Eight things Gay Guys should start saying to each other MOAR!

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    Jun 25, 2014 7:56 PM GMT
    [url]https://medium.com/@joshhersh/8-things-gay-guys-should-start-saying-to-each-other-more-often-9354c8f24d98[/url]

    Do you do any of these?
    What moar would you add?

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    Jun 25, 2014 8:08 PM GMT
    9. Constantly seeking attention and validation makes you very unattractive.


    10. Your happiness doesn't depend on somebody else. If it does, you're a miserable human being.


    11. There is no such thing as sexual racism or sexual ageism. It's like when people like a certain car brand or only like brown dogs or only play horror video games.


    12. Being gay is not always about being gay. Sex shouldn't be the sole purpose of your life.

    13. Don't mind what others think about you. They don't do it very often.
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    Jun 25, 2014 8:13 PM GMT
    FIrst of all, what is "Medium"? It doesn't make itself obvious to someone like me. I had to poke around quite a bit to even find a *very brief* description of what it is. Sometimes all this slimmed down, trimmed out, super sleek front just puts me off. You have to join it basically not knowing anything beforehand.

    As to the 8 points, yeah, we need to talk *with* one another rather than 'at' one another. We also need to feel safe opening up. Some forums, for example, are safer than others. RJ isn't exactly one of them.
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    Jun 25, 2014 8:19 PM GMT
    2. COME JOIN US. lol

    Almost no gay person I've met does that.
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    Jun 25, 2014 8:28 PM GMT
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    Jun 25, 2014 8:35 PM GMT
    kevex said9. Constantly seeking attention and validation makes you very unattractive.


    10. Your happiness doesn't depend on somebody else. If it does, you're a miserable human being.


    11. There is no such thing as sexual racism or sexual ageism. It's like when people like a certain car brand or only like brown dogs or only play horror video games.


    12. Being gay is not always about being gay. Sex shouldn't be the sole purpose of your life.

    13. Don't mind what others think about you. They don't do it very often.


    Really.
    your 10 is spoken from the position of someone who has never been in love.
    your 11 is too ridiculous to comment on. It exists, not in every case, but it exists.
    your 12 is also rather stupid, because being gay is not just about sex, but also about love - again you speak from a position of someone has never experienced it.

    and your 13? You're obsessed with what others think about you. icon_wink.gif
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    Jun 25, 2014 8:38 PM GMT
    kevex said2. COME JOIN US. lol

    Almost no gay person I've met does that.


    I wonder why that happens to you?
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    Jun 25, 2014 8:40 PM GMT
    meninlove said
    kevex said9. Constantly seeking attention and validation makes you very unattractive.


    10. Your happiness doesn't depend on somebody else. If it does, you're a miserable human being.


    11. There is no such thing as sexual racism or sexual ageism. It's like when people like a certain car brand or only like brown dogs or only play horror video games.


    12. Being gay is not always about being gay. Sex shouldn't be the sole purpose of your life.

    13. Don't mind what others think about you. They don't do it very often.


    Really.
    your 10 is spoken from the position of someone who has never been in love.
    your 11 is too ridiculous to comment on. It exists, not in every case, but it exists.
    your 12 is also rather stupid, because being gay is not just about sex, but also about love - again you speak from a position of someone has never experienced it.

    and your 13? You're obsessed with what others think about you. icon_wink.gif



    "11. There is no such thing as sexual racism or sexual ageism..."

    Which says you are BOTH!
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    Jun 25, 2014 8:41 PM GMT
    meninlove said
    kevex said2. COME JOIN US. lol

    Almost no gay person I've met does that.


    I wonder why that happens to you?


    (Hand up! "I know, I know!") Oh wait that was rhetorical?

    He can turn a beautiful, well meaning post, and turn it into something ugly and about himself.
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    Jun 25, 2014 8:45 PM GMT
    kevex said2. COME JOIN US. lol

    Almost no gay person I've met does that.


    And, there are other non-gay people to whom we can extend this wonderful invitation to break down the barriers between "us and them".
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    Jun 25, 2014 8:46 PM GMT
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    Jun 25, 2014 8:46 PM GMT
    GAMRican said
    kevex said2. COME JOIN US. lol

    Almost no gay person I've met does that.


    And, there are other non-gay people to whom we can extend this wonderful invitation to break down the barriers between "us and them".


    Yeah, most of my friends are straight and female. There's always support around.
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    Jun 25, 2014 8:47 PM GMT
    GAMRican said
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    I love this! icon_biggrin.gif


    So do I. I'm a big fan of Mr Maupin. icon_smile.gif
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    Jun 25, 2014 8:56 PM GMT
    meninlove said
    GAMRican said


    I love this! icon_biggrin.gif


    So do I. I'm a big fan of Mr Maupin. icon_smile.gif


    lol I do not even know who that is. I just liked the pic and thought I'd share it on this thread icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jun 25, 2014 10:00 PM GMT
    Kuestion said
    meninlove said
    GAMRican said


    I love this! icon_biggrin.gif


    So do I. I'm a big fan of Mr Maupin. icon_smile.gif


    lol I do not even know who that is. I just liked the pic and thought I'd share it on this thread icon_biggrin.gif


    I read all his books, Tales of the City et al. A movie was made of this first novel. icon_smile.gif
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    Jun 25, 2014 10:22 PM GMT
    owl_bundy saidi'm guilty of the following and sure that others are too. focusing for the negatives instead of focusing on the positives. being gay can be a wonderful experience but i guess you have to give yourself a chance. i haven't got to that point yet. sad but true.

    one thing... gay guys in general need to stop striving for perfection.


    Well when you are bashed, bullied and chastised simply for being who are by parents, siblings and other people, it tends to screw up a little.
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    Jun 25, 2014 11:43 PM GMT
    I'm not impressed by that list of 8 things. I simply tell my husband I love him, as he tells me. Direct, to the point, 1 thing, not 8.

    And I make it into a game he loves. Every day I say to him:

    "Did I tell you today how much I love you?"

    "No," he always answers, because I haven't said it yet. And then I have my fun -

    "Oh, well, maybe I'll tell you tomorrow."

    "It was at 10 AM this morning, you must have missed it."

    "Well, I've been really busy."

    "Oh, this is a Monday, right?"

    And so it goes. Every day I try to come up with some silly original reply. But every day I actually tell him how much I love him, even though it's through comedy. He gets the message.

    Make sure you tell your own man every day, by whatever device or means you wish, that you love him, too.
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    Jun 26, 2014 12:14 AM GMT
    NorthwestBoy1980 saidMore?


    MOAR = more + roar. icon_wink.gificon_lol.gif
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    Jun 26, 2014 12:19 AM GMT
    GAMRican said
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    I love this! icon_biggrin.gif


    That is AWESOME!
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    Jun 26, 2014 12:35 AM GMT
    Art_Deco saidI'm not impressed by that list of 8 things. I simply tell my husband I love him, as he tells me. Direct, to the point, 1 thing, not 8.

    And I make it into a game he loves. Every day I say to him:

    "Did I tell you today how much I love you?"

    "No," he always answers, because I haven't said it yet. And then I have my fun -

    "Oh, well, maybe I'll tell you tomorrow."

    "It was at 10 AM this morning, you must have missed it."

    "Well, I've been really busy."

    "Oh, this is a Monday, right?"

    And so it goes. Every day I try to come up with some silly original reply. But every day I actually tell him how much I love him, even though it's through indirect comedy. He gets the message.

    Make sure you tell your own man every day, by whatever device or means you wish, that you love him, too.


    That's so nice. icon_razz.gif

    I think having the right person say those 8 things to you means so much more than just anybody. (Although it's still very nice.)
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    Jun 26, 2014 12:42 AM GMT
    I think gays should strive to use better grammar MORE. icon_confused.gif
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    Jun 26, 2014 12:42 AM GMT
    meninlove said
    GAMRican said
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    I love this! icon_biggrin.gif


    So do I. I'm a big fan of Mr Maupin. icon_smile.gif

    I loves me some Mister Maupin as well. I highly relate to one of his main characters in Tales of the City.
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    Jun 26, 2014 12:45 AM GMT
    polfsky said
    That's so nice. icon_razz.gif

    Maybe nicer than being single at 37. icon_razz.gif
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    Jun 26, 2014 12:48 AM GMT
    Scruffypup saidI think gays should strive to use better grammar MORE. icon_confused.gif


    MORE = more + roar icon_lol.gif

    http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=moar
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    Jun 26, 2014 12:49 AM GMT
    Art_Deco said
    polfsky said
    That's so nice. icon_razz.gif

    Maybe nicer than being single at 37. icon_razz.gif


    OUCH!!! icon_cry.gificon_cry.gif