I Confess To My Husband, And He Takes It Well

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    Jun 17, 2014 2:07 AM GMT
    Just a few moments ago I told him a terrible thing. The background:

    Yesterday we hosted Sunday brunch here for 6. Among the things he made were 2 quiches, a seafood one (lobster, crab, shrimp) and a spinach. Of course we also had champagne mimosas and Bloody Marys, other drinks, fruit plates, waffles I made, sausages, eggs, a dozen things, on and on.

    So last night I'm doing the clean up. His quiche deep dishes were underwater in the sink, giving me a hard time. I'm letting them soak before I can put them in the dishwasher. Then I start hand washing a large platter that's too big for the dishwasher.

    It slips out of my soapy, slippery hands, and falls into the sink. I see it gets a chip that ruins it.

    I reach into the sink water and find both quiche dishes are in pieces. Each one of them in about 6 fragments, totally destroyed. I couldn't believe they were that fragile.

    Now I know I'm in serious trouble. I found a piece that had the complete indicia on the bottom. I took it into the office and put it on the copier. I figured this way I would know how to replace them if they were still available. Then I threw the pieces into the garbage chute.

    But I didn't tell my husband. He'd had a tough day, cooking all this stuff, hosting, a lot of stress. The brunch went wonderfully, he was feeling great, on a high, I didn't want anything negative to spoil his day.

    But tonight I thought I needed to tell him. He was gonna find out before long.

    And surprise - he just laughed. The quiche dishes weren't anything special, not his late mother's (as other kitchen items are), he said we'll just buy new. Thank gawd.

    He said I'm nuts to have worried. Well, maybe. But his kitchen is his domain, his things his treasures. And I treat them as such. I respect them as much as I respect him, and to break or damage them horrifies me. Fortunately this time I got a pass. Thank my fucking stars.
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    Jun 17, 2014 2:19 AM GMT
    Your husband to your face: Oh boo, it's okayyyyy


    Your husband in his head:




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    Jun 17, 2014 2:22 AM GMT
    Well, really Bob...what's he going to do? Spank you and send you to bed without your supper? Nah, you'd like that too much...lol...well, at least the spanking part. icon_biggrin.gif

    If I had a nickel for all the shit I broke when I was a kid...icon_eek.gif
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    Jun 17, 2014 2:26 AM GMT
    Broken quiche dishes? That's a gay problem if I ever heard one icon_lol.gif
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    Jun 17, 2014 2:28 AM GMT
    I says... you still needs a spankin' !
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    Jun 17, 2014 2:30 AM GMT
    I'm glad everything worked out okay.
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    Jun 17, 2014 2:34 AM GMT
    Remember that domestic abuse is a crime, Art_Deco.
    If your husband shows signs of violence towards you, call 911!
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    Jun 17, 2014 2:37 AM GMT
    1. No need to describe all the good stuff you guys had to eat. It is pretty much irrelevant to the story and is rather unsubtle yet futile bragging. It's like Instagraming your breakfast, but worst.

    2. I don't get why people attach so much importance and value to objects. Yeah, yeah, it's "sentimental" value. So what? Still an object.

    3. I don't get why people get mad when their objects, even the sentimentally valuable ones, are broke. Especially in accident. Especially in a context where they were used for what they're made for. Quiches.



    That being said, I feel like brunching now.
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    Jun 17, 2014 2:46 AM GMT
    owl_bundy said
    NorthwestBoy1980 said
    Disasterpiece said1. No need to describe all the good stuff you guys had to eat. It is pretty much irrelevant to the story and is rather unsubtle yet futile bragging. It's like Instagraming your breakfast, but worst.

    2. I don't get why people attach so much importance and value to objects. Yeah, yeah, it's "sentimental" value. So what? Still an object.

    3. I don't get why people get mad when their objects, even the sentimentally valuable ones, are broke. Especially in accident. Especially in a context where they were used for what they're made for. Quiches.



    That being said, I feel like brunching now.


    Your point #1 is right on it's boasting. Very crass.


    how is it bragging? are you guys broke or something? what are your dinner plates looking at?


    Nope. And that's the point.

    IF I was broke, THEN I'd feel the need to brag about the fact that I pleased myself with Filet Mignon last night, especially dropping it randomly in a somewhat irrelevant topic. But nah, it was fucking delicious but just another meal, you know.
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    Jun 17, 2014 2:46 AM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor saidI says... you still needs a spankin' !
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    lol this gif.
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    Jun 17, 2014 2:51 AM GMT
    bon_pan saidWell, really Bob...what's he going to do? Spank you and send you to bed without your supper? Nah, you'd like that too much...lol...well, at least the spanking part. icon_biggrin.gif

    If I had a nickel for all the shit I broke when I was a kid...icon_eek.gif

    You do realize he's my husband. And to cause him any kind of distress would destroy me. It can be some stupid, worthless dinner plate I broke. But if it means something to HIM then I treasure it.

    I'm not sure why, but I kinda thought these quiche dishes were special to him. When I broke them I was in a panic. I wrote above how I took a fragment to our copier so I could have the name, to replace them.

    I love him so much, that if i break something of his I go into a total panic. I dunno, just the way I am, just what happens. Hard to explain.
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    Jun 17, 2014 2:59 AM GMT
    There are some things that are irreplaceable, but they are still just "things."
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    Jun 17, 2014 3:01 AM GMT
    owl_bundy said
    Disasterpiece said
    owl_bundy said
    NorthwestBoy1980 said
    Disasterpiece said1. No need to describe all the good stuff you guys had to eat. It is pretty much irrelevant to the story and is rather unsubtle yet futile bragging. It's like Instagraming your breakfast, but worst.

    2. I don't get why people attach so much importance and value to objects. Yeah, yeah, it's "sentimental" value. So what? Still an object.

    3. I don't get why people get mad when their objects, even the sentimentally valuable ones, are broke. Especially in accident. Especially in a context where they were used for what they're made for. Quiches.



    That being said, I feel like brunching now.


    Your point #1 is right on it's boasting. Very crass.


    how is it bragging? are you guys broke or something? what are your dinner plates looking at?


    Nope. And that's the point.

    IF I was broke, THEN I'd feel the need to brag about the fact that I pleased myself with Filet Mignon last night, especially dropping it randomly in a somewhat irrelevant topic. But nah, it was fucking delicious but just another meal, you know.


    if that's what he ate, that's what he ate. i doubt he was saying it to brag or to make anybody feel bad, don't know how anybody could be offended at someone posting what they ate. just think that you're looking for something that isn't there.


    Well I didn't say anyhwere I was offended or it could make anyone feel bad. I just said it was irrelevant and shameless bragging.

    Also, when I read that line I rolled my eyes so hard I saw my brain, and it wasn't really pleasant.
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    Jun 17, 2014 3:03 AM GMT
    Rita saidRemember that domestic abuse is a crime, Art_Deco.
    If your husband shows signs of violence towards you, call 911!

    I'm not sure where you got that notion, or if this is serious.

    My husband would never be violent, nor me against him. He's the most gentle, loving man.

    I once did have a BF who got violent with me. At which point he became my ex-BF as soon as I could move out of his house. I will never be a victim of domestic abuse.

    But thanks for the word, for guys here. Because gay domestic abuse is a hidden problem not well recognized nor discussed.
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    Jun 17, 2014 3:05 AM GMT
    NorthwestBoy1980 saidIs this topic a joke?


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    Hardly a joke my friend. Quiche is serious business in the gay world!
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    Jun 17, 2014 3:10 AM GMT
    Coincidentally, today when emptying the dishwasher in a hurry and a Villeroy & Boch soup bowl

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    broke, I made a mental note to order a replacement in that pattern from Replacements Ltd. and moved on. Why? Because I could since I should only have your problem.

    Both my sister and partners' sister have famously lousy taste and don't give a hoot about cleaning, entertaining, or setting a pretty table but guess who got, and will get, the Waterford crystal, Grand Baroque sterling silver and Royal Dalton china in addition to the jewelry? THEM. Not the gay guys with exquisite style. I'd consider myself lucky if I got dad's Timex watch and his one pair of cuff links from 1959. It took ten years for us to finally cave and pick our own china pattern.

    In fact, everything in my mother's house she attaches sentiment to, like a hoarder. "Those are Aunt Yetta's wedding plates! That broken blender, that belonged to Cousin Gladys!" She's awash, literally drowning in sentiment with dust collectors from dead relatives practically killing her but at nearly 52 I've yet to be given one plate, one wineglass, a single steak knife or a bed sheet, and have always had to buy housewares, jewelry, you-name-it for myself.

    Twenty, thirty years ago I wanted some but it's been too long and I don't want any of it anymore because the bad associations outweigh the good. Aside from the good stuff already earmarked for my sister none of it's even worth selling on ebay - it's all mass-produced, middle class crap, the same Windsor chairs, Chinese breakfronts, silver plate and incomplete china sets populating thrift stores worldwide. Better someone who'll like it more buy Aunt Yetta's wedding plates cheap. And better not to fight, or worry about fighting over, a broken quiche plate because it might have been inherited.

    It's a good lesson; stuff is stuff. Want sentiment? Take a picture. It lasts longer.

    Or make your own. I knew I'd never get my grandma's carved soapstone vase that fascinated me as a kid when she used it as a doorstop, so when she gave it to a female cousin I got an even better one for myself:

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    Take that, Grandma!

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    Jun 17, 2014 3:20 AM GMT
    bon_pan saidThere are some things that are irreplaceable. But they are still "things."

    You are of course correct. Things only have the value we place on them.

    In this case I thought his quiche dishes might be from his late mother. That totally changes the equation.

    He's got other kitchen stuff from her. If I had broken his MOTHER'S quiche dishes, that could be unforgivable.

    But no, they were more recent, and not connected with her. I can replace them without any emotionality. Thank gawd.
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    Jun 17, 2014 3:27 AM GMT
    James_Thunder_Early saidBroken quiche dishes? That's a gay problem if I ever heard one icon_lol.gif

    Well, we are gay, after all. What other kind of problems would you like us to have?
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    Jun 17, 2014 3:35 AM GMT
    Art_Deco said
    James_Thunder_Early saidBroken quiche dishes? That's a gay problem if I ever heard one icon_lol.gif

    Well, we are gay, after all. What other kind of problems would you like us to have?


    It was a joke, I apologize if it didn't translate correctly, I assumed it was obvious.
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    Jun 17, 2014 4:01 AM GMT
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    Blueberry!?!! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jun 17, 2014 4:06 AM GMT
    Well, that was sweet and thoughtful of you to think of your husband. It shows you care.
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    Jun 17, 2014 4:19 AM GMT
    bon_pan said
    eagermuscle said

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    Blueberry!?!! icon_biggrin.gif

    Blueberry acai. ;)
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    Jun 17, 2014 4:20 AM GMT
    Ahhh...sigh...EEE

    I'm gonna bug you for that blender ice cream recipe one of these days...
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    Jun 17, 2014 4:23 AM GMT
    James_Thunder_Early said
    Art_Deco said
    James_Thunder_Early saidBroken quiche dishes? That's a gay problem if I ever heard one icon_lol.gif
    Well, we are gay, after all. What other kind of problems would you like us to have?
    It was a joke, I apologize if it didn't translate correctly, I assumed it was obvious.

    Actually it happens in heterosexual households as well, probably more frequently, but often without the happy outcome. "Honey, I'm sorry, I broke your heirloom quiche plates--you know, the ones you inherited from your great, great grandmother?" have been known to end in divorce. It's an obvious indication of latent, (passive) aggression.
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    Actually it happens in heterosexual households as well, probably more frequently, but often without the happy outcome. "Honey, I'm sorry, I broke your heirloom quiche plates--you know, the ones you inherited from your great, great grandmother?" have been known to end in divorce. It's an obvious indication of latent, (passive) aggression.

    Breaking something that was a heirloom was my greatest fear. When he told me tonight they were fairly recent purchases, and even laughing about it, I was incredibly relieved. Breaking one of his treasured keepsakes would devastate me.