I dont wanna be your fag hag

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    Jun 13, 2014 11:03 PM GMT
    ugh, now that im getting older (gonna be 20 soon) this girl that has been my good friend since I was 14 said to me today "I feel like people look at me like I'm your fag hag and I dont wanna be your fag hag"

    For some reason that made me feel like shit. I never looked at her as a "fag hag" or anything, she was just my friend. We always got a long and had fun but when she said that it almost seemed like she didnt wanna chill with me as much anymore cuz people are starting to call her a fag hag....... because of me. I'm the fag and shes the hag.. icon_sad.gif

    Its fucked up because we were talking about being single and how we both wanted a man and she said "I'm not gonna be single the rest of my life and your fag hag"
    I dont wanna fag hag, I just want a fucking friend, bitch stop saying fag hag!!!!

    #annoyed
    #kindasad

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    Jun 13, 2014 11:12 PM GMT
    She wants to snag a boyfriend/husband. She's less likely to do that if she's hanging out with you.
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    Jun 13, 2014 11:15 PM GMT
    I kind of doubt she really thinks that. Just sounds like some ridiculous name some ridiculous person made up.
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    Jun 13, 2014 11:17 PM GMT
    Lumpyoatmeal saidShe wants to snag a boyfriend/husband. She's less likely to do that if she's hanging out with you.

    thank you, captain obvious.
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    Jun 13, 2014 11:18 PM GMT
    Decisive saidI kind of doubt she really thinks that. Just sounds like some ridiculous name some ridiculous person made up.

    You doubt she really thinks that?
    oh ok. lol.
    Do you personally know her too?
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    Jun 13, 2014 11:19 PM GMT
    snapbacks said
    Lumpyoatmeal saidShe wants to snag a boyfriend/husband. She's less likely to do that if she's hanging out with you.

    thank you, captain obvious.

    Always here to help with those obvious conundrums. icon_lol.gif
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    Jun 13, 2014 11:21 PM GMT
    Lumpyoatmeal said
    snapbacks said
    Lumpyoatmeal saidShe wants to snag a boyfriend/husband. She's less likely to do that if she's hanging out with you.

    thank you, captain obvious.

    Always here to help with those obvious conundrums. icon_lol.gif

    dickhead icon_rolleyes.gif
  • Decisive

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    Jun 13, 2014 11:47 PM GMT
    snapbacks said
    Decisive saidI kind of doubt she really thinks that. Just sounds like some ridiculous name some ridiculous person made up.

    You doubt she really thinks that?
    oh ok. lol.
    Do you personally know her too?


    I do not know her however I choose to think she is not a bitch before I think she is maybe?

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    Jun 13, 2014 11:54 PM GMT
    kick her in the nads.

    most people don't bother with that stupid term. tell her to stop thinking about it. sheesh.
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    Jun 14, 2014 12:51 AM GMT
    Sounds like she's either going through a tiny little identity crisis, or she's a miserable Koont.

    I would be extremely blunt. Sit her down, and ask her:
    Is our friendship Really that shallow for you?
    What men am I warding off? (bitch, there gots to BE men around first *Triple Snap*)

    Perhaps the amount of Time you spend together gets in the way of her search for a potential breeding partner, but not your Flamboyance.



    If your relationship isn't needlessly co dependent, or a surrogate for something else, she isn't a Fag Hag.
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    Jun 14, 2014 1:00 AM GMT
    She wants to convert you into a heterosexual. Has she flashed her vag and tried to seduce you yet?
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    Jun 14, 2014 1:32 AM GMT
    JackBoneTX saidkick her in the nads.

    most people don't bother with that stupid term. tell her to stop thinking about it. sheesh.


    Actually....many do. There was a helluva topic on here that got deleted. Then there's these (brace yourself):

    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums?searchtext=fag+hag
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    Jun 14, 2014 1:32 AM GMT
    lol Sock accounts talking to each other. icon_rolleyes.gif
  • killercliche

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    Jun 14, 2014 8:01 AM GMT
    snapbacks said. I'm the fag and shes the hag..


    That's pretty much how it works.


    snapbacks said
    Its fucked up because we were talking about being single and how we both wanted a man


    no wait, that's exactly how it works.
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    Jun 14, 2014 8:08 AM GMT
    killercliche said
    no wait, that's exactly how it works.


    Sounds like a...
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    Killer Cliche.
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    Jun 14, 2014 8:08 AM GMT
    If she's staying stuff like that at 19 then she will be unbearable at 29 icon_eek.gif

    Let's hope you both find someone well before then.
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Jun 14, 2014 1:29 PM GMT
    Just tell her you don't want a "Fag Hag" either. I personally hate that term, but I do know the type. Most of them are meddlesome and lonely girls living vicariously through their gay male friends.
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    Jun 14, 2014 2:29 PM GMT
    Wow. Serial problems are serial.

    Considering that you opened your post scornfully saying that 20 was a sign of getting "older", and that you ended your post with hashtags...both you and your friend sound insufferable.
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    Jun 14, 2014 2:49 PM GMT
    go_dreaming saidWow. Serial problems are serial.

    Considering that you opened your post scornfully saying that 20 was a sign of getting "older", and that you ended your post with hashtags...both you and your friend sound insufferable.


    Yeah I'm getting older. I'm NOT saying 20 is old, but I'm 19 now, so turning 20 is getting older for me, I wasn't saying it "scornfully" you fucking idiot. I was saying it as a fact in my situation. People my age are beginning to get boyfriends and girlfriends now, no more of this were just friends type shit....

    i dont see anything wrong with hashtags. It bugs u cuz YOU dont like them. Well, eat shit. I dont care what pleases you. Go fuck off. Thanks for contributing nothing to my thread. ta ta
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jun 14, 2014 2:53 PM GMT
    Interesting discussion... and you solve it by earnest communication. I'd have responded, "I don't want a faghag.. all I want is the great friendship I've had from you for the last 6 years. What he hell is a fag hag?

    Let her tell YOU how she feels and why. Most likely it was about her own perceptions about men, no boyfriend, "getting older" (as you put it) and her perceptions at the moment.

    I'd try not to take it personally, but talk to her, if she's a good friend, don't let something like this bother you.
  • starboard5

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    Jun 14, 2014 3:26 PM GMT
    Hagdom is a state a woman enters by her own volition. Just hanging with you doesn't make her a hag. She has to make herself a hag by the choices she makes, primarily by only hanging with gay guys.

    She sounds frustrated with dating and trying to find a boyfriend. You guys must have straight friends in common, so hang out with them, too. She needs to explore herself and her life. That may necessarily take away time you two spend together, but it may equally lead to a stronger friendship as she comes into her own. Don't be afraid to let her go, just always let her know you are there for her.
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    Jun 14, 2014 3:44 PM GMT
    Lumpyoatmeal saidShe wants to snag a boyfriend/husband. She's less likely to do that if she's hanging out with you.


    give her what she wants, introduce her to some promising straight guys
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    Jun 14, 2014 4:18 PM GMT
    Lumpyoatmeal saidShe wants to snag a boyfriend/husband. She's less likely to do that if she's hanging out with you.


    her getting a man has nothing to do with him, it has everything to do with her and the boy she likes. the idiotic perception that other peoples lives have utter control over ours is making life harder. stop it.

    if she wants to find a boyfriend then she needs to find out what she needs from a man, you being her friend should not negatively affect her life and if she thinks it does then she needs to get a reality check and remember what being a friend is about.

    we need to quit telling our selves stories, it inst helpful to our mental and emotional health.
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    Jun 14, 2014 4:56 PM GMT
    If you both surround yourself by people that are shallow enough to categorize your connection as humans beings to be inferior because of your sexuality and platonic relationship, then the real issue is why are you both are viewing yourself through the eyes of other people, and allowing that to diminish your own personal views and affinity for each other; that is a sign of weak character on your friend's part.

    You should be mindful that you will have very few close friends in life who actually understand you for how you are, rather than how you appear in social situations.

    If your friend has a romantic but non sexual relationship with you that she is not discussing or is unaware of, and it is preventing her from finding a man she can have sex with, that is something she needs to work out. In that case maybe you can't hang out as much until she gains enough motivation to find a partner since she may be sub consciously relying on you for fulfillment. That being said, you both shouldn't stop being friends because some other people call her a fag hag, that's weak reasoning.

    Its very easy to acquire romantic and emotional fulfillment from friends, that commonly comes from a relationship, and it can weaken your desire to find a sexual/romantic partner elsewhere n the world. Maybe that is the real problem that is occurring.
  • metta

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    Jun 14, 2014 6:24 PM GMT
    lighten up....it is not something to be taken seriously....think of it as a term of endearment. icon_wink.gif