How many Internet dates have you had that were hot?

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    Jan 07, 2009 4:30 AM GMT
    I've been trying to meet guys on the net for over ten years and I have only met one guy that I was attracted to. Unfortunately we met to do a sport together and he told me upfront about his bf.

    I know I don't have any pictures in my profile but I do on other sites. I just want to write this anonymously so as not to offend anyone the may be on the net and have had a date with me.

    So I usually post a lot of pictures, no nude but some sexy ones just the same. I get wolf message, gropes and the like. A lot of this attention died off as I matured so I recently put a profile up on Daddyhunt with fresh new pictures. The attention came pouring back and I've already met three guys from the site. I was not at all attracted to any of them.

    Now I do meet guys I'm attracted to in the real world but it is always a quick fuck. The cruel irony of it was evident last sunday. I made plans to meet to guys spaced a couple of hours apart. While I was waiting for the first in front of the bar I big hunky guy is smiling at me. He tells me he just came down from NC. He's military and has done two spins in Iraq. He asks me what I'm up to tonight. So there you have it. I could have fucked around with a hot military dude but instead I went on two lame internet dates.

    I just came back from a third tonight. I think the guy had a facelift and his hair is hopelessly died. He said in his profile he was only a couple of years older than I am but I don't know what to believe.

    So there you have it. I go out in the real world and I find all kinds of hot studs to fuck around with but never anything serious. I try to meet someone on the net to see if I can start something serious and they all seem so homely. Yes I look at pics but you really can't tell much from a pic. It is a person's facial expressions and mannerisms when you meet them that make or break it.

    So what has your internet dating success rate been? I'm batting 0.000.

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    Jan 07, 2009 6:28 AM GMT
    I came out through the Internet, I had my first gay sex with a guy I met online, I met my first BF that way, and both my present and late partners. If you limit the question to "hot" then I've also met a few of those, too, but the men who meant more to me had other qualities than hot.

    What interests me online isn't pics, but text. I can usually evaluate the man that interests me by his ability to express himself in words. And I don't snap at the first guy who can spell more than 3 words correctly, or form a coherent sentence or two.

    Next I phone the guy, and listen to his voice, which also tells me a lot. We'll also exchange photos, though I know how deceptive those can be. Even so, I've never met a guy in person who wasn't like his pics; maybe I've been lucky, or maybe I made it clear that I wouldn't tolerate fakes.

    The Internet is great for dating, in my view, if you know how to use it.
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    Jan 07, 2009 3:30 PM GMT
    Well I have met some nice guys. I've just never been attracted to any of them. I find the real challenge is that I see their photo and then talk to them on the phone and I imagine a type of person. On this last date the guy looked nice but not a hunk based on his photo. He sounded very mature and interesting on the phone. I figured this would be a date with an average looking regular guy that was sincere. I could give up the quickies with the hot studs for a guy like that. When I met him in person it was hard to get past how different he was from what I imagined. It's not that the personality was that different just that his face looked like he had botox or a face lift. What was really strange was his profile. It was like a different person that was much older.

    Sometimes they look older or heavier than their photos but other times I find that once you add the subtle gestures or mannerisms they are more effeminate then I imagined.
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    Jan 07, 2009 3:49 PM GMT
    i met my last bf on the net. we were together for 3 yrs and still great friends now.

    since then i've met some great sexy guys, some of whom i hook up with now and again.

    had a few strange experiences when guys haven't been like their photos or descriptions. but the last guy i met was actually more good looking than his pics. very, very hot portugese guy. yum yum! icon_wink.gif
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    Jan 07, 2009 3:52 PM GMT
    Are you relating internet dates to sites such as mypartner.com and eharmony.com or craigslist.org, gay.com etc..?

    I've met a multitude of men from the net and have favored fairly well. Although they may not have been the guy for me at the time, they are still friends of mine. I'd say that there are only about a handful that I don't talk to.
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    Jan 07, 2009 4:05 PM GMT
    Never been lucky enough to email date so I'm batting 0.00 myself let alone an actual real date that developed into something more.

    I went on a blind date last year in Nov. My first time ever. My friends were sorta getting tired of me being the only single person in our little click so they decided to attempt to match me up with someone they knew from work. Now I'm always leary of such things but I figured worse case scenerio either I wouldn't be interested or guy wouldn't. Turns out I was right and I'm better for it I think.

    The guy wasn't interested in me. He was freaking hot as hell but his attitude towards me killed it. Everything was going pretty well as well sat at the table and were laughing in the group. The guy and I talked for a bit and things were going smoothly til he started asking particular questions to which I gave honest answers to. Apparently that didn't sit well with him and he judged me based off of my job and according to him "limited knowledge".

    WOW! That's pretty much all I could say after that. From that moment the spark had faded and I was like "Well that's nice." I still had a good time. I refused to let the night be ruined by some pompus arrogant dude who was stuck on himself. I feel likie I made out like a bandit because I didn't pay for anything that night. My friends had orchestrated the whole blind date thing so they figured they would pay for everything. So all in all I had fun.
  • Timbales

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    Jan 07, 2009 4:06 PM GMT
    0

    I've been in a relationship longer than the internet has been widely used.
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    Jan 07, 2009 4:22 PM GMT
    guy i was with for almost 4 years I met online. . . and subtract that from my age haha. But yeah he was hot. . . shame we broke up.
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    Jan 07, 2009 4:47 PM GMT
    2 / 5

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    Jan 07, 2009 4:55 PM GMT
    HighVoltageGuy saidAre you relating internet dates to sites such as mypartner.com and eharmony.com or craigslist.org, gay.com etc..?

    I've met a multitude of men from the net and have favored fairly well. Although they may not have been the guy for me at the time, they are still friends of mine. I'd say that there are only about a handful that I don't talk to.


    I thought eharmany was only for straights. Never heard of mypartner. What is that like. I think I need something more serious and less geared towards horny guys with ADD.

    I've just used all the usually free sites. I started with gay.com a bit over ten years ago. Been through a few other sites but it almost always the same. I post up a profile with pictures get a lot of initial responses and then your shine wears off. I've had a few relationships with guys I met in the real world along the way but the internet has always fallen way short. One problem may be that I tend to be more passive on the internet then in the real world. I just can't tell if a guy is my type on the internet. I've become more aggressive in the last few years but now I think my age scares a lot of guys off.

    For those who have had success, what sites do you recommend and what do you not. Keep in mind that if it is popular among young guys it probably won't work for me. It doesn't matter if you look great a 50 not many guys want to start something serious when a large age gap is involved.
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    Jan 07, 2009 7:46 PM GMT
    it looks like hot military dudes are your type - you are 100%attracted to them - and when you meet other hot&gorgeous - you look for the milmen features anyway

    Maybe there's sites like militarygay.com or so..
    Btw, before RJ i knew a bit nasty Bigmuscle.com - there was a bunch of such type there

    One of other ways, you could just try & find military guy who needs LTR too or who tired of hookup f*ck icon_smile.gif
  • TallGWMvballe...

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    Jan 07, 2009 8:00 PM GMT
    Well majock,

    I have joined the free sites and even paid Match.com and Yahoo Personals.
    Maybe they work for the younger guys but my experience was that 99 percent of the guys I wrote to (of course the ones that are compatible) would NOT write back... ever ... even the few that bothered to read my profile.

    Having said that, I HAVE meet several really nice people, some VERY hot dates, a few lasting longer and many good friends on the net.
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    Jan 07, 2009 8:01 PM GMT
    I guess my post sounds that way but no. I'm not into just military types. I like smart athletic guys of various ages and cultural backgrounds. But a hot military type can fall into that category and if he's not that smart he could still be fun in bed.
  • kinetic

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    Jan 07, 2009 8:06 PM GMT
    I had been on 2 from other sites a few years ago that were total train wrecks.
    The 1st one the guy expected me to go home with him just cuz he bought me dinner. I insisted on going dutch but he refused and there was absolutely NO chemistry whatsoever.
    The 2nd, I met up with him and he was nothing like his photos and it was really awkward. I told him I had forgotten about something and that I had to go and I left the weird situation.

    Now, I recently went on a date with someone from this site... icon_biggrin.gif
    I was awesome and very hot. I told him I was interested in meeting up again. We'll see, I'm not gonna get my hopes up, but it would be nice! He is a bit younger than me and I have a feeling he was just playing the field. I guess I was too, fair enough. Like I said, we'll see.
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    Jan 07, 2009 8:06 PM GMT
    I relate "internet dating" with specifically hooking up and nothing more! For dating, I lean towards the physical world, meaning the person is tangibly in front of me and I can see/hear him!!! I've had many HOT hook ups and I'm sure in the reality of it I could have probably perused something more with some of them, but internet for me is just for hooking up not dating. An addendum to the internet "dating" sites would be this site, however I don't utilize it to "sell" myself in to a relationship however have met several GREAT guys off here and we're friends, so there's some GREAT relationships there.
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    Jan 07, 2009 8:18 PM GMT
    Though it was several years ago, and referring to dates and not hookups, 1 out of 5 was hot. I quit internet dating after that.
    I ought to clarify that of the five that were not hot to me, the failure from my perspective was that it was either physical or personality. Either they were physically very attractive to me with a lousy personality or the other way around.
    I haven't been on a date (or anything else) in 15 months now. icon_neutral.gif
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    Jan 07, 2009 8:26 PM GMT
    In my opinion,

    hookup_date or f*ck_date (off intenet too) could be a good biochemistry test )

    If we do not match at this level we hardly would be fab lovers but we may be great friends - after f*ck failure too icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 07, 2009 8:28 PM GMT
    Thanks wootwoot.
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    Jan 07, 2009 8:38 PM GMT
    I don't get the "internet dating" thing. It's like playing "Sims".
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    Jan 07, 2009 8:58 PM GMT
    a1972guy saidI relate "internet dating" with specifically hooking up and nothing more! For dating, I lean towards the physical world, meaning the person is tangibly in front of me and I can see/hear him!!! I've had many HOT hook ups and I'm sure in the reality of it I could have probably perused something more with some of them, but internet for me is just for hooking up not dating. An addendum to the internet "dating" sites would be this site, however I don't utilize it to "sell" myself in to a relationship however have met several GREAT guys off here and we're friends, so there's some GREAT relationships there.


    At this point I'd settle for a hot hook-up but I find that is such a shot in the dark. You put in so much effort with profiles and chatting and driving to the person ect... I also don't feel comfortable going to a stranger's home or inviting one to mine. If I need to get my rocks off I can go to a sex club and do much much better. On a good night I just walk in and in the first 15 minutes I find someone hot. I have had more luck a gym's when guys slip me there number or follow me out. I don't know how you guys manage to find hot guys on the net. I suppose if I lied about my age I could go for the sex hook-up but that would be undignified and still a shot in the dark.
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    Jan 07, 2009 9:05 PM GMT
    I've had a few really good hook ups, and one good long term thing that originated from the Internet, so I have a good impression of that source. One reason I've had such good luck is that I spend a good amount of time talking with them by phone before getting together. That way we can each determine fairly accurately if we're in synch with each other.
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    Jan 07, 2009 9:20 PM GMT
    For some reason, I have generally met the crazies. However, I did meet my boyfriend on the 'net and we've been together for almost a year. It might have worked out because by the time I met him I had decided I wasn't going to date anyone and that every gay man was psycho. I was just chatting with folks out of boredom but he was able to have great conversations and finally I decided it was okay to meet him in person. I'm glad I did. I guess all it takes is one good man out of many.
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    Jan 07, 2009 9:24 PM GMT
    All of them? I make sure to talk to the person a lot and see some pictures before we decide to meet up.

    I'm one hell of a picky dater..
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    Jan 07, 2009 9:27 PM GMT
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    a1972guy saidI relate "internet dating" with specifically hooking up and nothing more! For dating, I lean towards the physical world, meaning the person is tangibly in front of me and I can see/hear him!!! I've had many HOT hook ups and I'm sure in the reality of it I could have probably perused something more with some of them, but internet for me is just for hooking up not dating. An addendum to the internet "dating" sites would be this site, however I don't utilize it to "sell" myself in to a relationship however have met several GREAT guys off here and we're friends, so there's some GREAT relationships there.


    At this point I'd settle for a hot hook-up but I find that is such a shot in the dark. You put in so much effort with profiles and chatting and driving to the person ect... I also don't feel comfortable going to a stranger's home or inviting one to mine. If I need to get my rocks off I can go to a sex club and do much much better. On a good night I just walk in and in the first 15 minutes I find someone hot. I have had more luck a gym's when guys slip me there number or follow me out. I don't know how you guys manage to find hot guys on the net. I suppose if I lied about my age I could go for the sex hook-up but that would be undignified and still a shot in the dark.



    No need to lie. No need to "try". Just stay off the dating perspective when on-line, it's a mental/emotional roller coaster!!!! Stick with works best, in person meetings!!
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    Jan 07, 2009 11:32 PM GMT
    lissenup saidFor some reason, I have generally met the crazies. However, I did meet my boyfriend on the 'net and we've been together for almost a year. It might have worked out because by the time I met him I had decided I wasn't going to date anyone and that every gay man was psycho. I was just chatting with folks out of boredom but he was able to have great conversations and finally I decided it was okay to meet him in person. I'm glad I did. I guess all it takes is one good man out of many.


    Then there is hope but I guess I have to wait until I've decided all gay men are psychos? icon_eek.gif

    Thanks for all the feedback and I appreciate people sharing their stories.

    But really I've done the phone conversations as well. I can get a very positive feeling on the phone only to find the guy is so different then I imagined in person. That is what happened last night. One time I talked extensively to guy and it seemed we had so much in common I was really looking forward to meeting him. He is younger than I am but looked mored tired, older than his photos, and was not nearly as fit. Still we should have at least become friends. I was living in a smaller city and hadn't been laid in a long time so when he started making a pass at me I didn't resist. I wasn't that excited by the sex since I wasn't really that attracted to him. Still I would have gotten together with him had he called and maybe I would have developed more of an attraction. But I suppose he sensed my lack of enthusiasm and never bothered to call. It was a shame because we could have at least become friends. This has happened to me on at least one other occasion. So even when I give in and have sex I find it is not nearly as good as the sex I can get just picking up someone from the gym, beach, or sex club.