Need some advice...

  • CTHS

    Posts: 135

    Jun 30, 2014 4:56 PM GMT
    Hey RealJockers,

    I never really put too much personal information on the web but I figured I could turn to you guys for some dating advice... About two years ago I met a guy in a bar and immediately was attracted to him. He had just moved to my city, great looking, sweet guy, and he really had it together. After exchanging numbers in the bar we started texting for several weeks. One night as we were talking he told me he had started dating someone and that we could remain friends but nothing further. Being a laid back guy, I told him that, that was awesome and I hoped he found happiness in his new life in our city. We started talking about the guy he was starting to date and the further into the conversation I started to realize that he had been describing a guy I knew/know and we hang out maybe once every three months (not bestfriends but enjoy each other's company). After establishing that it was this person, I congratulated him and told him this person was truly an amazing person and they would be very happy together. They dated for about a year in which I never hung out with either of them during this year (texted and were friendly but nothing more). They broke up suddenly about 5 months ago and the ex has started dating a new guy. Having stayed acquainted with this crush we have played with the idea of going on a date now that he is single. I'm very torn on what to do now icon_sad.gif I've always been attracted to this guy but left it alone because he was no longer single. Now that he is single, do I break the rules of friendship and go on this date and see where I can find happiness?

    thanks guys!
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    Jun 30, 2014 5:53 PM GMT
    you will regret it if you dont date one or the other.

    gay dating is almost incestuous so do dont be surprised both men know your intentions. dont be surprised if they get back together.
  • Destinharbor

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    Jun 30, 2014 5:58 PM GMT
    Sure, give it a shot. Sorry to say but it sounds like maybe your interest isn't reciprocated, at least romantically. But just give it a go. What is there to lose? If he say's "No," just laugh it off and tell him "OK, no prob, just thought I'd give it a shot." That is IF you can be just friends. You sound grounded enough to handle whatever comes next.
  • CTHS

    Posts: 135

    Jun 30, 2014 6:19 PM GMT
    Thanks for the input! The interests are for sure reciprocated... We are going on a date later this week. I was just more concerned about hurting his ex because I've known him for a while.
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    Jun 30, 2014 6:19 PM GMT
    You know the answer..

    You are struggling with your conscience and seeking external reinforcement...

    If you have to post a thread like this before you date a guy. .... something is very wrong!

    Stay clear... you deserve more than your friend'S rebound EX!