The worst dates you've had

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    Jun 15, 2014 6:11 AM GMT
    I've been speaking to this guy on Grindr for a while now, and we finally met up last week. He was OK on the first date, but revealed his true colours by the second meet.

    He complained about the restaurant and poor food, he ridiculed my career, disliked my choice of shirt, and he spoke about his ex too much. He had to be the worst of the lot TBH.

    Over to you...
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    Jun 15, 2014 6:17 AM GMT
    After he left, I opened the envelope on the dresser to find that he'd short-changed me by 10 bucks.
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    Jun 15, 2014 1:39 PM GMT
    That time the 36 year old guy I chatted up online turned out to be a 63 year old guy when we met for drinks...

    "I thought our love would be strong enough to see past the lie.."

    Puh-leeease.
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    Jun 15, 2014 1:52 PM GMT
    I met some weirdos, too... But fortunately forgot everything about them already. Though I remember now I was chatting to someone, we finally decided to meet up but this guy never turned up and I was waiting for him like an idiot for more than an hour... That was probably the worst date I've ever had. Both frustrating and embarrassing icon_cool.gif
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jun 15, 2014 2:14 PM GMT
    Well up until 2012, I'd never really had a "date" with another gay guy per se... my long term partner of 13.5 years and I were involved before I ever came out, so when we broke up about 2 years ago and I realized the need to "date", it um was interesting as:

    1. You had to determine if the interested party really wanted to date you or if it was all about a means to an end... if you catch my drift. It being about sex primarily.


    2. If I don't know them and it's an initial date, I probably don't want them in my house (or I in theirs).
    It should be a get acquainted process.


    Now having said that, a date that ranks in the "worst" department, I talked about prior when this subject came up on an earlier thread. During the summer of 2012, I was asked out by someone I had met previously (and we seemed to get along fine). He wanted to go to a restaurant that also doubles as an airport in a small community nearby to my house. I agreed.

    It was awkward for some reason from the start. I had to carry the conversation all night, when we arrived back at my house, he didn't care about meeting my dogs (strike 1), wasn't interested in my house or anything about a tour (strike 2) and I remember him making some sort of comment about how I look as good as I do, "do I take some sort of drug related supplements". After that little shock, I was about to politely end the evening when I had to use the bathroom. When I came back to the living room, he was gone. I found him on my bed... and his comment..
    "Can I stay all night, I feel so safe here"

    With that I told him he wasn't going to feel safe for long and that I hadn't encouraged him to come to bedroom in the least. He left soon thereafter.

    Interestingly enough, I saw him online a day or two later and he was trying to encourage me to think about a "FWB" kind of thing if I wasn't interested in dating him.

    He's talked to me once or twice since, but I haven't seen him.....lol
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    Jun 15, 2014 2:15 PM GMT
    ANY date where they pull out the phone at the meal table.

    Very poor form, fellas don't be caught doing this.
  • MikemikeMike

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    Jun 15, 2014 2:54 PM GMT
    Your first mistake looking for anything on Grindr. If I was single I wouldn't ever be on there. That isn't for dating just fucking. Been told that by many guys who use it!icon_idea.gif

    The more you know! Cue the music.
  • BLucky

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    Jun 15, 2014 3:02 PM GMT
    Well a lot of dates have sucked, but to narrow it down, let's see.

    1. There was the guy who I talked to for a long time on the phone and the internet who always came up with an excuse to not meet. I finally just went and saw him to see what was up and he turned out to be twice as big as in his pictures, I'm not sure that the pics were even him.

    2. I met a guy online who I talked to for a while who flew from New York to Florida to meet me for the weekend. I'm not shallow, but even though he somewhat looked like his pictures, I didn't know that he was wearing heavy makeup and everything about him was fake. He dyed his hair, had veneers on his teeth, blue contacts and had his ears pinned back. Add to that he was scrawny and wore urban clothes like a poser and there was no chemistry on my part. I tried to be nice and hangout, but I was uncomfortable with him. I tried telling him that he looked better when he was in his more natural state and he took that as an insult. I ended the weekend early.

    3. Any time that I have been stood up and that has happened from a few people, including someone who was supposedly my boyfriend at the time. Anyone who does this to another human being is a douche.

    4. Anytime I've been with someone and they keep talking about an ex or someone or some other type that they love. I'm thinking, then why the 'f' are you on a date with me?

    5. Also, anytime someone spends more time on their phone or checking everyone else out and not paying attention when I talk or only want to talk about themselves.
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    Jun 15, 2014 3:56 PM GMT
    Was told my sense of humor made up for my lack of looks. When we left I went back because I forgot my credit card. When I grabbed it I saw a phone number which had been left for the waiter
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    Jun 15, 2014 4:02 PM GMT
    Set up dates are the worst, everyone is always trying to prove how cool he is.

    I prefer meeting someone first getting to know them as a friend. People have such insane expectations when they first meet you

    Having said that, the worst first date was this guy I was talking to online for weeks. I met him he turned out to be a lot older and way bitchier. When I didn't return his call right away he freaked out and blocked me.
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    Jun 15, 2014 4:41 PM GMT
    1. The guy who described himself as a bodybuilder, but then showed up drunk and looking like a pouter pigeon.

    2. The guy who seemed nice enough at first but then started telling me about his Barbie doll collection.

    3. The guy who told me about his mom's being in a mental institution and then went into the bathroom to shave off his beard when I mentioned that I didn't really care for facial hair.

    4. The guy who told me he used to draw pictures of his dad being struck by arrows, lances, swords, ... Happy Fathers Day!

    5. The guy who wanted to meet for breakfast and whom I discovered downing a large gin when I swung by to pick him up at one of the filthiest houses I've ever seen.

    6. The guy who told me that he was "a pretty attractive package." By that time, I'd experienced all of the above, so I told him he should go sell himself. Apparently he did, and went on to become a 30 y.o kept "boy" for several years, with a couple attempts at suicide before and since. Close call!
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    Jun 15, 2014 5:32 PM GMT
    1/ My ex was one of my bad date. We met like 2 days after Sep. 11 on 2008. We had coffee and talked, I barely got a word in. After an hr, I found out that his ex dumped him because he was boring, the guy wanted a 3some. He talked about his ex way too much. I gave him a second chance though.

    2/ Worst date probably this one older guy I met online. He claimed he was 41, turned out to be 45. He got divorced with 3 kids, very Catholic religious Latin guy. I didn't have the heart to say NO, leave me alone. Then we hung out at the bar, he tried to get me drunk and stuck his tongue down on my throat several times. I called it off short and went back home, it lasted 3 hrs the date. The next day, I broke it off with him. Lol, I became more conscious of older Latin guys from then on.

    3/ The last guy I went out with in November, it was a funny story. We met at the bar, switched numbers and met up. We had some Chinese/noodles/soup for dinner. Then he was like, let's go shopping for shoes. I was like, Ok fine. We were in the shoes store, he was like, can you hold my bag, how do I look in this and that? I was thinking **Um, this is weird, it's like he's a Chick shopping for shoes.** He took like 45 mins to pick out a black pair of sandal. Then he made a comment about how my shoes don't look quite fancy. (first flag). Then we proceed to have a latte at Starbuck, I was like Fine. I hope this date turns around. Then he started talking about himself way too much. (2nd flag) I was looking at my watch. At the end of the night, I played it coy and didn't want to kiss him. He went in, I just let him kissed my cheek. I didn't say much. He texted me like 5 times the next day, I texted back saying thanks for the date and never talk to him again.

    4/ This one random guy asked for my numbers and we met up in the Castro (along time ago). We hung out, had some drinks. Then he took a phone call, turned out to be his friend. He was like, do you want to hang out with my friend? I was confused, I came on a date with you, not your friend, why suggested that? Then fine, we hung out. He became drunk and started to grope my crotch on the dance floor. I became annoyed, left him for the bathroom. Never came back, Lol, I hooked up with another cuter boy later on the night. He and his friend saw this, I was just like ((Whatever)).
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    Jun 15, 2014 5:54 PM GMT
    Had a second date with this guy (against my better judgement). He was a firefighter, so we were going to hang at the firehouse for a lil bit. Yeah...a lil bit turned into 4 hours. No...I'm not done lol. We didn't do much at all and I was bored as hell. When it was time to go have dinner, he invited his best friend to go without asking me first, which was a bitch move. On the way down, he actually talked about an argument we had to his best friend, which really pissed me off. When we got to the Pizzeria, it was packed full of people. I said we should go elsewhere but nope, they didn't care. So we sat inside and they ordered a cheese pizza with sweet sauce. which tasted nasty. But his best friend was some obese chick, so no shock with that order. I took over an hour for the Pizza to get to our table. To top it all off, when I talked to the guy about how I felt about the date, he....got mad at me LMAO!! I've been on many dates but that one will always hold a special place in my heart...as the worst date I've ever had.
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    Jun 15, 2014 6:15 PM GMT
    Steel101 saidHad a second date with this guy (against my better judgement). He was a firefighter, so we were going to hang at the firehouse for a lil bit. Yeah...a lil bit turned into 4 hours. No...I'm not done lol. We didn't do much at all and I was bored as hell. When it was time to go have dinner, he invited his best friend to go without asking me first, which was a bitch move. On the way down, he actually talked about an argument we had to his best friend, which really pissed me off. When we got to the Pizzeria, it was packed full of people. I said we should go elsewhere but nope, they didn't care. So we sat inside and they ordered a cheese pizza with sweet sauce. which tasted nasty. But his best friend was some obese chick, so no shock with that order. I took over an hour for the Pizza to get to our table. To top it all off, when I talked to the guy about how I felt about the date, he....got mad at me LMAO!! I've been on many dates but that one will always hold a special place in my heart...as the worst date I've ever had.


    Lmfao, he just wanted to feed his friend cheese pizza. Lol, sorry to hear bro.
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    Jun 15, 2014 7:24 PM GMT
    I showed up for dinner with someone I met on a dating app, he was at least 40 when he claimed to be in his twenties. I didn't necessarily mind that he was middle-aged, but that he lied about it. He kept inserting innuendo all throughout dinner even though I purposely never acknowledged them. I've been speculating whether or not he had been trying to inch closer to my drink with his hand, I can't decide if it was deliberate or not. Either way, I was suspicious and never drank from that glass, and stopped eating (really disgusting food anyway). He gave me a bad vibe even disregarding that.

    When ringing up, he "forgot" his wallet and I had to pay for both of us. I could see his wallet in his back pocket, but decided to not make a fuss. I just wanted to be out of there.

    I started saying my goodbye in the parking lot. I stupidly mentioned while were eating that I had never been kissed before. He went in for a kiss, and I backed off. I told him goodnight, and walked off. I was walking briskly (I thought) ahead of him. I didn't notice how close he was(I think he had been homing in on me, quietly jogging to intercept me. It was really surprising because of how overweight he was...), and got surprised with an instinctive step between two trucks and a wall. He blocked my way out, saying something weird that I didn't catch all the way. I firmly told him that I wasn't interested. He stepped forward, and I pulled my knife on him. I told him to back off, and I used my 6'6" height to loom over him.

    He backed off, and I haven't really dated much since. :/
  • dtx1

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    Jun 15, 2014 7:29 PM GMT
    In the late 80s, I was living in a small town in Iowa. I was very closeted, inexperienced and still figuring out my sexuality. There were few gay people in this tiny town, and I felt really isolated and alone.

    One day I went to a tennis court to practice my serve. On an adjacent court, I noticed a handsome tennis coach giving lesson. He kept sending glances my way and I finally realized he was cruising me. When his client left, he approached and we talked for a while. He asked if I'd like to meet him for dinner later. We met and had nice dinner conversation. All seemed well.

    After dinner, I invited him to my place for coffee. We ended up sitting together on the sofa looking at a photo book and slowly moved closer until our knees were touching. My heart was pounding. I was so excited as it seemed something big was about to finally happen. I summoned the courage turn my head and look into his eyes. We leaned heads together to kiss.

    At that moment, he jumped up, thrust his arms in the air, and began speaking in tongues. He shouted something like 'shambala hasna blah blah blah...' and then said 'in the name of Jesus, I rebuke thee Satan and the spirits of homosexuality!' He shook and jiggled for a moment and his eyes rolled back in his head.

    Once he calmed down, he explained that he was possessed by ungodly homosexual desires, and that god had promised to deliver him from the desires. He said he was testing the power of god by seeing how close he could get to the temptation before saying 'no' to Satan. As you might imagine, I was pissed. I told him he better not try that on another guy, because the next one might beat the shit out of him.

    I don't know that I've ever had such a blunt shift of emotion since. Going from desperate sexual anticipation to hearing him babble in tongues was like running full speed into a brick wall.

    I look back on it now and think the incident was really funny. Even though I've had some bad dates since, that was pretty much my worst.
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    Jun 15, 2014 7:31 PM GMT
    dtx1 saidAt that moment, he jumped up, thrust his arms in the air, and began speaking in tongues. He shouted something like 'shambala hasna blah blah blah...' and then said 'in the name of Jesus, I rebuke thee Satan and the spirits of homosexuality!' He shook and jiggled for a moment and his eyes rolled back in his head. ...

    Is it bad that I found that really hilarious? I'm sorry man, that would suck so bad.
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    Jun 15, 2014 7:51 PM GMT
    wesbjack saidANY date where they pull out the phone at the meal table.

    Very poor form, fellas don't be caught doing this.

    Agree. Although sometimes I wouldn't silence or turn-off my phone, actually hoping it would ring. But not for the reason you might think.

    Taking my ringing phone out of my pocket and immediately muting or turning it off, without looking at the screen, I'd say: "Sorry, I forgot to silence it. This can go to voice mail. I hate phone calls when I'm with someone."

    Which of course told the guy with me that he was more important than a phone call from anyone, because I didn't even look. Manipulative, I agree, but the intended effect on the guy was always guaranteed.
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    Jun 15, 2014 7:56 PM GMT
    AutumnalStride saidI showed up for dinner with someone I met on a dating app, he was at least 40 when he claimed to be in his twenties. I didn't necessarily mind that he was middle-aged, but that he lied about it. He kept inserting innuendo all throughout dinner even though I purposely never acknowledged them. I've been speculating whether or not he had been trying to inch closer to my drink with his hand, I can't decide if it was deliberate or not. Either way, I was suspicious and never drank from that glass, and stopped eating (really disgusting food anyway). He gave me a bad vibe even disregarding that.

    When ringing up, he "forgot" his wallet and I had to pay for both of us. I could see his wallet in his back pocket, but decided to not make a fuss. I just wanted to be out of there.

    I started saying my goodbye in the parking lot. I stupidly mentioned while were eating that I had never been kissed before. He went in for a kiss, and I backed off. I told him goodnight, and walked off. I was walking briskly (I thought) ahead of him. I didn't notice how close he was(I think he had been homing in on me, quietly jogging to intercept me. It was really surprising because of how overweight he was...), and got surprised with an instinctive step between two trucks and a wall. He blocked my way out, saying something weird that I didn't catch all the way. I firmly told him that I wasn't interested. He stepped forward, and I pulled my knife on him. I told him to back off, and I used my 6'6" height to loom over him.

    He backed off, and I haven't really dated much since. :/


    OMG, Gee that guy was a liar, a cheapskate and a stalker. icon_rolleyes.gificon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jun 15, 2014 8:07 PM GMT
    AutumnalStride said
    dtx1 saidAt that moment, he jumped up, thrust his arms in the air, and began speaking in tongues. He shouted something like 'shambala hasna blah blah blah...' and then said 'in the name of Jesus, I rebuke thee Satan and the spirits of homosexuality!' He shook and jiggled for a moment and his eyes rolled back in his head. ...

    Is it bad that I found that really hilarious? I'm sorry man, that would suck so bad.


    I don't think it's bad at all. At the time, I wanted to punch him in the face. But with time, I've come to fully appreciate the humor in it.
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    Jun 15, 2014 8:08 PM GMT
    dtx1 saidIn the late 80s, I was living in a small town in Iowa. I was very closeted, inexperienced and still figuring out my sexuality. There were few gay people in this tiny town, and I felt really isolated and alone.

    One day I went to a tennis court to practice my serve. On an adjacent court, I noticed a handsome tennis coach giving lesson. He kept sending glances my way and I finally realized he was cruising me. When his client left, he approached and we talked for a while. He asked if I'd like to meet him for dinner later. We met and had nice dinner conversation. All seemed well.

    After dinner, I invited him to my place for coffee. We ended up sitting together on the sofa looking at a photo book and slowly moved closer until our knees were touching. My heart was pounding. I was so excited as it seemed something big was about to finally happen. I summoned the courage turn my head and look into his eyes. We leaned heads together to kiss.

    At that moment, he jumped up, thrust his arms in the air, and began speaking in tongues. He shouted something like 'shambala hasna blah blah blah...' and then said 'in the name of Jesus, I rebuke thee Satan and the spirits of homosexuality!' He shook and jiggled for a moment and his eyes rolled back in his head.

    Once he calmed down, he explained that he was possessed by ungodly homosexual desires, and that god had promised to deliver him from the desires. He said he was testing the power of god by seeing how close he could get to the temptation before saying 'no' to Satan. As you might imagine, I was pissed. I told him he better not try that on another guy, because the next one might beat the shit out of him.

    I don't know that I've ever had such a blunt shift of emotion since. Going from desperate sexual anticipation to hearing him babble in tongues was like running full speed into a brick wall.

    I look back on it now and think the incident was really funny. Even though I've had some bad dates since, that was pretty much my worst.


    So far this one wins!!!
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    Jun 15, 2014 8:18 PM GMT
    I had an otherwise good date that ended in a moment of appalling racism:

    I had arrived at the wine bar a bit early, but the host (who was black) refused to seat me at a table until my date arrived -- so I just waited at the bar. Eventually my date came, we were seated, and had a pleasant meal. As we were walking out, we passed the host again. I mentioned to my date that before he had arrived, I tried to get seated at the table, but the host wouldn't seat me. I said something along the lines of "maybe if I had flirted with him more." My date responded: "So you like the BBC? I don't. To me the [N-word]s have a kind of stench."

    Needless to say I didn't call this one back. More shocking than his racism was the fact that he hadn't bothered to filter himself.
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    Jun 15, 2014 8:27 PM GMT
    AutumnalStride said" ... I pulled my knife on him. I told him to back off, ..." :/


    WHOA! Good move, but be careful with that thing; many states have laws precluding possession of a "dirk or dagger," and DAs do tend to prosecute these cases. Still, that guy was a creep!
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    Jun 15, 2014 8:36 PM GMT
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    I look back on it now and think the incident was really funny. Even though I've had some bad dates since, that was pretty much my worst.

    Not really a date, but with a slightly similar conclusion:

    I met this guy at a Fort Lauderdale gay bathhouse in 1997. Kindy swanky place, really quite upscale, where I had a full membership. He took me to his private changing room rental, which naturally included a bed (a built-in bunk, sorta nautical), where I fucked him.

    I'd been there for about 5 hours and was exhausted, after umpteen fucks & blowjobs, and said I was leaving now. He invited me to join him for coffee at a place downtown on Las Olas (for guys here who know this area), and I agreed.

    We took a little outdoor table on the sidewalk. He told me he was a spiritual healer, and some kind of psychic, things I neither believe in nor care to hear about. But he started lecturing me on my own health, and he began to diagnose all the things he "sensed" were wrong with me.

    He didn't have a problem with my being gay, nor himself, either, but rambled on about some other vague psychic disorders I had. He also predicted my future, along with all kinds of outlandish nonsense. Then he asked to examine my palm, which I gave him.

    After a moment he clutched it tightly, and began to literally shout: "The power of Christ compels you! You will be healed! The power of Christ compels you! You will be healed! The power of Christ compels you!"

    Holy shit, I thought to myself, this guy is totally fucking insane. Do I run now, or try to act calm and see if he settles down? Meanwhile I notice the other customers sitting around us are staring in shock at his loud antics. I felt like a total fool sitting with this raving lunatic. I decided to try to get him to quiet down, and then get the Hell outta there.

    Finally he did settle down, now pitching me his expensive personal healing program, and I began to make my goodbyes. He walked with me across the street to where my motorcycle was parked. He said he might not see me at the bathhouse tomorrow (a relief to know, meaning I could go without fear of running into him).

    But now, after all the stupid psychic tricks he played on me, and the public humiliation he subjected me to, I decided to return the favor.

    "Yes, I know," I replied. "I think... yes, I see you at the back of a church. You have to meet someone there. I think a female friend? At... 11 o'clock? Yes, it's 11. And you have to bring something, a book perhaps? Yes, something like a book, I see you holding a book. Well, anyway, I understand why you won't be at the club. Hope you have a good time with your friend."

    His jaw dropped in complete shock, just staring at me. I got on my motorcycle, and as I put it in gear, turned to him and said: "You're not the only one who has your powers." Then I pulled away.

    Well, my "powers" were the same as I judged his - fake. What had actually happened was that earlier, coming out of the club locker room, I came up behind him using a wall pay phone. I backed away to afford him privacy, but not before I heard him discussing his Sunday church arrangements.

    I went to the lobby to wait for him without him seeing me while he was phoning, which made him think I hadn't overheard his conversation. Served the con artist right. icon_twisted.gif
  • PRDGUY

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    Jun 15, 2014 8:57 PM GMT
    DÀMN...

    since I haven't had one that I would consider even bad then that must be the sign that the worst is yet to come. Great!!! what a awesome way to start of my day lolz.