House hunting questions

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    Jul 09, 2014 3:32 AM GMT
    These recent months for me have made it more and more appealing to move out. I've never done this before, and I was looking for some advice on what I should ask or look for in apartment/room mate. I probably will not have the luxury of moving in with a friend, so I don't really have anyone to explain this to my liking.

    I understand a lot of it will be according to my taste, but I'm sure there are some general guidelines for house hunting.

    A few questions that come to mind:
    - Would it be better for me to get the rent under my name, or be a roommate?
    - If I don't care for TV or cable, are there typically options for just internet?
    - How do you handle your homosexuality with roommates? Is it better to just keep it to yourself, or do you mention it from the beginning?
    - Being an exMormon can set up a lot of heated arguments with Mormons (Apostasy can be a very big deal for them.). Half the population of Utah is Mormon. I'm trying to distance myself from that culture while I finish up school because, due to several traumas I've endured, I can get extremely passionate about the topic. Is it appropriate to ask whether or not a roommate prescribes to a particular faith, or should I be more subtle about it? Despite my progress in letting it go, it is still a very potent trigger for me. I'd obviously rather not have an easy spot of contention between me and my roommates.
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    Jul 09, 2014 5:04 AM GMT
    AutumnalStride saidThese recent months for me have made it more and more appealing to move out. I've never done this before, and I was looking for some advice on what I should ask or look for in apartment/room mate. I probably will not have the luxury of moving in with a friend, so I don't really have anyone to explain this to my liking.

    I understand a lot of it will be according to my taste, but I'm sure there are some general guidelines for house hunting.

    A few questions that come to mind:
    - Would it be better for me to get the rent under my name, or be a roommate?
    - If I don't care for TV or cable, are there typically options for just internet?
    - How do you handle your homosexuality with roommates? Is it better to just keep it to yourself, or do you mention it from the beginning?
    - Being an exMormon can set up a lot of heated arguments with Mormons (Apostasy can be a very big deal for them.). Half the population of Utah is Mormon. I'm trying to distance myself from that culture while I finish up school because, due to several traumas I've endured, I can get extremely passionate about the topic. Is it appropriate to ask whether or not a roommate prescribes to a particular faith, or should I be more subtle about it? Despite my progress in letting it go, it is still a very potent trigger for me. I'd obviously rather not have an easy spot of contention between me and my roommates.

    - Would it be better for me to get the rent under my name, or be a roommate?
    ## Noooo. The lease should have ALL roommates on it. If it's under your name only, and your roommate turns out to be a dick and bails, then you're on the hook for the whole rent. And your credit will get dinged. The same with all utilities and cable/internet.

    - If I don't care for TV or cable, are there typically options for just internet?
    ## Yes. Cable providers sell internet only connections. They'll try to lure you into cable/tv/phone bundles. But if you don't watch TV and use a cell phone only, then why waste money on those things.

    - How do you handle your homosexuality with roommates? Is it better to just keep it to yourself, or do you mention it from the beginning?
    ## Be honest about it before moving in or signing a lease. If you wait to tell him after moving in, he might not take the news so well. Also, what are you going to do about dating? "Oh, sorry we can't hang out my apartment. My roommate is straight and doesn't know I'm gay. He might flip out if he see us cuddling."

    - Being an exMormon can set up a lot of heated arguments with Mormons
    ## I don't know what to tell you here. Don't let your past become a cloud over your head. Most people probably won't care. They only care who you are today.

    Also, don't limit yourself to only gay roommates. Straight chicks and some straight guys will be ok with you being gay. It's a little more work and will require being more aware of everyone's thoughts/feelings. Also, NO COUPLES. Don't ever get a house or apartment with couples. Non-stop drama. Or if you find that your roommate's boyfriend or girlfriend is spending too much time there, then you better squash that shit fast. Next thing you know, they'll move in and not pay rent.
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    Jul 09, 2014 6:59 AM GMT
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    - Would it be better for me to get the rent under my name, or be a roommate?
    ## Noooo. The lease should have ALL roommates on it. If it's under your name only, and your roommate turns out to be a dick and bails, then you're on the hook for the whole rent. And your credit will get dinged. The same with all utilities and cable/internet.


    Hmm... but the landlord can still legally evict you both if one of you doesn't pay even if both of you sign. I only see advantages so far to being the sole signer of the lease because you have the ability to evict toxic or irresponsible roommates. Unless I'm reading the laws wrong.
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    Jul 09, 2014 1:34 PM GMT
    its all in the interview process where you talk to your prospective roommate(s). Consider getting a girl. Either case you have to say your gay up front, he will figure it out in a few days otherwise.

    Draft a roommate agreement. Get some examples from Nolo books. If a legal agreement stick to none emotional things. Like when is the rent due, what happens if you want him to leave. who pays what utilities. Does he give you a deposit...