Are you ON or OFF of Grindr and why so?

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    Jul 10, 2014 5:37 PM GMT
    I'll admit I got caught up in the whole experience that is Grindr. But in the end I'm no longer a fan.

    Sure it can be used for dating, but from a simple lay man's point of view it's used predominantly as a hookup site. Nothing wrong if that's what you're looking for but what leaves much to be desired is some of the users and how technology has served as a catalyst to dial down their social skills.

    •Who in the hell introduces themselves to a complete stranger and shields their face? Guys on Grindr do! You're on a site with other guys-who are you hiding from!!!???

    •How about your first sentence/question being: 'How hung?' Or 'more pics?' Really!!!???

    •Go out to a bar and everyone is on their phone trying to see who is nearby instead of just approaching that attractive guy over there and striking up an actual conversation. Novel idea huh?

    Somehow this exhibiting lack of social skill is becoming more commonplace now that one can hide behind technology. Yet these same actions aren't acceptable in physical person to person interactions.

    My Grindr: Joining a few Meetup groups and actually interacting with people. Going back to hosting get togethers at my place inviting friends to bring a friend.
    And when and if stepping foot into a bar, to actually say a verbal hello to someone.

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    Jul 11, 2014 2:50 PM GMT
    I would admit that I was mostly on Grindr for the attention & ego trip...Don't judge me...Horny people are so creative icon_rolleyes.gif

    It just gets old and way too sleazy at times...The last message I got on it before deleting it again is "Exchanging recording studio time for some good ass", I thought that was...clever.

    But yeah, it is indeed a hookup app to which I always get drawn too at some point for multiple reasons.
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    Jul 11, 2014 3:48 PM GMT
    Off, because I got burned out with frantically searching for random hookups.

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    Jul 11, 2014 4:10 PM GMT
    Off. I'm not looking to hook up and nobody believes you or wants to talk to you if you say that on there. It's a shame because the technology is cool, but - guys being guys - that's what it is.

    I don't think I'd use it even if I was single, and I don't like what it's doing to socializing or the bar scene, nor the "no fats, no fems" lookist, racist tone many people put in their profiles. I was at a dinner where one member of a (then) couple was oogling guys and flirting with them while his partner was two chairs away.

    I wrote about this a while back:

    http://vergeofjordan.blogspot.com/2014/01/saving-igays.html

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    Jul 11, 2014 6:53 PM GMT
    I've never been on grinr just because I don't have a cell phone and it's probably for the best.

    It was, like, five years ago before grindr that gay.com was an actual community where you could make acquaintances, have conversations and it was full of a lot of people.

    I can imagine it could be fun at a bar, though--instead of creepily scoping out everyone by eyeing them, you can just look at everyone on grindr and send a msg to see if there's interest.
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    Jul 11, 2014 7:02 PM GMT
    I hate the app with a passion. It does nothing but fuel my insecurities, and make me feel like a cheap bit of fun.
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    Jul 11, 2014 7:03 PM GMT
    I am on there now and then just to check out the crowd. There are some great guys/profiles on there though. I had 2 short mini-dates from Grindr, the guys seemed okay. It's just another portal to use and meet guys, state up front that you don't want to hook up if you don't want any booty call.
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    Jul 11, 2014 7:11 PM GMT
    I'm surprised nobody uses grindr for hook-ups.

    You are all respectable gentlemen.
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    Jul 11, 2014 8:55 PM GMT
    Grindr is what you make of it and most have made it into a hookup site. Whatever.

    It's just that guys pull moves on there that in person they'd get a good ass kicking.

    * introducing self without photo
    * sending d**k and ass pics unsolicited
    * masc only / no whites/ no blacks/......

    We're all entitled to our preferences but it's all in the presentation.

    Social skills go down the crapper.

    Meh!

    Besides I had to catch myself. I was wasting a lot of valuable time on there
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    Jul 11, 2014 8:56 PM GMT
    Off of it...got sick of competiting against profiles that are more than likley fake...and sick of handing dudes attention... Cause at the end of the day that's what most of the dudes in my area only wanted....
    Also can't believe how many non single guys are on these apps...you don't got on an app like this to "make friends"
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    Jul 11, 2014 9:12 PM GMT
    Jms31 saidI hate the app with a passion. It does nothing but fuel my insecurities, and make me feel like a cheap bit of fun.


    Its better to feel like an expensive, high class bit of fun... icon_cool.gif
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    Jul 11, 2014 9:27 PM GMT
    ForRealNoReally saidI'm surprised nobody uses grindr for hook-ups.

    You are all respectable gentlemen.
    Thanks for calling me a nobody. icon_cry.gif
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    Jul 11, 2014 9:35 PM GMT
    i loaded it up once to be social and try to make some local friends. everyone loved me for it! hah hah. hah.
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    Jul 11, 2014 9:46 PM GMT
    I have used it on and off in the past year, thought it was pretty cool at first but now I've deleted it and I'm done with it..
    if you're lucky you will possibly find 2-3 decent people on there in your whole app experience.
    And most people will just annoy you if you don't reply.. some people just don't understand that if one does reply they are simply not interested! ..
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    Jul 11, 2014 9:46 PM GMT
    Never tried it. Why use grindr when we got RJ. ;-)

    Although my friend on here said he made a good platonic friend through grindr.
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    Jul 11, 2014 10:16 PM GMT
    DtotheS84 saidOff of it...got sick of competiting against profiles that are more than likley fake...and sick of handing dudes attention... Cause at the end of the day that's what most of the dudes in my area only wanted....
    Also can't believe how many non single guys are on these apps...you don't got on an app like this to "make friends"


    I made it clear in my profile that guys who are committed, open relationship, discreet, or looking will not get a response from me, and made it clear what I want out of this. I've gotten some really good dates from it, and I think i found a really good guy. So, yea icon_smile.gif
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    Jul 11, 2014 11:36 PM GMT
    paulflexes said
    ForRealNoReally saidI'm surprised nobody uses grindr for hook-ups.

    You are all respectable gentlemen.
    Thanks for calling me a nobody. icon_cry.gif


    Shame! Let's all point at him in silence.
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    Jul 12, 2014 4:47 PM GMT
    I used to be on grindr but now I'm off it after surprisingly meeting my boyfriend off there. We didn't start off as a hook up and went on a couple of dates and talked for a couple of weeks before we did anything. We basically had an actual courtship. Before I meet him I wasn't fond of grindr because all of the above did happen to me and is still at this point to me is predominately a hookup app. I guess in the end it's all in how you interact with people and if you manage to come across the random decent guy.
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    Jul 12, 2014 6:29 PM GMT
    I sat down with my tablet the just the other day and literally deleted EVERYTHING. I'm convinced its the city itself that made my app experiences so awful. In a city known around the world as the place to get shitfaced and hook-up I don't know why I thought I'd be able to meet decent guys. That and people are f*cking stupid...do you know how many times I got accused of being fake?? F*ck that sh*t!

    The irony is that when I delete online profiles or the like I always blank the profile first and since some apps REQUIRE a photo, i took one of a lamp in my bedroom.

    In the 5 minutes between adding that pic and deleting my profile i got a half a dozen messages to my profile. People make me sick
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    Jul 12, 2014 10:07 PM GMT
    Yeah, what's up with guys on any site that don't have face pics? Grndr, A4A etc that expect a response when they have no pics! Isn't it common sense that if you have ZERO pics you are likely to get ZERO responses?
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    Jul 12, 2014 10:15 PM GMT
    Guys who don't load pics on Grindr or other sites likely do so for 4 of these reasons.

    1/ They don't want to be judged based on their look.
    2/ They want to be anonymous ? (being straight, not outed or whatever)
    3/ They want to judge other pics first before sending out their own pics.
    4/ They're just lurkers, trolls.

    I usually just delete or block weirdo guys who have no pics or likely troll hidden members.

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    Jul 13, 2014 12:47 AM GMT
    LAXWill10 saidGuys who don't load pics on Grindr or other sites likely do so for 4 of these reasons.

    1/ They don't want to be judged based on their look.

    That's crazy!!! So is the thought that if I can just have someone appreciate me for my conversation skills they won't care about how I look!

    2/ They want to be anonymous ? (being straight, not outed or whatever)

    Unless you're an opponent(politician, church leader, etc) to gay stuff, then who in the hell are you hiding from!!!??? If someone wants to out someone, that means they'd also have to admit that they're on the site as well.

    3/ They want to judge other pics first before sending out their own pics.
    Yet they fail to realize that if it wasn't for a pic of someone they're interested in, they probably wouldn't be inclined to inquire further anyway.
    4/ They're just lurkers, trolls.

    Yeah!

    I usually just delete or block weirdo guys who have no pics or likely troll hidden members.



  • Trontastic

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    Jul 13, 2014 5:29 AM GMT
    I have a grinder. Its sitting at the back of my cupboard though from disuse. I really should buy some peppercorns for it...
  • Expat22

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    Jul 13, 2014 6:57 AM GMT
    Off it.. Used to be on there but as someone said - felt too cheap. No you may not come over, and no I do not take Euro.
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    Jul 13, 2014 7:37 AM GMT
    Off at the moment - my boss uses it and he lives quite near me, and I am not out at work. I am on scruff though.