Found out my friend cheated on his girlfriend

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    Jun 23, 2014 10:06 PM GMT
    My straight friend (who I secretly have a crush on) also happens to be my boss. We've become pretty close since he took over the small business he was working for last year and I became his employee, as we previously were co-workers at another job together for a couple of years which is how we got to know one another.

    During the last year, I've also gotten to know his girlfriend and I've become really good friends with her as well. I always hang out with them, and they never make me feel like the 3rd wheel, always including me when they go out with their other friends. They've both told me that I'm actually their best and only REAL friend and the only one they can truly rely on. Needless to say, I'm close with both of them.

    Anyway, my straight friend was in a relationship for 7 years prior to this girlfriend. They broke up and got back together many times, both of them cheating on each other (I don't know about her, but I know he's slept with a lot of other girls while he was with her). Anyway, he's told me that he wasn't really in love with her and what not and they were really young when they started going out.

    With this girl it seems different. They really seem to love each other and you can tell it is real. He is 28 and she is 27. This past December he moved out of his parents house, and they got an apartment together. I always hear them discussing marriage and children and their future together.

    However, I just found out from a mutual friend that my friend (the guy) cheated on her when they went to Atlantic City together a few months back. I went to dinner with this mutual friend about a month ago and I could tell that he wanted to tell me something, but I didn't press any further. During another conversation via text tonight, I got it out of him that my friend fucked another girl. I promised this mutual friend that I would keep it between us and I of course have no plans on telling my friend's girlfriend or asking my friend/boss about it.

    But I just feel so bad for her for some reason. She knows about his past with his ex-girlfriend and has some issues trusting him and didn't really trust him going away with his friends, but she ended up letting him and what did he do? Exactly what she feared - he cheated on her. I wasn't there, but I feel kind of shitty knowing this information now.

    Anyone else ever been in this situation?
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    Jun 23, 2014 10:10 PM GMT
    Again? icon_confused.gif
  • onefortified

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    Jun 23, 2014 10:31 PM GMT
    OP made this thread already. OP is trolling for answers he wants. OP needs to stay out of other peoples business.
  • Kalifornicati...

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    Jun 23, 2014 10:31 PM GMT
    Yes, actually same situation but with another friend of ours. I feel for her because she is a great person, but I can't mingle in their affairs. It's not my place to be involved.
  • tj85016

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    Jun 23, 2014 10:38 PM GMT
    so you're pissed you can't get into his pants, grow up
  • Webster666

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    Jun 23, 2014 11:45 PM GMT
    I have not been in that situation.

    Whom your friends are sleeping with is none of your business.

    And, I promise you, if you take sides, or tell either one of them what you know, they will dump you as a friend, and you will very likely lose your job.

  • Kalifornicati...

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    Jun 25, 2014 1:26 AM GMT
    onefortified saidOP made this thread already. OP is trolling for answers he wants. OP needs to stay out of other peoples business.


    This ^ stay out! It's not your business. It's theirs. I know you want to do the right thing, but it will make no one happy in the end.
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    Jun 25, 2014 4:36 PM GMT
    ant811 saidAnyone else ever been in this situation?

    Only from you…over and over again…but under a new name, how creative.