is also gay. Not to say that this impacts everybody, but this is just from observing my own family.
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    Jun 06, 2014 11:50 PM GMT
    my dad was "kind of" around before my parents divorced sometimes in middle school.

    before divorce he was always working anyways. after divorce we didn't even talk lolz
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    Jun 07, 2014 2:18 AM GMT
    silver_bullet said
    HottJoe saidNope. I was fortunate to have a father and a mother. They've been married for 35 years and counting.

    I don't think that having a father figure has anything to do with innate sexuality. To say otherwise sounds like little more than rightwing propaganda.


    As compared to Feminist propaganda like: 1 in 4 women are raped.icon_rolleyes.gif


    Silver bullet...you such a self-hating ass...lol
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    Jun 07, 2014 6:50 AM GMT
    silver_bullet said
    HottJoe saidNope. I was fortunate to have a father and a mother. They've been married for 35 years and counting.

    I don't think that having a father figure has anything to do with innate sexuality. To say otherwise sounds like little more than rightwing propaganda.


    As compared to Feminist propaganda like: 1 in 4 women are raped.icon_rolleyes.gif


    Getting sick of your hatred towards women, youre a sad guy.
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    Jun 07, 2014 12:47 PM GMT
    Only child here... and lost my Dad when I was 7.

    I'm glad i was old enough to know him and remember him, and the lessons I learned from him.

    As far as "impacting" my sexuality... dad raised me to have a level of confidence without it becoming an arrogance, and I think that trait is an extremely attractive quality in others, so I hope I wear it well.

    If the question is "Did not having a dad make you gay" then that's a big no... but my dad did make sure to raise me to be a good man.
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    Jun 07, 2014 3:50 PM GMT
    I was very lucky to be raised by both my grandfather and great-grandfather (as well as my grandmother and great-grandmother). They didn't influence my sexuality (that I'm aware of) but they all gave me a life - and taught me a zillion things. They showed me real love and acceptance.

    My "father" was busy with his work, his friends, his women. He was uncaring, at times vicious, and mostly - gone. He didn't influence my sexuality...... or anything else about me for that matter.
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    Jun 07, 2014 4:50 PM GMT
    Jockbod48 said
    My "father" was busy with his work, his friends, his women. He was uncaring, at times vicious, and mostly - gone. He didn't influence my sexuality...... or anything else about me for that matter.


    Wondering if yours and mine are one in the same...icon_confused.gif

    Can't say he was entirely uncaring...just unpredictable.
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    Jun 07, 2014 4:55 PM GMT
    ^^^^^My "father" got around and it wouldn't surprise me to hear he had other children with other women........and you and I do look kind of alike............so.........are we brothers from a different mother???
  • thadjock

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    Jun 07, 2014 5:13 PM GMT
    my mom and dad got div when I was 6 (my dad is attracted to the super hot mess types, & she couldn't deal with constant re-deployments) I and my older 2 bros lived with my (career military, totally masculine) dad full time from that day forward. I don't believe the gender of your parental figure has an irrevocable effect on your sexual orientation.

    We've always been super tight, and my dad is old school blood is thicker than water type. I've been gay since i was born, and my dad says now that he knew all along, and he's always been 100% in my corner, like he is with all his sons, str8 bi or gay.

    I have the strongest male father figure I've ever seen and though he's influenced alot of my character along the way, the only thing he did to effect my orientation is contribute the original dna that made me.

    so, it annoys the fuk out of me to hear guys say that they're gay because they didn't have a father around. that's bull shit, your dad missing in action might be the reason you're in a gang, or a sociopath, or not understand baseball, but your dad going AWOL is not the reason you're gay.



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    Jun 07, 2014 5:15 PM GMT
    No and no.
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    Jun 07, 2014 5:19 PM GMT
    First time I saw Dave Draper, I knew...icon_eek.gif
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    Jun 07, 2014 5:43 PM GMT
    I grew up without a mother who passed away when I was 4. I don't know if missing a father or mother makes you any different. I just know that it is hell for children of any age.
  • SuntoryTime

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    Jun 07, 2014 5:43 PM GMT
    I grew up with a father. Dad is still very within my life.

    And I'm still gay. icon_razz.gif
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    Jun 08, 2014 4:46 AM GMT
    For the most part, yes and it didn't impact my sexuality. It did impact my life though, I know if he had been more of a presence in my life, I would have gone down the wrong path.
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    Jun 08, 2014 4:59 AM GMT
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    JK, but he's been out of my life since I was a toddler. I don't think it affected my sexuality at all. I'm the only one out of his four boys that ended up gay, so... The mystery continues.
  • KepaArg

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    Jun 08, 2014 6:33 AM GMT
    My dad died when was I was 7, but I remember him positively. I was raised by a strong woman, who raised 3 kids on her own and ran her own business successfully.

    My family and I are super close I'm the gay one out of 3.