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  • jnick91776

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    Jun 24, 2014 3:40 AM GMT
    I met someone last night and texted him this....

    me- hi david. I hope you had a good day at work. I had a great time with you last night. you had me doing things on the dance floor I usually don't do. would you like to go out sometime?

    him- busy tired just laying in bed. dancing was fun last night. yea if im free can do that.

    me- lol..so when are you free...can you pencil me in sometime? ;)

    him- I will look.

    my question is-- do I respond to that now or do I wait for him to get back to me???

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    Jun 24, 2014 7:29 AM GMT
    He doesn't sound too enthusiastic. Either he just speaks like a caveman or you may be waiting awhile for him to 'look'.
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    Jun 24, 2014 10:11 AM GMT
    Rolfron saidHe doesn't sound too enthusiastic. Either he just speaks like a caveman or you may be waiting awhile for him to 'look'.


    I agree, you might be waiting for him to look for time.......you might consider looking for some one else.icon_sad.gif
  • helloandgoodb...

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    Jun 24, 2014 11:13 AM GMT
    jnick91776 saidI met someone last night and texted him this....

    me- hi david. I hope you had a good day at work. I had a great time with you last night. you had me doing things on the dance floor I usually don't do. would you like to go out sometime?

    him- busy tired just laying in bed. dancing was fun last night. yea if im free can do that.

    me- lol..so when are you free...can you pencil me in sometime? ;)

    him- I will look.

    my question is-- do I respond to that now or do I wait for him to get back to me???



    "can you pencil me in sometime?" and a wink could read sarcastic and like you are being tentative. So "i will look" MAY be a tentative reply to you.

    Reply with 2 or 3 options of dates then he is forced to make a move or drop it
  • PRDGUY

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    Jun 24, 2014 12:49 PM GMT
    I would find several various activities on different days and propose those dates & times to him. At the same time I would suggest if he was unable to make those dates what day would be good for him? That way it wud back him soon into a corner and give you an answer. I'm one that believes you don't leave one hanging -be honest open & don't play games. Do try to quote unquote
    spare someone's feelings whenever possible while being honest.
  • PR_GMR

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    Jun 24, 2014 2:00 PM GMT
    You made one error with that text--You should have suggested a specific date and time. Never leave it to the other person to pick the day and time for the day. You have to be specific about it.
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    Jun 25, 2014 3:44 PM GMT
    PR_GMR saidYou made one error with that text--You should have suggested a specific date and time. Never leave it to the other person to pick the day and time for the day. You have to be specific about it.


    Yes, I do this if I am keen. It lets them know that you are interested but also not a doormat who will put up with any nonsense.
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    Jun 25, 2014 4:15 PM GMT
    Ohno said
    PR_GMR saidYou made one error with that text--You should have suggested a specific date and time. Never leave it to the other person to pick the day and time for the day. You have to be specific about it.


    Yes, I do this if I am keen. It lets them know that you are interested but also not a doormat who will put up with any nonsense.

    Good points. Go back with a couple of specific dates after a couple of days if you haven't heard anything. If he comes up with excuses that none will work, you have your answer, move on. If he says he'll check and get back to you, don't hold your breath. If he picks one of the dates and says sure, you win! Good luck.
  • Amira

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    Jun 25, 2014 5:49 PM GMT
    DELETE