Building on what Art (EDIT: Whoops! Sorry! I meant "SBart"! hee hee) discussed, there was an episode of Iyanla Fix My Life
a couple weeks ago that had me tearing my little nappy hairs out.
Fix My LifeFor Jennifer, her marriage fell apart six years ago when she found an explicit letter written by her husband to someone else.
To viewers, it becomes increasingly obvious what the gender of the "someone else" is. But for this one-time pastor and father of two, David is of The Orientation That Dare Not Speak Its Name.
So, David wants everyone to believe his "second life" revolves around an "addiction to p0rn." It sure sounds like his wife does, too. Note the times they repeatedly refer to "another person."
David insists, repeatedly, he married Jennifer because he wanted to be "normal." And, right as Iyanla guides his little horse to the edge of the water, he says, quivering, "This Is Where I Meet My End." What?
If you were like me, I probably owe you a new screen. Because I wanted to reach through my TV and grab this guy and scream, "YOU'RE EITHER BI OR YOU'RE GAY, DAMMIT! SAY IT! SAY IT!" Fortunately for him, Iyanla had just enough professional class not to do this. At least, not with the cameras rolling.
I don't care what he comes out as, he simply can't keep stringing family along pretending to be some straight guy with a "p0rn addiction" so big he has to move out of the house.
Where the insidious "ex-gay" industries thrive, they're largely preying upon otherwise mature gay and bi men who refuse to come out of the closet because of self-imposed "baggage," and those who won't recognize there's no binary when it comes to sexual orientation.