Where Do You Meet Quality Guys?

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    Jun 22, 2014 3:42 AM GMT
    I'm having a harder time than what seems reasonable for my age and where I live meeting quality guys to date.... which makes me worry it might be either something about me or that I should lower my standards.

    Granted maybe I'm not putting myself out there as much as I should also but I know it's summertime and the amount of guys looking for dates goes up around this time of year. I've been going to LGBT oriented meetups, going to cafes, bookstores, honing my profile on OkCupid, and even dipped my toes in Grindr since I notice a fair portion of guys are writing profiles that you'd find on online dating sites. Bars aren't always the best place to meet quality LTR oriented guys it seems though.

    I'm thinking of joining a club or local organization but there aren't many free ones.

    It's easy to meet guys but I'm seeking LTR oriented quality guys. In a major gay mecca like NYC you'd think there'd be more of them... Maybe I should instead focus on making new friends and from that a guy will want to be more like what happened with my former BF? Any advice?
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jun 22, 2014 4:40 AM GMT
    The key word here being quality ... guess that is a little subject icon_biggrin.gif ... some might think a nice guy, others a guy with a really big dick ... I'm shit out of sources ... maybe I'm looking for the wrong quality icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif
  • raginraider12

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    Jun 22, 2014 4:44 AM GMT
    Erobert saidI'm having a harder time than what seems reasonable for my age and where I live meeting quality guys to date.... which makes me worry it might be either something about me or that I should lower my standards.

    Granted maybe I'm not putting myself out there as much as I should also but I know it's summertime and the amount of guys looking for dates goes up around this time of year. I've been going to LGBT oriented meetups, going to cafes, bookstores, honing my profile on OkCupid, and even dipped my toes in Grindr since I notice a fair portion of guys are writing profiles that you'd find on online dating sites. Bars aren't always the best place to meet quality LTR oriented guys it seems though.

    I'm thinking of joining a club or local organization but there aren't many free ones.

    It's easy to meet guys but I'm seeking LTR oriented quality guys. In a major gay mecca like NYC you'd think there'd be more of them... Maybe I should instead focus on making new friends and from that a guy will want to be more like what happened with my former BF? Any advice?


    My friend that lives in Brooklyn has said the same thing about finding "quality LTR oriented" guys. With a large city like NYC, I am sure there are various gay organizations that you can either volunteer or participate, which will help you meet people. In my situations, participating or volunteering with different groups has led me to make friends and a few dates around. I've also made some great friends at bars too.
  • craycraydoesd...

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    Jun 22, 2014 4:44 AM GMT
    If any of us here knew the answer, we wouldn't have time to be here on realjock icon_sad.gif
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    Jun 22, 2014 1:21 PM GMT
    Be flexible with your "preferences" and you will find a whole host of opportunities open up to you.
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    Jun 22, 2014 1:22 PM GMT
    In the Quality Control department...duh!