I don't insist on versatility because I don't have sex with people really (boring I know lol) but I did give oral and then that was it so I was a bit like is that it? I don't usually like receiving anyway but this wasn't a stranger so I felt comfortable enough for it to happen and then it didn't so I guess I was disappointed.
If there's a next time maybe it will happen but I was with someone for a year (no penetration) and I would perform oral all the time and in that whole year I never got anything like that. He literally never even did any of that so I'm starting to wonder if most gay men are just a bit selfish.
Yeah, um, it can be or it may come off that way but I don't think it necessarily a matter of selfishness but more likely a matter of chemistry. And this is where open relationships can be practical because not everyone meets all of everyone else's needs. And people connect at different levels at different times in different ways. And relationships don't all fit in a bottle. Life is not a jigsaw puzzle of nothing but corner pieces. We connect in differing ways depending upon the adjacent pieces.
Two guys who are naturally versatile and similarly turned on by each other, well, they might be more polite (in your terminology) and return the favor more frequently. But not everyone connects like that and even among those who do not all of them connect like that with everyone they connect with or all the time. If sex becomes a chore, or if you feel cheated, the relationship might not last or you find other ways to make it work so you don't lose what you have.
Some people might get the fairy tale ending--good for them--but life is often more real.