Guys with high voices?turn off?

  • Deri245

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    Jul 04, 2014 5:56 AM GMT
    ok guys my problem is with my extremly high pitched voice icon_sad.gif well i sound like im 13 for starters and attracting guys is sum what difficult icon_sad.gif Ill meet sumone on line we can chat and connect then when its time to chat on the phone they sy they r busy and hang up and then i never hear from them again icon_sad.gif but its not just guys tho Im a server/buser at work and I sumtimes I have to hold my tears back lol because customers will look and try not to laugh at me or just look away and laugh icon_sad.gif yea it kinda suxs lots of ppl dont take me seriously but im asking because I have meet several guys on pof in my area we can chat/text for weeks and build a connection but as soon as they hear me speak its over idk maybe im thinking too much but yea icon_sad.gif
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    Jul 04, 2014 5:59 AM GMT
    record yourself and show us so we can give you a better advice of what can be done. Read part of a book or something (promise not to laugh icon_wink.gif )
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    Jul 04, 2014 6:09 AM GMT
    lol
    I have a high voice too

    people think I'm a woman but, they kind of respect me for it after a while. I sorta don't care because I'm strong and usually stronger than them...

    Guys can be like that tooooo but, you really don't wanna date them...... Like ahhhhhh

    Like REAAAALLY.

    I mean I looked away and laughed the other day b.c a truck driver was so fat I couldn't see the sign behind him..

    and he was breathing heavily...

    its a stereotype like gay men in the serving industry...

    Just sorta recognize they're not really laughing at you so much as a typification that you can be recognized as...

    Take it as a compliment I guess like... They are so bored they are thinking about you relative to categories that are not really about you just perception en masse.

    also don't listen to d3k he lives with his girlfriend.
    your voice isn't the issue its your interaction with people being affected by it et your handling of it.


    I tell people oh yea I sound like a woman, ok and then they get over it..

    If necessary make sure to point out what an awful example of humanity they are. Its not always fun but, they'll back off.
  • Deri245

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    Jul 04, 2014 6:15 AM GMT
    Snaz saidlol
    I have a high voice too

    people think I'm a woman but, they kind of respect me for it after a while. I sorta don't care because I'm strong and usually stronger than them...

    Guys can be like that tooooo but, you really don't wanna date them...... Like ahhhhhh

    Like REAAAALLY.

    I mean I looked away and laughed the other day b.c a truck driver was so fat I couldn't see the sign behind him..

    and he was breathing heavily...

    its a stereotype like gay men in the serving industry...

    Just sorta recognize they're not really laughing at you so much as a typification that you can be recognized as...

    Take it as a compliment I guess like... They are so bored they are thinking about you relative to categories that are not really about you just perception en masse.

    also don't listen to d3k he lives with his girlfriend.
    your voice isn't the issue its your interaction with people being affected by it et your handling of it.


    I tell people oh yea I sound like a woman, ok and then they get over it..

    If necessary make sure to point out what an awful example of humanity they are. Its not always fun but, they'll back off.


    yea u bring up valid points icon_smile.gif yea i get i sound like a woman too on the phone sumtimes icon_smile.gif I mean i guess im just frustrated mostly cause ill chat with someone i really like then it ends quickly because of my voice lol idk
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    Jul 04, 2014 6:17 AM GMT
    oh well maybe bring that up front will help you with that sooner.
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    Jul 04, 2014 6:17 AM GMT
    Some dudes actually like high voices. You can't change that part of you. You should embrace it. Also , high voices can be funny too like Chris Rock or Chris Tucker.
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    Jul 04, 2014 6:23 AM GMT
    Let's be honest here OP, the problem is you have a "high voice" or that you have a "high and feminine" voice? Both things are not the same. You can't change the pitch of your voice but if you sound like a girl in the way you articulate words (a mannerism) you could change that if you really wanted.
  • buddycat

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    Jul 04, 2014 8:42 AM GMT
    Huh, women like it when they sing look at Prince or Smokey Robinson. Maybe you should sing?
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    Jul 04, 2014 8:59 AM GMT
    Who gives a fuck and be yourself.
  • buddycat

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    Jul 04, 2014 9:49 AM GMT
    True, be who you are. They are just going to like you for you. My point there are guys that have done great things with their high voices like Pavarotti, the Bee Gees, Smokey Robinson, and countless others (of course they are using falsetto to make their voices even higher at times).
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    Jul 04, 2014 3:11 PM GMT
    Convert to Catholicism and date a priest. He'll appreciate your 13yo voice. icon_twisted.gif
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    Jul 04, 2014 4:00 PM GMT
    People need to stop beating themselves up for things they have no control over. We do have control over many things but some are just the way we are and we need to not only accept these things, but find a way to love those aspects of ourselves. I know this can be easier said than done, but it is definitely possible. I think the best way is to choose your friends carefully. If you have friends that make fun or criticize you, find different friends.

    That being said, I agree with David that certain aspects of your voice are changeable if that's what you want. But make sure you do it for yourself and not so other's will accept you.
  • nomad4life

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    Jul 04, 2014 4:02 PM GMT
    I did a lot of acting and voice lessons and changing voices for characters was part of the schtick. It can be done, but it's a pain sometimes and definitely not worth doing for daily life. I agree just bring it up front and be you, but if you REALLY want to try and change/disguise pitch, it can be done.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jul 04, 2014 4:32 PM GMT
    It doesn't do a lot for me, but on the other hand, I think it would be pretty ahallow to judge someone on their voice alone. I'd try and keep an open mind.
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    Jul 04, 2014 4:38 PM GMT
    Ever hear that expression "Looks like Tarzan, plays (or sounds) like Jane?" I love Muscle Marys.
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    Jul 04, 2014 4:42 PM GMT
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    Jul 04, 2014 4:43 PM GMT
    Scruffypup saidPeople need to stop beating themselves up for things they have no control over. We do have control over many things but some are just the way we are and we need to not only accept these things, but find a way to love those aspects of ourselves. I know this can be easier said than done, but it is definitely possible. I think the best way is to choose your friends carefully. If you have friends that make fun or criticize you, find different friends.

    That being said, I agree with David that certain aspects of your voice are changeable if that's what you want. But make sure you do it for yourself and not so other's will accept you.

    Great post.
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    Jul 04, 2014 5:22 PM GMT
    eagermuscle saidEver hear that expression "Looks like Tarzan, plays (or sounds) like Jane?" I love Muscle Marys.


    I've encountered this before and it actually makes me gasp icon_lol.gif
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    Jul 04, 2014 6:00 PM GMT
    My voice is low pitch and monotonous. I put people to sleep.icon_sad.gif
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    Jul 04, 2014 6:06 PM GMT
    After a night of drinking and talking loudly in a club the next day I have the most beautiful deep velvety voice. A friend once referred to it as whiskey baritone. I wish I could sound like that all the time with out becoming an alcoholic.

    In all seriously, seek the help of a voice coach if it is impacting your life that much Or practice reading allowed making a conscious effort to sound the way you like. You can retrain your voice.

    I was raised in an area where the people have a very pronounced accent and it is somewhat looked down upon by others because it sounds uneducated. It sounds uneducated because historically the people who speak with the accent were under educated, working class people. As subsequent generations became more affluent they were able to send their children to colleges and universities yet these educated children retained the accent because it is difficult to lose and accent acquired as a child. I was one of those children and received my fair share of ribbing because of it and so I was determined to overcome it. I would be mindful of my speech and pronunciation and eventually was able to change it somewhat. Now even locals may ask me where I'm from because they can't place the accent.

    However, just as Eliza Doolittle at the races, there are times when I'm over animated in my speech I will revert right back to the accent of my youth. Somethings are just so very much of a part of who you are.
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    Jul 04, 2014 6:51 PM GMT
    If someone is worried about being considered not so manly, it's not the pitch of his voice that matters, but all the character flaws and mood states he conveys when he speaks, including bitchiness, frivolity, neediness, harshness...
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    Jul 04, 2014 7:44 PM GMT
    bachian saidIf someone is worried about being considered not so manly, it's not the pitch of his voice that matters, but all the character flaws and mood states he conveys when he speaks, including bitchiness, frivolity, neediness, harshness...
    It's like they have this sign on their bathroom mirror:
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    Jul 04, 2014 9:22 PM GMT
    UndercoverMan said...

    However, just as Eliza Doolittle at the races, there are times when I'm over animated in my speech I will revert right back to the accent of my youth. Somethings are just so very much of a part of who you are.



    Come on, Dover! Move your bloomin' arse!
  • Joeyphx444

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    Jul 04, 2014 10:09 PM GMT
    Start smoking it will lower ur voice icon_razz.gif
  • Apparition

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    Jul 04, 2014 10:57 PM GMT
    tell them you r mike tyson