Meat market

  • giodude

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    Jul 02, 2014 5:18 PM GMT
    Have any of you guys thought gay dating is like a meat market, and we're cannibals?

    I mean, we as gay men love beefy guys. We get beeffier to get more beef, and other guys want our beef. The bigger the beef the better. Beefbeefbeefbeef that's all it's about.

    On this site you have the option (a strongly suggested option) of adding chest, arm and waist measurent and height and weight. It's like we are selling ourselves at a meet market, but the buyers are also for sale. Have u guys ever witnessed a cattle auction? "This bull weighs _______ kg's and he's very fertile. Very muscular and and is _________ meters long" or "this cow makes the best milk. _________ liters per day. She weighs ____ kg and hher calves grow up to be excellent milk prouces and have tender meat" etc. It seems as if we don't care.

    It seems to me that we (and I include myself. As much as I hate superficial people, if there was a nice guy, or a guy with a toned body and a beautiful face and I could have 1, I don't know who I'd choose, and I hate myself for it. For reals) that personality traits and characteristics are just on our profiles on this site and in real life just to prove to everyone else and maybe eevn to ourselves that we're not TOTALLY superficial, because we know that we are.

    Am I making sense?

    I just feel like everything we're all on a quest to become the epitome of masculinity and to find this perfect adonis witha gorgeous face and beautiful body and expect to remain that way forever. But we neve will. Is it just me who feels that way or is it a real tendency? I'd like to read your opinions please
  • MikeW

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    Jul 02, 2014 5:22 PM GMT
    Sexual attraction is fundamentally superficial, regardless of the orientation of the attraction. Where's the beef?

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    Jul 02, 2014 5:27 PM GMT
    giodude saidHave any of you guys thought gay dating is like a meat market, and we're cannibals?
    I'm hungry.
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    Jul 02, 2014 6:31 PM GMT
    What you say is true for some/many, but doesn't hold true with the over 5,400 monogamous guys on here.
    Yes, we may get off on attention, if only to make our partner happy/proud, but like anything you put time and effort into, you want recognition.
    -I will check some guy's profile out, thinking about how much time he must spend on his arms/chest, only to be disappointed, because he hasn't put his measurements down.
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    Jul 02, 2014 8:06 PM GMT
    We like a pretty picture but unfortunately a pretty picture does not always translate into an ideal package.

    It may be eye candy but the luster wears pretty thin on me very quickly. Idealistically speaking people have a lot of pressures to live up to.

    Beauty comes from the inside out and who a person is and how they live their life is also a determinant about an individual.

    "She ain't pretty she just looks that way" is going to be true sometimes and "Who's problems can I put up with and vice versa" can also be applicable.

    "Birds of a feather stick together" is what is prevalent in society. You are comfortable with what you are and what you know.

    To have relationships we have to tolerate each other, put up with, learn to understand and support one another and choosing your friends and the people we form relationships with wisely is always appropriate no matter who they are and what they look like.
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    Jul 03, 2014 12:38 AM GMT
    Best meat market I can be involved in,,, yum yum.
  • theonewhoknoc...

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    Jul 05, 2014 4:54 AM GMT
    Everything counts into the equation, not just looks.

    I'm willing to pursue an average 6/10 guy if he has a great personality and is LTR material. For a summer fling, he has to be a 7-8/10. For a one-time hookup, he'll have to be at least a 9. I've never gotten a hookup lol.

    My ideal height is 5'9". Taller than 6' is a dealbreaker, as is shorter than 5'7. If he is nearer any of the extremes, I'd want him to be hotter than if he was 5'9.

    I can also sacrifice hot facial features for a rocking body - to a limited degree, and vice versa. The further away he is from my age, the hotter he'll have to be.

    If he's not white or latino, he'll have to be hotter. If he's black, he'll have to have perfect skin, ripped body, etc.

    A respectable career is sexy, and can compensate for looks to some extent. It doesn't even have to be a well-paying job. A gifted artist, mechanic, architect, etc will all do, whereas I'd be turned off by hairdressers, flight attendants, retail, etc haha.

    It sounds picky but really isn't; I just need a 6/10, all factors considered. I know a bunch of guys will take this opportunity to act all offended on their high horses, but deep down it's not like they are any less calculating when it comes to these things icon_wink.gif
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    Jul 05, 2014 5:23 AM GMT
    I have found that some people are hotter in person (photos just don't do justice), while others have mastered the use of lighting and visual cues to take great pictures but then look less attractive in person.

    We definitely go with the meat market mentality. Straight men impose it on women too, so we're not alone here.
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    Jul 05, 2014 5:30 AM GMT
    RedEssence saidI have found that some people are hotter in person (photos just don't do justice), while others have mastered the use of lighting and visual cues to take great pictures but then look less attractive in person.

    We definitely go with the meat market mentality. Straight men impose it on women too, so we're not alone here.


    so the latter people are.... photoshopped!?
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    Jul 05, 2014 5:31 AM GMT
    leafgreen said
    RedEssence saidI have found that some people are hotter in person (photos just don't do justice), while others have mastered the use of lighting and visual cues to take great pictures but then look less attractive in person.

    We definitely go with the meat market mentality. Straight men impose it on women too, so we're not alone here.


    so the latter people are.... photoshopped!?
    No amount of Photoshop (or Lightroom) can replace great lighting. Just sayin'. icon_wink.gif
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    Jul 05, 2014 5:34 AM GMT
    I just use pics of hotter guys...so much easier.

    shut up, Paul...