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    Sep 27, 2007 12:24 PM GMT
    Hi everyone,

    Seeing as we all find something to complain about, I would like to test the waters with a new topic and find out:
    What is the best thing about being gay in your country?
    What do you believe makes your gay subculture unique and exceptional? What makes you proud about being gay in the US/UK/Aus/NZ/SA or anywhere else for that matter.

    I believe it would be interesting to see what you guys come up with...
    For me it is the amount of freedom that we enjoy in South Africa in terms of being able to be open about who and what we are. Having Civil Unions legalised of course is a HUGE deal for us and I believe that we have paved the way and (hopefully) played a big part in equality in Africa for all.

    So come on, let's share the good stuff and forget about the negative, even if just for a while.
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  • cdnclub

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    Sep 27, 2007 3:28 PM GMT
    Living in Canada as a gay person is pretty good I guess. We have gay marriage, are protected by law from discrimination much like other minorities. I live an openly gay lifestyle and have been out to co-workers, family and friends for about 20 yrs and I am by no means a trail blazer as far as sticking up for the rights of gay people. There are many types of social groups for gay people I could join like water polo, out and about (where they organise different types of outdoor activities for weekends etc..), base ball, soccer, curling, and the list goes on. I don’t take advantage of any of it. We have openly gay people in politics. I feel like I have no barriers in my life because I am gay. I am complacent. We have a large gay pride parade, usually about 1 million including spectators…I don’t go..unless you include the beer gardens..lol. I am sure that it’s harder to be gay in smaller cities and towns, but I think it’s like that anywhere. It might be time for Gay activists in Canada to start to look outside our borders and help support fledgling gay communities elsewhere…like Haiti, or Guatemala. Other than becoming more visible in every day society, and staying out of the closet, I don’t know what else needs to be done in Canada in order to expand whatever rights we may be being cheated out of.
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    Sep 27, 2007 3:36 PM GMT
    I agree with most of what Cdnclub said (makes sense we are from the same city!), Canada has turned the corner re. its' attitude towards gays. In Toronto I am increasingly seeing gay couples walking hand-in-hand down the street and they are not in the gay ghetto! In some parts of Canada there is still significant homophobia (e.g. Alberta) but most Canadians see them as on the fringe.

    The best part of living in Toronto is having the opportunity to participate in a wide variety of sports with other gay people. I played softball this summer, I am now playing volleyball, and I am thinking of joining soccer next year. It is alot of fun in a non-intimidating, open environment, and I get to meet new people.
  • art_smass

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    Sep 27, 2007 5:08 PM GMT
    Yes, we're all hayseeds and hicks in Alberta.

    Two-thirds of Alberta's population resides in Edmonton and Calgary. Both are vibrant cities with healthy gay communities. Our fiscally-conservative government is often confused with a morally-conservative government. However, this is the home of Sunday shopping and the eighteen-year-old drinking age. If we're so behind Toronto, then why are we the first to actually embrace liberal values, rather than give lip-service to an ideology? Our only problem seems to be how Toronto perceives us.

    Canada is a great place. I've been going to gay bars since the early 80s and I've never seen a lot of ugliness here, aside from the makeup on a couple of drag queens. Homophobia is everywhere, but for the most part people in this country are quite content to live and let live.
  • Nudista

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    Sep 27, 2007 5:28 PM GMT
    I wasn't aware that Canada was so advanced in their "equal rights" ...wow, what a great place to visit among many other reasons!
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    Sep 27, 2007 5:44 PM GMT
    The best thing about being gay in the US is that you're the envy of every other kid on your block.
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    Sep 27, 2007 5:52 PM GMT
    "Gay in the USA": -- Smells like teen sumthin'.
  • GQjock

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    Sep 27, 2007 9:31 PM GMT
    Yeah... aero
    diluted Calvin Klein, cigarette butts and jockstraps

    Best of gay life in America... the Gay Men n'cest pas?
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    Sep 27, 2007 9:38 PM GMT
    Oui, oui, GQ, mon ami...

    One of the great things about being gay in Canada is that the USonian boys are right next door and that they visit frequently.

    One of the best things about USonian gay boys is that they almost always "need to be back home the day after tomorrow." ;-)
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    Sep 27, 2007 9:41 PM GMT
    Well, there's no sense delaying something until tomorrow when you can postpone it for two days.
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    Sep 27, 2007 10:03 PM GMT
    Currently, it seems like 95% of US residents want to have a gay friend. We've become a fabulous accessory all of a sudden.
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    Sep 27, 2007 10:11 PM GMT
    Speak for yourself. I was born that way.
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    Sep 27, 2007 10:14 PM GMT
    One of the best things about living in the US is that Montreal, Toronto, and Vancouver have fabulous gay villages you can visit right across the border.icon_biggrin.gif Lots and lots of cute gay guys to play with.icon_biggrin.gif

    One of the best things about living in the US is that after a weekend in Montreal, Toronto, or Vancouver, you can go back to the USA.icon_lol.gif

    Sorry Aero, after your comment I could't resist!

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    RuggerATX wrote: "Currently, it seems like 95% of US residents want to have a gay friend. We've become a fabulous accessory all of a sudden."

    As long as we conform to their stereotypes and don't push for equal rights or marriage.

    I think you are right in one sense - we have become the must have fashion accessory de jour.

    R
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    Sep 27, 2007 10:14 PM GMT
    This isn't restricted to any one country, but one of the things I think is great about being gay is that it challenges us to think about ourselves and our lives.

    For straights, the whole story of their lives is laid out for them. All of society supports them. And they are never challenged within themselves to examine their lives.

    But for gays, we start to notice as we grow up that what we see around us and what society is telling us isn't how we feel. So we are forced to examine ourselves and question our central choices that we make in life.

    I have wondered if that is why gays seem so creative. Because they are used to questioning and challenging the rules that are just handed to them.
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    Sep 28, 2007 5:55 PM GMT
    Caslon: I feel grateful to be gay. I actually feel lucky, but I never could pinpoint why. I just thought it made me more interesting I guess. But I think you really hit it on the head. Most of us have such a strong sense of self because we were forced to deal with deep questions early in life. Thanks for pointing this out.
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    Sep 28, 2007 9:12 PM GMT
    One thing that makes me proud and happy to be Gay in the US is all you guys on Realjock, even allowing for all the Canadians, Europeans, South Americans, etc., who happily are also members. You are a great community of smart, independent, witty, built and good-looking guys (I do not include myself in that last description), and any nation should be delighted to have you among its citizens.
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    Sep 29, 2007 1:33 AM GMT
    Personally, being gay is more than just a fabulous cliche- it's who we are as a person inside. The human world percieve's life as everchanging and growing, newer generations are becoming more open minded about little things like that- someday, eventually it will become even better just the same as we sought fifty years ago.

    I love being who I am, and acceptance starts within oneself.

    -javier