Pro bottom advice needed

  • cleresn13

    Posts: 1

    Jun 27, 2014 3:38 AM GMT
    Hey guys this is my first post and hope you can help out a newbie. Normally I get aroused very easily and can stay hard for as long as I want to. But when it comes to actual sex, I find it hard (no pun intended) to get it on again especially after I have been broken in. I need some pro bottom icon_twisted.gif advice: how do you stay hard while you are at it? I don't know if I have performance anxiety or what. Or is this a response may vary thing and I'm wired to just go soft when getting poked? Serious answers please, Also I'm not expecting answers such as pills or poppers. Thanks for reading.
  • Decisive

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    Jun 27, 2014 8:14 AM GMT
    If you are asking about staying hard while bottoming...for me, I usually don't if I am just focusing on him. However all I have to do is think about my dick and it springs to life. Guess its just a personal thing.
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    Jun 27, 2014 11:18 AM GMT
    Like Decisive said,,,,,,its all about control,.for me I can have a guy riding me doggie or what ever way he wants, my willy will be soft.....but IF I want it to be hard all I have to do is concentrate and I can get a woody that will be flying high.
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    Jun 27, 2014 1:26 PM GMT
    Personally I find "concentrating" to be a bad idea. If I focus so hard on one thing, I find I get too nervous/self-conscious and it never happens. I try to just be in the moment and enjoy the sensations and attraction between you and your top. The top will likely only be worried about your connection together and how much you are both enjoying yourselves. If you worry about what he will think about your soft dick, you can let him know beforehand that you always go soft, even when a top is making you feel amazing. This way you can just relax and have fun in the moment, without being in your head the whole time. Heck you might even pop a boner.
    Enjoy and have fun! icon_smile.gif