I need help!! Trust in my relationship!!

  • Andrew23

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    Jul 05, 2014 8:57 AM GMT
    So I've been with this guy for a while now. And he was at a friends place the other night and his friend had one of her friends there that my boyfriend had once hooked up with ages ago. I asked my boyfriend if he had heard from him lately and he said no not since we had been together. I had a bad guy feeling about it so when he left the room I checked his phone and he had been texting him the whole time he was at his friends place. This other guy was saying how much he loves him and wants to jump him so badly and all my boyfriend replied with was "it wouldn't be wise" "I can't tell you why" etc. I confronted him about it and we had a massive argument. The point is he lied to me about it and never told me he hooked up with him before cause he wasn't proud of it. But he should have been open with me in the first place. What should I do??? Should I contact this other guy and tell him to back off?? Please help!!!!
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    Jul 05, 2014 9:06 AM GMT
    So much information you're leaving out. What was the excuse he gave for lying to you? Why did he tell the guy "I can't tell you why?" Why did you distrust him to begin with? I take it he's done things in the past to cause you to not trust him?

  • Andrew23

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    Jul 05, 2014 10:19 AM GMT
    He excuse was he wasn't proud for hooking up with him, that's why he didn't tell me he had been talking to him or that he hooked up with him. He said that he can't say because the other guy was asking why couldn't they get together, but yet my boyfriend didn't say we were together.. And as for not trusting him. I do, I just noticed after a while that he was funny about me seeing what was on his phone and my intuition was telling me something isn't right
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    Jul 05, 2014 10:45 AM GMT
    dont bring the third boy into this.

    anyways sorry for your loss.

    your realjock profile:
    Relationship Status: Single
    Looking for: Friends, Hookup, Online Chat, Web Cam



    Not a lot of information here.
    Is it just you found out about him but given time would you cheat on him too. I dont know how much investment you two guys have in each other but if you love him talk it through.
  • Andrew23

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    Jul 05, 2014 11:31 AM GMT
    They both don't have anything to do with realjock. We are both very invested in each other but my boyfriend not telling me about any of it is making me question can I trust him not to talk to anyone else like that?? And should I tell the other guy to back off??
  • tj85016

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    Jul 05, 2014 1:15 PM GMT
    actually, the other guy has nothing to do with your situation

    it's between you and your boy friend - good luck with everything
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    Jul 05, 2014 1:41 PM GMT
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    All he had to say to the guy was "sorry, I have a boyfriend" and that would have been the end of it. But he didn't. Sorry to say this but if he were really into you, he would have said that to the guy looking for a hookup. Huge red flag is waving in your face. Most people ignore them and prolong the hurt. What will you do with it?
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    Jul 05, 2014 4:19 PM GMT
    A guy goes through his BF's cell phone. He also has an RJ profile that says he's single, looking for hook-ups and web camming. But he asks us whether he can trust his BF??? icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jul 06, 2014 8:36 PM GMT
    Art_Deco saidA guy goes through his BF's cell phone. He also has an RJ profile that says he's single, looking for hook-ups and web camming. But he asks us whether he can trust his BF??? icon_rolleyes.gif

    This, except without the sarcasm and judgmental attitude.
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    Jul 07, 2014 9:09 PM GMT
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    Art_Deco saidA guy goes through his BF's cell phone. He also has an RJ profile that says he's single, looking for hook-ups and web camming. But he asks us whether he can trust his BF??? icon_rolleyes.gif

    This, except without the sarcasm and judgmental attitude.


    This, coming from YOU?