Funny or Odd Ways You Met a BF, or Maybe Your Partner

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    Jul 01, 2014 9:16 PM GMT
    Another concurrent thread made me think of this topic. And I've actually posted some of my stories before, but if you're a more recent RJ member you might enjoy reading this, and share any stories that you have.

    I'd been chatting online with a guy for about a year, and finally began speaking on the phone, and then exchanged photos. At that time most of us just used avatars for our profile pics on that gay site.

    We finally decided to meet in person, so I flew 1500 miles to his home. But I couldn't find him in the airport. Finally I figured I better go to baggage claim before my stuff was removed from the carousel.

    There was only 1 other person at the baggage claim, asleep in a chair. And I thought, no, this couldn't be the guy, looks nothing like him. But as I stared some more he did seem a bit familiar, maybe I should get a little closer.

    This caused him to startle awake, and he immediately gave me a big smile, and said: "Bob! Welcome! I was afraid maybe you missed your plane, so I came to your flight's claim area."

    I was shocked. It certainly was his voice, but not his face, yet I somehow knew it, and he knew me. It slowly began to dawn on me what had happened, and it wasn't that he deliberately sent me a misleading pic. Instead, that I had mixed up his photo with another's guy's I received online at the same time, and mislabeled their pic files in my computer. I confirmed this when I returned home.

    For months I'd subsequently been communicating with the wrong guy, flew 1500 miles to stay with a different guy than the one I thought he was! I'll tell yah, when I screw up I don't mess around. (Is that an oxymoron of sorts?) icon_redface.gif

    I wondered if I should stay and go through with this, but it was nighttime, a return flight not possible until at least tomorrow. And costly to change my roundtrip ticket. Plus I couldn't hurt the guy's feelings, it was my mistake, not his. So I went outside with him, where he had a driver & limousine waiting (itself a funny story for another time).

    Well, the end result was we fell in love, and had an LDR for another 6 months, traveling back & forth every 2 or 3 weeks. Until 1 day he dropped to his knee at dinner, presented me with a ring, and proposed (symbolic) marriage. I immediately accepted.

    All because of a mistake I made.
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    Jul 02, 2014 12:54 AM GMT
    Great romantic story!
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    Jul 02, 2014 1:20 AM GMT
    sweetyork saidGreat romantic story!

    Thanks. I guess that qualifies as serendipity. My second story (a couple of years earlier) did not have such an ending, we were together less than 2 years before splitting.

    I was reading the local newspaper in my university office, when I saw an article about a guy who had personally renovated an old house he bought. Featured lots of pictures of it, a rather eccentric home where he lived as a 39-year-old bachelor.

    Every room had elaborate crystal chandeliers he had shipped from New York City, where he'd been an actor, now semi-retired. The entire first floor was all white, even the furniture. The upstairs bedrooms were done with period Victorian furnishings.

    Outdoors were several extensive flower gardens he tended, which provided flowers for every room, the only color you saw downstairs. And the photos of him in the article screamed "gay face" at me.

    Surprisingly the paper gave his address, and it stunned me - he apparently lived just a few houses from me. So I immediately wrote him a conventional letter, trying to wrangle an invite to tour his place, since the article said he liked to do that. Of course my primary goal was to meet a possibly gay guy, pretty rare in that region.

    About 3 days later my office phone rang and it's him. With a totally faggy voice. Now I was virtually positive he was gay, my gaydar correct. We set up a time to meet the next day after I returned home from campus, and on a hunch I decided to dress less casual that day, full suit & tie, overcoat, scarf & gloves.

    When he opened his front door his expression was like a little kid at Christmas, who just found Santa Claus on his doorstep. He gave me a full tour, ending in an upstairs bedroom. In which were displayed his Barbie dolls in Victorian costumes.

    By now I felt I could raise the gay topic, which he confirmed. And then he asked if he could blow me right then & there, still in my full suit, merely unzipping. Professional business attire turned him on. Again my instincts had been spot-on. After the BJ we did both strip and got into his bed.

    I moved in with him a few months later, we were together nearly 2 years. But things didn't last, especially since he wouldn't make a permanent commitment to me.

    But again a funny way to meet a guy, this time through a newspaper article about him I just happened to read that one day.
  • Sakura

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    Jul 02, 2014 2:56 AM GMT
    In vet school first year students spend every afternoon of their first semester dissecting a dog. My ex and I were paired randomly and three months later we were dating.
  • ATLANTIS7

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    Jul 02, 2014 5:02 AM GMT
    Lovely story better than some of the idiotic post that appear on here sometimes.
  • Rene_Aensland

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    Jul 02, 2014 9:57 AM GMT
    95% of dates are probably from Grindr in our time.

    So sad.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jul 02, 2014 11:51 AM GMT
    Probably the most interesting way I've ever been asked out on a date was in a restaurant in Wichita, KS. A waiter deliver a note to me from a guy (who I did in fact know, he was seated in a different part of the restaurant) and made a great comment about my looks and how I looked when I came in the place!
    I was stunned and looked around and just about fell over when I saw him.

    I went over, we had a great chat and we did in fact go out. We are really more friends than anything, however.
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    Jul 02, 2014 12:56 PM GMT
    Met my current dude in church. I saw him at a Pride Mass and commented on how cute he was. We were set up by our respective clergy and "courted" for six months online and on the phone before going on a date. That was 11 years ago last month.
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    Jul 02, 2014 3:41 PM GMT
    ShiftyJK08 saidMet my current dude in church. I saw him at a Pride Mass and commented on how cute he was. We were set up by our respective clergy and "courted" for six months online and on the phone before going on a date. That was 11 years ago last month.

    Church, charity events, gay fundraisers, other social events, are ways mentioned on this site all the time. As alternatives to gay clubs & bars, and online hookup sites, that's lots of guys decry and won't use. And with some good reason, especially if a guy is new to the scene and a bit naive, more easily taken advantage of and misled into some poor choices.

    Your story and some others show the diverse ways guys can meet. It's not all gay cruising.
  • Destinharbor

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    Jul 02, 2014 3:50 PM GMT
    Rene_Aensland said95% of dates are probably from Grindr in our time.

    So sad.

    Doesn't have to be. I met my guy online although I was in Florida and he was in Arizona. He didn't even have a pic up. But he sounded smart and interesting and was planning to enroll in a graduate school program in Florida so we started messaging. I checked out his story and he checked out mine and eventually we met for a sex-date week-end. We've been together ever since, two years of somewhat long distance dating while he got his Masters and living together for five years since.
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    Jul 02, 2014 3:56 PM GMT
    Sakura saidIn vet school first year students spend every afternoon of their first semester dissecting a dog. My ex and I were paired randomly and three months later we were dating.

    I'm heard of using a dog as a conversation starter with guys, sort of "bait" if you will. But that's when out walking a dog, never dissecting one.

    BTW, your profile says 3rd year vet school. How long is the program, and are you enjoying it?
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    Jul 02, 2014 4:43 PM GMT
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    Rene_Aensland said95% of dates are probably from Grindr in our time.

    So sad.

    Doesn't have to be. I met my guy online although I was in Florida and he was in Arizona. He didn't even have a pic up. But he sounded smart and interesting and was planning to enroll in a graduate school program in Florida so we started messaging. I checked out his story and he checked out mine and eventually we met for a sex-date week-end. We've been together ever since, two years of somewhat long distance dating while he got his Masters and living together for five years since.

    I met both my guys through AOL gay chat rooms (I haven't been a member in almost 7 years now). The first one I described in my initial story in this thread.

    The other partner was a little different meeting. I'd gone to Florida in 2007 to relocate, and although I'd been coming here since 1973 I wanted the help of a realtor. I found a gay one, again through AOL, before arriving down here. And he even put me up at his house (and in his bed) for a while).

    One day he took me for lunch to the most popular gay cafe in Wilton Manors, about 10 miles away, my first time here. Some guys came over to our table and said hello.

    But the realtor grew tired of me (MOI??? icon_eek.gif ), and I wasn't finding any property I liked, or even a nice rental to give me more time to look. So I left to stay with some gay friends I knew from NYC, now retired to a house north of Palm Beach, to see what that was like.

    What a gay snooze that place was! And now that I'd seen Wilton Manors I was spoiled for an active gay scene, I wasn't ready for rocking on the back porch yet. I again went to AOL, and contacted a guy I'd known there, that I recall lived in Florida. And he told me he lived in Wilton Manors! Perfect!

    But as we chatted more, we became aware that he was one of the 2 guys I'd met that day at lunch in Wilton Manors, 2 months earlier. He offered to put me up at his Wilton Manors condo while I continued my house hunting, and he knew several gay realtors. Deal - I came right down.

    He helped find me a monthly rental nearby, a lovely little cottage so close to Wilton Manors, and him, that I could ride my bicycle. I saw him often, we started dating. Then about 6 months later he said we should become partners, and I move in with him.

    But although he tells everyone his own version of the story today, very romantic like my first partner proposing to me, it wasn't at all like that. He called me into the home office (where I am now). While keyboarding at the computer, he spoke to me over his shoulder as I stood behind him, sometimes turning around a bit. The exact words I can't remember, but it went something like:

    "Ummm... I've gotten to really like you. I tried to resist it at first, didn't want another commitment after my first partner died. I think you should move in with me. Do you want to?"

    Not the most romantic proposal, but I kissed him and accepted, now still with him 7 years later this August.
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    Jul 02, 2014 5:27 PM GMT
    I went to Australia with my two female friends....

    At our hostel one of the girls appeared to pick up a guy... They were together all the time, making food, hanging out at the beach... And eventually he asked her.... Is your friend gay??

    He was apparently watching me in my sleep and noticed me. My friend thought she picked up to, didn't see that one coming.
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    Jul 02, 2014 10:05 PM GMT
    Rene_Aensland said95% of dates are probably from Grindr in our time.

    So sad.


    this... i met the guy i'm dating on scruff. these types of apps have made it so difficult to meet someone a "normal" way, which is good and bad.
  • wild_sky360

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    Jul 02, 2014 10:24 PM GMT
    I hired a handyman and when we ran out of projects, discovered a husband. And at the risk of offending others, I have to say he was the love of my life and always will be. Here's a story with details to rival one of your own Art icon_wink.gif

    We chatted online for a while from clear across state. Although he was very interested, I wasn't interested in anything more, including when he just showed up with only a few hours notice. Not to be rude, I took him on a hike and made him dinner. Truth be told, he took me on a hike. I had yet to discover the beautiful places surrounding my new home, including the spot by the river in my pics with the dogs. He had grown up in this little one street town and showed me the best of the area over our time together.

    I was definitely not interested in more...way too quirky for my taste. He had an intolerance for the ordinary, the mainstream, the blind, zombie like adherence to social norms, and went out of his way to put people off with his appearance and speech. I nonetheless saw through this and found him fascinating and as it turned out, quite brilliant, and a strong friendship developed.

    To stay, he needed to find work so I started giving him house projects. He eventually moved onto my living room sofa, even while I continued to pursue dating other men. Spending so much time together or working on my house, it became a waste of time to shuttle him back and forth each day from where he was staying with old friends nearby. On the long ride home from work I'd find myself looking forward to him being there. He became like the character Eldin on "Murphy Brown"... a good friend and my confidant.

    Weeks turned into months...turned into the approaching anniversary of his arrival. Along with that came the announcement that it was probably time for him to go home where he was missed by his people. I had long run out of meaningful projects for him; a misnomer for someone as brilliant as he. It impressed me how utterly content he was with comparatively menial tasks while possessing a mind that was equally at ease with the most complex, scientific subjects, including his own well developed theories. Yet he never said a condescending word, let alone betrayed a look when I struggled to understand some of his revelations.
    The work was irrelevant at this point although leading up to it I had become increasingly more desperate to keep him busy.

    It was just before this time that I had started to refine what I thought I was looking for in my dating pursuits. I even reduced it to a sentence in my profile, only for those who would understand it. "Looking for my Inman"

    One night driving home I realized Inman was sleeping on my sofa in the other room. I invited him to sleep with me and knew it was right. The next night I arrived home to a new man. A friend had cut his unkempt hair. He was clean shaven. He had borrowed some stylish clothes. I was surprised by how handsome he was behind the facade. And he acted as if nothing had changed. He said he wanted me to love him for who he was and not for what he looked like.

    A few weeks later we invited his extended family and friends from across the state and NW to a big dinner party in the backyard we built together.

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    Jul 03, 2014 6:40 AM GMT
    I love the fact it was so amazing and your married and on Realjock.
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    Jul 03, 2014 11:44 AM GMT
    Rene_Aensland said95% of dates are probably from Grindr in our time.

    So sad.


    Lol, yup my boyfriend and I did happen to meet on Grindr. We both were on the app at a cocktail lounge, met up, clicked, and have been together almost a year and a half.

    Taking the step of moving in together once my lease is up at the end of August! icon_cool.gif
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    Jul 03, 2014 12:27 PM GMT
    There are dozens of ways of meeting guys. What works, works.

    So I wouldn't say they are good ways and bad ways. And automatically dismissing the "bad" ones. I always liked having a broad palette, lots of options from which I could choose. I used as many as possible, figured that it improved my chances numerically, and I believe it did.

    But some ways carry risks, or at least a lessened chance you'll be having anything more than a hook-up. I accepted those risks.

    But as my gay mentor told me, there's nothing wrong with "mindless sex" as he called it, if that's all you want or need. Not every guy has to be your next partner. If you use that high criteria, of judging every guy as your husband, you'll never date anyone.

    No, I would date almost anything (well, maybe not quite ANYTHING, but I wasn't overly selective). Kept me busy & entertained, and even the duds were an education. Not to mention stories to tell afterwards. And you all know how I love to tell stories. icon_rolleyes.gif

    But seriously, from this clutter of guys I figured I'd find someone. And that's what happened. Quantity isn't quality, but it can lead you there.
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    Jul 03, 2014 1:42 PM GMT
    wild_sky360 said He became like the character Eldin on "Murphy Brown"... a good friend and my confidant.


    Heheh this is totally what was going through my head as I was reading it. Great story.
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    Jul 04, 2014 4:33 AM GMT
    Can't say that the way I met my last BF was funny or odd but it sure was unexpected.

    We met on Adam4Adam. Go Figure!icon_eek.gif

    I'd basically given up on dating so was just looking to hookup. This guy Shane hits me up and gave such a cool direct intro of himself without once hinting at hooking up. I was intrigued.

    We eventually met about 3 or 4 days later, didn't have sex until 1 month later (i.e., 1 year in gay years) and dated for approximately 1 year.

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    Jul 04, 2014 9:47 PM GMT
    I met my current friend on Craigslist... lol
    It was initially supposed to be a one time hook up thing, but the guy was pretty presistant. We got to know each other and we've been friends for awhile now.
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    Jul 04, 2014 11:05 PM GMT
    There was a guy who would always ride his bicycle really fast through the neighborhood, jumping curbs and stuff as he went along. That's the same way I ride, so it was always fun to watch him. One day I was riding around the block to test some maintenance I'd done on my bicycle, and there he was, sitting on his porch. I stopped in to say hi, he came over for a few beers, then we rode around town for a while. Then came back to my place for a little "extra" riding.

    We're still together, part-time (he's bi).

    A match made in heaven. icon_cool.gif
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    Jul 05, 2014 12:39 PM GMT
    Met a guy years ago on the subway in NYC. I was on my way to work, and he it turned out was on his way to church. We stared at each other the entire ride as we stood across from one another. I couldn't help it, his eyes were captivating, so I let myself stare. When I realized that we were getting off at the same stop, I decided I had to say something. As we went up the escalator, I leaned forward and asked if I'd made him uncomfortable staring so much on the train earlier. He said no, admitting he was staring right back. I complimented him on his eyes, and with both of us blushing, the conversation continued from there... We dated shortly and are still distant friends today.
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    Jul 05, 2014 3:13 PM GMT
    I remember one partener i was with for a few yrs , we met in the locker room of the gym , we were showering ,,, and as we got dressed he asked me out.. we were together for two yrs at the same Army base..we went to post gym often to swim changing was fun
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    Jul 08, 2014 5:24 PM GMT
    That's a moving story... I have heard stories like this before and relationship can be felt a thousand miles. One story was a call centre from the Philippines who landed in Scotland after a Scottish felt in love with his voice... Yes, It all started with a voice followed by exchanges. The Scottish supports all the expenses and they live happily ever after.