Any gay medical student/doctors out there? help me please (new to RJ).

  • yoosung

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    Jun 24, 2014 8:16 AM GMT
    It may be weird to ask this here.
    I am currently a pre-med student and entering 5th year in one of the UC university.
    My big concern is that I want to change my path into dental school so that I have more possibility to choose a city that I want to go to. Which cities are their a lot of gay asians?
    My story is this. I have been living in a city where there is no gay people, and I do not want to go to a medical school in a city where there is no gay people and homosexuality is not accepted. I do not want to live another 6-7 years (including residency after med school) of being single. Changing a career path for such reason may sound dumb but it is very lonely to not be able to socialize and meet other gay people.
    Is it also true that if you get into a medical school you would have to continue your residency with the same school? i heard that it is very difficult to transfer to other major cities from cities that are in countryside.
    Also, if there are any doctors reading this, do any of you guys regret going into medical field and spending their 20's and the early 30's studying your ass off and not being able to socialize and meet gay people in the young age? because I honestly am a bit scared to get into a medical school in countryside, get stucked there until I actually get a job in like 40's (cuz medical school is a long way), and not be able to meet a partner.


    btw sorry for bad grammaricon_sad.gif not an english native speaker.
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    Jun 24, 2014 9:42 AM GMT
    You see... Don't let external forces let you decide your career.
    There are always gay men in every city. Just try to get a seat in a good university instead of changing your whole course.

    Just like, no matter how busy you are, you'll always find some time to eat...similarly if you organize a little bit more of your schedule, you'll surely find time to meet someone.

    I like medicine, but my love for studying philosophy is far greater...so I chose not to make any further attempts in studying post graduation in medicine. That's just me. But, Your explanation doesn't agree with your personal reality. You want to change because you can't find gay men! That's an external force influencing your internal thoughts. Think well...give some serious though to it.

    BTW, welcome to RJ icon_smile.gif
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    Jun 24, 2014 11:13 AM GMT
    Harry7785 saidYou see... Don't let external forces let you decide your career.
    There are always gay men in every city. Just try to get a seat in a good university instead of changing your whole course.

    Just like, no matter how busy you are, you'll always find some time to eat...similarly if you organize a little bit more of your schedule, you'll surely find time to meet someone.

    I like medicine, but my love for studying philosophy is far greater...so I chose not to make any further attempts in studying post graduation in medicine. That's just me. But, Your explanation doesn't agree with your personal reality. You want to change because you can't find gay men! That's an external force influencing your internal thoughts. Think well...give some serious though to it.

    BTW, welcome to RJ icon_smile.gif

    Very true, great reply!
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    Jun 24, 2014 3:20 PM GMT
    OK, this makes no sense. You're going to school in Davis at the University of CA. That's a little more than an hour north of the Gay Mecca! Have you ever been to SF? Also, there are gay people in Davis (and ALL of CA for that matter) AND there are both colleges and major medical universities/research facilities/hospitals in SF!

    Why don't you look at getting closer to SF if you need more 'gay life'? Being in CA you have a lot of opportunities both in medical and dental and being as close as you are to the SF Bay Area, you're in good company will a LOT of gay guys. You're also not far from Sacramento (1/2 hour drive) and they have their own gay area! Not sure what exactly you're looking for or expecting but I don't think you're going to be closer to an area that has both gays and great universities than you are now. UC SF is one of the leading schools in the nation for medicine and research.