threesomes

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    Sep 27, 2007 3:03 AM GMT
    My partner and I are very secure in our relationship. What's the problem with our looking for a YOUNGER, RICHER third partner. (We have a large enough bed.) We've always joked about it, but neither of us has ever acted on it.
  • swimbikerun

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    Sep 27, 2007 3:13 AM GMT
    Why does he have to be RICHER? What part does money play in your fantasy?
  • dfrourke

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    Sep 27, 2007 5:11 AM GMT
    ...I don't think other people are going to be able to answer this question for you...only you and your partner know the boundaries well enough in your relationship to know if this will enhance or unravel your relationship...

    - David
  • GQjock

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    Sep 27, 2007 9:52 AM GMT
    Hey...if it fits you guys' plan for things
    have at it

    I don't think it's very sustainable in the long term
    Living in SoFla where threesomes are more the rule than not they tend to Peter out (no pun intended)
  • cdnclub

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    Sep 27, 2007 2:39 PM GMT
    OMG!...I can't even find one guy!..lol
  • Laurence

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    Sep 27, 2007 3:32 PM GMT
    Well there are two desperadoes at the top of this forum cdnclub. What are you waiting for?

    If you're rich, you could be the filling in that sandwich.
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    Sep 27, 2007 3:40 PM GMT
    when rigsby said, "richer," perhaps he means they'd like to find someone who at some point won't be asking for a loan or something - know what I mean?
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    Sep 27, 2007 4:13 PM GMT
    More power to you...what ever rocks your world and if you both agreed on this then good hunting!
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    Sep 27, 2007 7:34 PM GMT
    How am I supposed to answer this?
    ..It has nothing to do with me.
    It is purely a personal matter
    ..of which my opinion is not worthy.

    There are questions of an intimate nature
    ..That the general public's point of view
    Can neither guide, inform, nor enlighten.
    ..It's totally up to you.

    If you want to bed a younger man
    ..And make a frolicking three
    How can I help you make that decision?
    ..It has nothing to do with me.

    Unless in truth, this is just an ad
    ..Planted in thread disguise.
    Hoping to attract some rich, young buck
    ..And leave the rest of us none the wise

    Then let me ask the group
    ..Just what you all would think.
    If I kanoodled with a man way richer,
    ..And with death was at the brink.
  • Salubrious

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    Sep 27, 2007 9:12 PM GMT
    What's up with the quatrains?
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    Sep 27, 2007 10:02 PM GMT
    I apologize for my pitifully poor poetry. Fortunately, it is easy to recognize and everyone can skip over it.
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    Sep 27, 2007 10:38 PM GMT
    I got the money honey, show us the beef, your pic too. My boyfriend will kill me if he sees this! icon_lol.gif OUR BED is big too (PLAYGROUND), but we only play together with no one else.
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    Sep 27, 2007 10:41 PM GMT
    I like your Poems Caslon!
  • Salubrious

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    Sep 27, 2007 11:01 PM GMT
    CaslonI apologize for my pitifully poor poetry. Fortunately, it is easy to recognize and everyone can skip over it.


    Well, I'm not bashing it; I was just a bit confused. If you like writing poetry, continue. I don't think people have enough poetry in their lives.
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    Sep 27, 2007 11:26 PM GMT
    Thank you, rksportswear.

    Sometimes I think poetry can communicate a message and a feeling far better than prose can.


  • MikePhilPerez

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    Sep 27, 2007 11:58 PM GMT
    They want to steal his moneyicon_lol.gif
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    Sep 28, 2007 12:04 AM GMT
    But that would be dishonest. Unlike my plan, to just have the old fart die of natural causes and leave it all to me.



    ....and the first one to call me Anna Nicole, gets bitch-slapped icon_lol.gif
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    Sep 28, 2007 11:07 AM GMT
    Personally, I don't like 3somes, I find it too stressful trying to work out who's going to do what to whom and when. And there's always one of you who feels left out (usually me).

    In all seriousness, I think you need to think carefully about why you need to bring a third person into your relationship. Will it change the dynamic of your sex life? What if one of you enjoys it more than other? And what about that green eyed monster? What if he makes an appearance?
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    Sep 28, 2007 7:48 PM GMT
    as gay men we all know that we are into what we are into and can't help it. In being so, if you and your partner are into having a third richer younger partner its only wrong if you feel that it is.

    Asking us this is truly asking us to pass judgement. Its a question of romantic morality and thats for you to decide.

    I myself am so incredibly monogamous. I'm looking for a partner to escape the multiple thing. of course its fun at times, but ultimately it does nothing for me. When I find Mr. Right, I have no intentions of sharing him with anyone.

    But I am still young and naive. truly there is no telling what methods I may turn to for fun in my later years and in being so I say life is short! Go out find your third and have some fun. I do think however that it'll be a lot more convenient for you if you make it a temperary thing. I've seen horrible things happen to couples because of things of this sort.


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    Sep 28, 2007 7:52 PM GMT
    Something funny about the "RICHER" thing?
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    Sep 30, 2007 2:06 AM GMT
    OOPS!!!!

    I really didn't intend to post the question that began this thread. My partner and I had been out (drinking just a little), ran into some friends and I started talking about realjock and the number of posters that believe in the heterosexual ideal of monogamous partners...that evolved into the dynamics/possibilities of a third partner in a relationship over dinner. The posted new topic was a whim (freudian slip?) and I thought I had deleted it, but apparently I posted it.

    But, since I did post it, let me jump into this thread:

    Richer means more money. It's my belief that your first love is usually acquired for love, whether he has money or not, but it should be just as easy to fall in love with someone who has money. You just have to hang around with a rich crowd and do things that attract people with money. And richer allows me to be much more comfortable.


    Caslon: Thanks for the brilliant, often insightful and frequent poetry. (No, my post is not an ad, just the musings of a pair of old farts who sit back and peruse the profiles of Realjock members and think "we could...or would like to...make him happy, if he just didn't restrict himself to 'my age or younger'").

    rksportswear: at 82 (per your profile) you may be richer, but don't qualify for younger. I've acknowledged in other threads being really ignorant about cameras/photos/etc., but I've got some on order. There's actually a picture of me on the net, but I have no idea how to import it to realjock. Anybody out there know how to do it?

    In any event, why is the gay community stuck with heterosexual ideals of monogamy. We generally were raised in the society that said gay people are awful/going to hell, and we were able to overcome that malicious sterotype; why are we stuck with the monogamous realtionship stereotyp, too?
  • Timbales

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    Sep 30, 2007 2:10 AM GMT
    I've never been in one, but I wouldn't rule it out. Another couple may be a better idea, so no one ends up feeling left out.
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    Oct 02, 2007 3:31 AM GMT
    why is the gay community stuck with heterosexual ideals of monogamy..... why are we stuck with the monogamous realtionship stereotype

    That is the most ignorant thing any gay guy
    could ever say. How could you even consider that a stereotype...

    Monogamy homosexual or otherwise is only what it
    implies. It is people who misconstrue the term to
    make it fit the situations to make themselves feel better. This is not a question of monogamy
    or its "ideals" as you so aptly put it.

    When did it become wrong to want to be with one
    person for the rest of your life and have/raise kids
    and you know... have a family?
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    Oct 03, 2007 12:37 AM GMT
    LOL!! "Richer".....That's classic, and sooo Diva!!

    *snap*

    Well, I suppose you'd have to look into your circle of friends, then their friend's friends, then their friends' - friend's friends...

    That's how it all starts!

    Since you're already in the Upper-Upper Middle Class or whatever, you'll know exactly how financially stable the third partner is...ask about the occupation and guestimate the income! Done and DONE! (Be mindful of the posers! Some guys can claim to be a Professional Fund Raiser which translates into "Unemployed Money-Asking Loser".




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    Oct 04, 2007 7:41 PM GMT
    I don't feel that being monogamous is me trying to live up to some straight stereotype. Afterall, where I grew up, you were an accident and mommy and daddy split up before you could even walk.

    monogamy is just something that I have always naturally craved.

    All people aren't created equally and along with all the different life experiences that we go through we are bound to differ in so many ways that you couldn't even keep count.

    I love it how people try to twist homosexuality into some form of freedom and liberation. So we are free to not be bound down by one person because we sleep with men? I honestly don't get the rational. But everyone's entitled to their opinion.