Am I gay or bi?

  • GoodGuyTN

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    Jul 11, 2014 12:25 AM GMT
    I just recently got out of a traditional marriage of 23 years! My ex is a wonderful, intelligent person. We simply fell out of love. We have a son in college. He is still our priority. I have several gay and bi friends. Some are partnered and some aren't. Those that are partnered seem exceptionally happy, well adjusted and all around pleased with their life. I see their relationship and do wish that I had something similar.

    I didn't fool around while I was married. Couldn't do that to a partner! However, I have fooled around with a few guys since the divorce was final. It was a lot of fun and extremely exciting. Guys seem to know what guys like! Go figure. I also see women that cause a flush in me! Haven't "dated" since the divorce.

    Opinions? Am I gay or bi? Or, am I simply confused?

    Knowing this is a site for gay relationships, I'd be interested in hearing some opinions. I'm closeted presently and couldn't dream of coming out right now.

    Guys, share your thoughts! I'm new to this and am trying to figure it out.
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    Jul 11, 2014 12:46 AM GMT
    Again and again, there are nice forums out there for bisexuals, for example : http://www.shybi-guys.com/forum/

    There are many many people just like you who are divorced and exploring themselves as bisexual, bi-romantic, queer, two-spirited, transgendered, you name it.

    Remember that sexuality is regarded by some as being fluid, especially if one identifies as bi. Moreover, it is socially constructed (just like gender) and can be challenged in many ways.

    Again it is up to you to really discover yourself, accept, and live your life to the fullest.
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    Jul 11, 2014 1:52 AM GMT
    Just do what you dig and ditch the label.

    The labeling yourself part will only bring you misery.
  • buddycat

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    Jul 11, 2014 7:13 AM GMT
    What do you think? Are you gay or bi? You sound bi to me. I certainly don't get flushed over women.
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    Jul 11, 2014 7:20 AM GMT
    GAMRican saidJust do what you dig and ditch the label.

    The labeling yourself part will only bring you misery.
    interesting topicicon_smile.gif Agreed wholeheartedly with quoted statement. Ditch the label. It hurt. Doesn't heal.
  • frogman89

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    Jul 11, 2014 9:19 AM GMT
    "Am I gay or bi?" - No one can answer that question but you.