Wheelchair

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    Jun 29, 2014 12:13 PM GMT
    Just a question for you all, have any of you guys dated or had relationship with a wheelchair user? Being a paraplegic myself I just wanted to get your thoughts and hear about your experiences and attitudes from those round about you and your partnericon_biggrin.gif
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    Jun 29, 2014 12:40 PM GMT
    I've never dated anyone who uses a wheelchair, but if I did, he better have a personality just as awesome as this guy...my wheelchair hero.

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    Jun 29, 2014 5:59 PM GMT
    he is quite something
  • hockeyfan7

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    Jul 01, 2014 5:22 PM GMT
    No but I definitely would.
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    Jul 02, 2014 9:06 AM GMT
    Someone I know has had an experience with dating a guy in a wheelchair who was paraplegic.

    He said he thought the guy was amazing. They've dated for weeks, they did nice things and they could talk endlessly about anything - or sit there endlessly without saying a word.

    So what was the problem? Of course, it was the sex. Although he liked this guy a lot, he was hardly satisfied in bed. In some point he felt that as much as he tried, he could not get around this issue. He decided that they would make better friends than boyfriends. It bothered him a lot.

    I'd worry that I'd find myself in the same predicament.
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    Jul 02, 2014 11:56 AM GMT
    icon_cool.gifThat is often the problem with paraplegics like me, you really do need understanding partner and you have to find ways to adapt so that you can satisfy and bring pleasure.
    Although true love wins through usually
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    Jul 02, 2014 12:18 PM GMT
    30 years ago or so, back in my hetero days (shut up!)I dated a dbl amputee female who used a chair. We even started a wheel-chair awareness event.

    Got local Med Equip facility to lend 30 chairs, had pizza, burgers, dogs, etc and all those attending had to sit ONLY in one of the chairs the entire time, or no food!

    We even 'played' basketball in them!

    So, yeah. I'd date a guy in one.
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    Jul 02, 2014 11:24 PM GMT
    hockeyfan7 saidNo but I definitely would.


    I know some guys in wheel chairs amd there great guys just like all off us,,coming Fri they will be in the Peachtree,,sorry but I respect them as good friends to let pther things get in the way.
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    Jul 03, 2014 12:13 AM GMT
    It's fucking hot I'd imagine. A super cute guy paralyzed from the neck down, and you can bang him like a rag doll. No legs? Even better access! Not kidding at all. But for the sake of society's judging eyes, the guy will have to be well hotter than average to make up for the "deficit" ;)
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    Jul 03, 2014 12:42 AM GMT
    theonewhoknocks saidIt's fucking hot I'd imagine. A super cute guy paralyzed from the neck down, and you can bang him like a rag doll. No legs? Even better access! Not kidding at all. But for the sake of society's judging eyes, the guy will have to be well hotter than average to make up for the "deficit" ;)


    what a F-ing a-hole

    I would if I were single and meet a guy I click with. I also think I would have to work through some of my issues or concerns, but would diff be up for it.

    It is all about finding that person you can just click with, who you can talk with or just hang with.

    As for sex, well I think it would be great to think of ways that both partners could find pleasure. Probably would require actually talking about what each person wanted.
  • hockeyfan7

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    Jul 03, 2014 5:10 PM GMT
    What sort of things have to happen for someone in a wheelchair to have sex? Why is it not as satisfying?
  • AZski

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    Jul 04, 2014 7:54 AM GMT
    I was talking to a guy in a wheel chair for about a month. One of the most handsome guys Ive ever seen. We didn't get involved enough for me to know if physicality would be an issue, but it turned out his emotional scars and insecurities from his accident were what drove me away, not his physical disability. This sounds cold, but he had way too much baggage, resentment, anger issues, insecurities, etc. If it wasn't for that, I would have definitely given it a chance.
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    Jul 04, 2014 1:13 PM GMT
    Haven't dated anybody who used a wheelchair yet. However, there was this one guy at the gym who had a smoking hot body and would do amazing things with his workout, and had an palpable, sexy confidence about him.

    Hot is hot.
  • Dystopia_

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    Jul 05, 2014 4:29 PM GMT
    I definitely would and I wouldn't really care about it.

    Seriously, it wouldn't bother me AT ALL if I wanted a relationship with the guy. I've found that a successful relationship goes beyond sexual needs. To be with someone who wants you regardless of your weaknesses and insecurities is exactly what a relationship is all about.

    So ya, your wheelchair situation is just a filter for all the guys you shouldn't be with in the first place.
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    Jul 05, 2014 7:58 PM GMT
    theonewhoknocks saidIt's fucking hot I'd imagine. A super cute guy paralyzed from the neck down, and you can bang him like a rag doll. No legs? Even better access! Not kidding at all. But for the sake of society's judging eyes, the guy will have to be well hotter than average to make up for the "deficit" ;)


    Ummm.....we all have "deficits." Some are physical like the OP's and some are mental....like yours. icon_confused.gif
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    Jul 05, 2014 8:00 PM GMT
    hockeyfan7 saidWhat sort of things have to happen for someone in a wheelchair to have sex? Why is it not as satisfying?


    Being in the wheelchair isn't the problem. Being paralyzed from the waist down can be.