Will you feel better if this happens

  • Asianboy520

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    Jun 22, 2014 2:59 AM GMT
    I tried to date a man who I knew on the jackd. At the first night when I got off work, we kept texting each other on the way home and he was not the way to my home. I saw a car was pulled over aside by police man when I was almost home. Then I took shower and dressed up. I waited for being picked up by him. But almost I hour passed without messages and anything. I thought the man lied to me. So I gave up and headed to go to bed. When I was ready for going to bed my phone was ringing. He told me he was jailed because his license was past due. Because He couldn't wait to see me, he forgot controlling the speed. I felt so guilty.

    The second night we decided to meet each other after I got off work.(usually,I get off at 10:30 every day). That day boss delayed the time to 11:30. He cooked much food for me at his home. I told him I had to leave after 11:30, he didn't trust me and he said I didn't want to hang out with him. Then he told me LATER.

    I felt guilty and sorry to him.

    After half month later, he asked me to have sex with him and he said he was not far from my home, he said "you should come".

    I didn't reply him and I felt a little bit better cause I was happy for not going outside with him. I didn't want to meet a guy who just wanted me for sex.

    So, would you feel better if you had the same situation like me?(sorry to the person I hurt)
  • mybud

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    Jun 22, 2014 3:14 AM GMT
    The guy thought you'd be a quick lay"fuck". You have more respect for yourself to bend to his request. Don't feel bad for the good decisions you make for your own self interests.
  • Asianboy520

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    Jun 22, 2014 3:32 AM GMT
    mybud saidThe guy thought you'd be a quick lay"fuck". You have more respect for yourself to bend to his request. Don't feel bad for the good decisions you make for your own self interests.


    Sometimes is hard to tell ...
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    Jun 22, 2014 3:39 AM GMT
    mybud saidThe guy thought you'd be a quick lay"fuck". You have more respect for yourself to bend to his request. Don't feel bad for the good decisions you make for your own self interests.


    This.
  • tj85016

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    Jun 22, 2014 4:44 AM GMT
    look on the bright side, you got a good meal out of it
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    Jun 22, 2014 2:09 PM GMT
    When it comes to dating and relationships... You have to set the ground rules of how you want to be treated.


    It's your life, your heart, and your rules....

    Stop feeling guilty you did fine... icon_biggrin.gif



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    Jun 22, 2014 2:34 PM GMT
    It would have been more productive to explain that you didn't want to rush into anything with him, rather than just doing nothing. To be honest he sounded pretty keen. Some people say they like to get the sex out of the way early in a relationship to see if they are compatible.
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    Jun 22, 2014 3:05 PM GMT
    Ohno said Some people say they like to get the sex out of the way early in a relationship to see if they are compatible.



    Sexual compatibility is one factor of many that "May" determine a successful relationship...

    I don't think this other guy had the first clue on how to approach the OP.